I’m interested in this Chinese guy. When there is a group of us at work he doesn’t speak to me as much as when the two of us pass each other in the office when nobody else is there. This makes me think that he doesn’t want the other colleagues to see us become friends. Our company is part of a government organisation. He has shown interest by smiling, eye contact and staring. He’s asked me questions about when I’m going away and how long I plan to stay in China.
I’ve been thinking of asking him out via text. Do you think this will be seen as too keen or a bit sloppy?
When it comes to asking him out, to text or not to text? Some say it’s sexy, some say it’s sloppy. But in your case, I say it’s smart.
You already sense your organization isn’t exactly friendly to workplace romance. And while more and more young people dare to flaunt their love in public, in China, many still prefer to keep their love life under covers and behind doors — especially when it’s with a foreigner. (Heck, even my husband still shakes his head at romantic comedies from Hollywood, always commenting on all the “public kissing” that just doesn’t jive with what he knew growing up.)
So texting to ask him out allows you to keep things just between the two of you — which your guy will love. You’ll save him, and you, a lot of pressure and bad office gossip.
What if your workplace wasn’t so love unfriendly? Texting still might make sense if you prefer the privacy — and sense he does too.
Now if only you could keep those dates out on the two just as private… 😉
What do you think? What advice do you have?
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