Chapter 1: My Heart is Shut Away, My Chinese Boyfriend is Gone

I felt isolated and alone after I broke up with Frank, my Chinese boyfriend and deskmate. My Chinese friends, Caroline and John, took me away on a trip to console me — but it was the beginning of a relationship I never saw coming.

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“Zao sheng guizi”: the pressure of having babies in a Chinese family

Here I am, a girl who never had a strong “maternal instinct” or drive to have children, in a Chinese family and culture that sees pregnancy and birth as a prerequisite, instead of an elective.

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The Grass is Greener?: when the romance ends, and China’s reality begins

After living with John, my Chinese boyfriend, for more than two years in Shanghai — and marrying him — I experienced the difficulties of an average Chinese through him.

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Giving Gifts to your Chinese family – A Modest Guide

What gifts should you give to your Chinese family? Jocelyn, who has a Chinese husband, gives suggestions for everyone, from the grandparents and parents to sisters and brothers.

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The emotional yin-yang: Of one calm Chinese husband, and a sensitive American wife

Could a Chinese guy ever love an American girl who is emotional, and isn’t afraid to cry? I began to wonder, after one Chinese man chastised me for being too emotional, ending our relationship.

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