Interview with Kevin Bathman on the Chindian Diaries | Speaking of China

10 Responses

  1. Reader
    Reader January 17, 2014 at 11:24 am | | Reply

    “… why he believes there are fewer couples of Chinese men/Indian men …”

    Possibly because homosexuality is not common.

    1. Rdm
      Rdm January 17, 2014 at 12:08 pm | | Reply


      good one!

      I never had such a fantasy.

  2. Rdm
    Rdm January 17, 2014 at 11:26 am | | Reply

    Indian and Chinese have many relatable cultural values and priorities in lives. Close knit family, courtship, parents-children relationship, and so on.

    Dr. Kotnis was the major figure in India-China relationship. Even to this day, Chinese Premier still pay tribute to Dr.Kotnis 92- year old sister house whenever he visits India. That shows what significant part Dr.Kotnis has played in time of fighting against the fascism and colonialism.

    The only stark difference between Chinese and Indian is Chinese tend to be more reserved and speak less with foreigners. Indians? speak like a parrot, this and that, here and there, to and fro. Of course, this is generalization, not applicable to individual.

  3. Constance - Foreign Sanctuary
    Constance - Foreign Sanctuary January 17, 2014 at 11:37 am | | Reply

    A very interesting interview! I particularly liked how you ended the post – My advice to mixed-race families is to honour all the cultures!! Personally, I feel that it is important to gain insight into each culture and embrace it! My husband and I really enjoy celebrating the best of both worlds – western holidays and traditions as well as holidays common to the Taiwanese culture! And it extends far beyond that for us! For example, during Christmas, my husband’s family came to our house to experience Christmas first-hand and enjoyed a Christmas feast with my western friends. It felt great to introduce the in-laws to the Christmas traditions of my family!

  4. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian January 18, 2014 at 1:16 am | | Reply

    I think Kevin Bathman deserves a pat on the back for starting Chindian Diaries. It gives the growing Chindian community a platform to speak up on their experiences as Chindians. And thanks Jocelyn, for bringing us the interview.

    Chindian marriages are not uncommon here in Malaysia. My neighbours are a Chindian family. I have a Chinese friend who married an Indian woman. The last time I met them was on a Chinese New Year a few years ago and I was happy to be able to give an ang pow to their lovely two year old son.

    I also have a Chinese friend in the legal fraternity who is also married to an Indian woman.

    So, although it is still generally true that Chindian couples in Malaysia are more often Indian men/Chinese women couplings, it is not uncommon to see Chinese men/Indian women couples nowadays.

  5. Kevin
    Kevin January 18, 2014 at 3:29 am | | Reply

    Well I am 90% Chinese, 5% Peranakan (Baba & Nyonya) and 5% Iban Borneo tribe. So I have the weirdest mix ever. Though I act like a full Chinese person in some ways. But yeah, Chindian couples are common, few of my friends are a product of Chindian marriages, it’s a love / hate relationship, some would not like them for the darker skin they are, some are alright, especially if they are fully grown up and look gorgeous. My aunt is similar to them, being mostly Chinese, part Portuguese, part Indian and some bits of Peranakan in her blood. She is the runner up winner in Miss Malaysia year 2000. But yeah, mixed people are just hot, a lot to figure out in their differences. I am dating a girl from Ukraine now and totally awesome about it.

  6. SBC
    SBC January 22, 2014 at 8:58 pm | | Reply

    Thanks for featuring this Jocelyn! :). It is an interesting subculture, a pairing that is ages old, and one that hasnt been given any attention. Kudos to Bathman for starting the blog and to you for featuring it.


    A Chindian couple. 🙂

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