Chapter 16: Foreign Girlfriend or Fascinating Moonlight Tale?

Was I asking too much, to be the foreign girlfriend of a Chinese man? I wondered, after he told me his parents thought we shouldn’t date.

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Chapter 15: Climbing Back Into Love With John

My Chinese boyfriend John and I didn’t just climb a mountain that afternoon — we climbed back into love, after a morning when I wondered if my shadows would push him away.

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Chapter 13: Different Eggplant, Different Cultural Expectations

Sometimes, cultural expectations in China will surprise you. I cooked eggplant for my Chinese boyfriend, John, and the result wasn’t what either of us expected.

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Chapter 12: What is Buried Beneath Our Hearts, and Lakes, in China

Sometimes, in cross-cultural love in China, we are so lost in the adventure that we cannot see what is buried beneath the surface of our hearts.

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Chapter 11: Exes in China Make Bad Friends

It’s tough to be friends with your ex in China. I didn’t want to admit it, but I’d turned my back on Frank, my ex-Chinese boyfriend, that night of my birthday, and later with a careless text message.

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Chapter 10: Did I Ask John to Move In?

My Chinese boyfriend moved himself in only days after our first kiss. I loved him and was happy to have him — but I couldn’t help but feel surprised.

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Chapter 9: Of Birthday Stares and Undeniable Love for John

With my burgundy qipao, up-do and bouquet of flowers, I became the talk of the teahouse during my birthday celebration. But it was the love on my face for John, my new Chinese boyfriend, that gave my relationship away.

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Chapter 8: John is My Chinese Boyfriend

John becomes my Chinese boyfriend beside Hangzhou’s West Lake, when the night sky makes China forget we are a Western woman and Chinese man.

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Chapter 6: I’ll be watching you in China

Did your Chinese friend or lover ever charm you with their reliability — that they would be there for you, even to see your bus off? John, my Chinese coworker, was always watching for me, as his way of showing he cared.

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