Chapter 30: One Lonely, Post-Thanksgiving Saturday in China

When you live in China, sometimes foreign holidays can be lonely. I discovered a loneliness after Thanksgiving passed me without a celebration or nod from my Chinese coworkers, and without my Chinese boyfriend by my side.

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Chapter 29: An Indecent English Teaching Proposal

When you’re a foreigner in China, the most common phrase you might hear is: “Can you teach me English?” My Chinese neighbor wanted me to, even though she never seemed serious about it. But over tea one evening, she embarrassed me about not following through, and left me wondering about her indecent proposal.

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Chapter 27: I Don’t Need Your Mianzi

Giving face — or mianzi — in China can be puzzling. When I tried to give my Chinese neighbors face, by introducing them to my foreign friends, they actually thought it was an opportunity for them to give me face, when I never asked for it.

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Ask the Yangxifu: How Western Women Can Meet Chinese Men in China

How can Western women meet Chinese men in China? Jocelyn, a Western woman with a Chinese husband, gives some advice on places to go, people who can help, and ways you can make yourself more attractive.

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Chapter 26: Hello, Foreigner – and Goodbye, Generosity

Sometimes you misunderstand China, or China misunderstands you. When out with an old classmate of my Chinese boyfriend, he misunderstands my response to being singled out as a foreigner, and gives me a less-than-generous lecture.

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On the Rarity of Foreign Women and Chinese Boyfriends/Chinese Husbands

Couples of Chinese men and Western women are a rarity. Why is that? Jocelyn, an American who has a Chinese husband, explores the reasons, from stereotypes to cultural barriers.

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