Dating Chinese men
The other day, you told me how people constantly ask you, “Why would you date Chinese men?” You sounded tired of it.
I cried for hours. Every time I thought about him, my eyes watered and I had to swallow the pain I felt deep in my chest. I know I can only blame myself.
After years in China, I’d given up on finding a mainland Chinese guy. There were still cuties, but I knew that the cultural aspect was mafan (trouble).
I could feel your heartbreak in the messages you sent to me. I know what it’s like. I’ve had Asian boyfriends break up with me out of the blue.
The cultural differences are too big between me and the local Danes. I’ll have to wait for my prince charming, who’s probably sitting on a Beijing subway.
“I really want to kiss you, Ava, but I’m scared that I might get AIDS because all Africans have AIDS.” I was literally struck dumb at his ignorance.
It’s fascinating that a relationship could either be really simple, or incredibly complicated and worthy of long discussions, depending on your culture.
The story of Tiger and Lea, whose 11-year flirtation has tugged them back and forth between divorces, difficult marriages and less-than-perfect timing.
Guest Post: My Relationship Ideals Were a Smorgasbord of Western & Eastern Values, All Torn Down by Him
Jocelyn Wong writes, “I didn’t realise I could compromise my core values for a man. But what can I say? I was stupidly in love.”
in China, I found the sexiest men that I’d ever known. It took crossing an entire ocean to realize that my assumptions about dating in China were a lie.