foreigners in China
Advice for, and stories about, foreigners in China. From one Western woman with a Chinese husband.
When you’re a Western woman in China, it’s amazing what some people (especially Chinese men) will say to you in the very first moments you meet.
After years in China, there’s one thing I’ve learned – many of the locals, including the local men, have some rather fascinating ideas about Western women.
When you’re married to a Chinese national, there are the experiences you get to be privilege to — and wish you weren’t. Like a funeral in China.
In Chinese, yangxifu (洋媳妇) refers to foreign women married to Chinese men. And in China, the mention of yangxifu can sometimes light up the toughest people.
I was raised in the Midwestern US. Yet now I live in China’s countryside with my Chinese husband and his family, where I’ve learned some surprising things.
My Chinese family, including my husband, prefers that I stay around the home here in China. They say it’s for my safety…but it’s for theirs too.
Though I still equate the word “invitation” with notice, I’m learning to appreciate the beauty in a sudden invite, like my big uncle’s dinner in China.
John’s Grandma has never hugged or kissed me, nor told me she loves me. But these days — and especially after this dinner — I’ve never felt closer to her.