Chapter 4: The Embarrassment of Love in China

Sometimes love is so embarrassing in China, you have to laugh. I did when my twentysomething Chinese friends teased me about the possibility of love, with a Chinese man.

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Chapter 3: Shortcomings

I love my Chinese man, in all of his stature, now, but I had doubts when I first realized I was taller than him. Could I live with a short Chinese boyfriend?

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Chapter 2: My Chinese Matchmaker, Caroline

Did your Chinese friends ever play matchmaker for you? After a failed relationship with a Chinese man, Caroline was determined to help find me someone better — even if it meant playing matchmaker to me.

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Chapter 1: My Heart is Shut Away, My Chinese Boyfriend is Gone

I felt isolated and alone after I broke up with Frank, my Chinese boyfriend and deskmate. My Chinese friends, Caroline and John, took me away on a trip to console me — but it was the beginning of a relationship I never saw coming.

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“Zao sheng guizi”: the pressure of having babies in a Chinese family

Here I am, a girl who never had a strong “maternal instinct” or drive to have children, in a Chinese family and culture that sees pregnancy and birth as a prerequisite, instead of an elective.

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