foreigners in China
Advice for, and stories about, foreigners in China. From one Western woman with a Chinese husband.
When you’re married to a Chinese national, there are the experiences you get to be privilege to — and wish you weren’t. Like a funeral in China.
In Chinese, yangxifu (洋媳妇) refers to foreign women married to Chinese men. And in China, the mention of yangxifu can sometimes light up the toughest people.
I was raised in the Midwestern US. Yet now I live in China’s countryside with my Chinese husband and his family, where I’ve learned some surprising things.
My Chinese family, including my husband, prefers that I stay around the home here in China. They say it’s for my safety…but it’s for theirs too.
Though I still equate the word “invitation” with notice, I’m learning to appreciate the beauty in a sudden invite, like my big uncle’s dinner in China.
John’s Grandma has never hugged or kissed me, nor told me she loves me. But these days — and especially after this dinner — I’ve never felt closer to her.