While I have happily met and married my Asian Mr. Right, I have found my case to be rather rare among Western women living abroad.
in China, I found the sexiest men that I’d ever known. It took crossing an entire ocean to realize that my assumptions about dating in China were a lie.
“I’ve given some thought as to why I assumed I’d never find a man to date in China, an assumption that many western women living in Asia seem to make.”
“The nuclear secrets. I know you came here to steal from us…. You’re Chinese, I know you are,” he says quietly, triumphantly, like he’s got me checkmated.
Shanghainese husbands are supposedly some of the best in the world. But how should we feel about this when the reasons could come across as emasculating?
Gerald writes: “I replied that I’d had an interest in Chinese culture…. She then asked me if by interest in Chinese culture, I actually meant the girls.”
Some say the effeminization of Asian men in the media could be traced to backlash over Hollywood’s 1st sex symbol, a Japanese man named Sessue Hayakawa.
My article titled “Why Won’t Western Women Date Chinese Men?” (a personal take on a subject close to my heart) was just published in The Huffington Post!
After years in China, there’s one thing I’ve learned – many of the locals, including the local men, have some rather fascinating ideas about Western women.
Debunking the “Model Asian” Myth: Five Ways Asian-Americans Still Face Discrimination (Pub’d on HIPPO Reads)
HIPPO Reads published my article examining how Asians face discrimination in modern America — in education, the workplace, hollywood, sports and dating.