Chapter 49: Winter Showers and Different Living Standards

Living at John’s home in China’s countryside was different than what I’d known — from showers to even the living room. But as I pondered the excesses of American life, I wondered — whose standard is right?

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Chapter 46: Cold Nights in the Chinese Countryside

I never felt such a bitter cold until I went to my Chinese boyfriend’s countryside hometown for Chinese New Year — and discovered I was too embarrassed to ask for more warmth at night, afraid his parents would look down on me.

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Ask the Yangxifu: Your Chinese Boyfriend’s Parents Say No?

A European girl, who came to China to mend her heartbreak, found love in a Chinese man — but not his parents, who refuse to accept a foreign girl dating their son. Ask the Yangxifu offers advice on how to understand, and overcome, parental refusal.

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Chapter 44: Finding Comfort In a Strange Chinese Countryside

I felt like an anachronism visiting my Chinese boyfriend’s countryside home for the first time, with everything so strange to me. Yet, I was surprised to discover an unusual gesture his parents made, to make me feel welcome and comfortable.

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Chapter 43: Going to John’s China Hometown

John’s ancestors come from the area near Huangshan — one of China’s most impressive mountains. But his family lives in a countryside ravaged by economic development. I see this first-hand when I visit during Chinese New Year, 2003.

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Chapter 41: Losing Jobs and Gaining Chinese Friends

As I lost my job in the Chinese Internet company, Frank, my ex-Chinese boyfriend, became closer to management. I never thought Frank would understand, and didn’t see how we could stay friends, until one harried night when I left the company.

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China Blogs by Western Women who Love Chinese Men

As we remember the women who make a difference in our world, there’s one minority voice we shouldn’t forget — the Western women who love Chinese men.

China blogs are still a man’s world, so our voices are often lost in the comments and trackbacks. But Western women who love Chinese men have a unique perspective to a woman’s experience in China — which makes their blogs even more valuable in the blogsphere. Here’s my list, in alphabetical order (according to the blog’s name).

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Chapter 31: An Unintended Splash at the Hangzhou Pool

As a foreigner in China, sometimes you touch people in ways you never realized. Something you say or do in a moment — a small, forgettable thing to you — becomes a lasting impression to someone else.

I never realized that when I spoke Mandarin Chinese at the pool in Hangzhou, I would become a sensation online at Zhejiang University.

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