My Favorite Posts

New to Speaking of China — or just looking for a good read? Check out this hand-picked list of my favorite posts.

• Racist Rant Against Chinese Gets Foreigner in China Fired and Booted From China Posted on: November 15, 2019
• Intercultural Love Leads to More Creativity? Study by MIT Prof Says Yes Posted on: September 24, 2019
• Velma Demerson, Arrested for Having Chinese Boyfriend in Canada Posted on: June 27, 2019
• A Trip Backwards: How People Thought of Interracial Marriages With Asian Men in the Past Posted on: May 3, 2019
• The Unglamorous Reality of Citizenship in Chinese-Foreign Marriages Posted on: April 2, 2019
• 'African Jasmine Flower': Ruth Njeri Finds Success, Love on Chinese Stage Posted on: March 5, 2019
• Are Highly Sensitive People More Accepted in Chinese Culture? One Study Says Yes Posted on: February 28, 2019
• Should Foreigners Who Marry Chinese Also Learn the Language? Posted on: January 8, 2019
• Are Dating Apps Best for Chinese, Foreigners to Pair Up? Posted on: January 4, 2019
• Liverpool's Lost Chinese Sailors, and the Families Left Behind in the UK (AMWF History) Posted on: November 1, 2018
• When East Marries West: When One Wedding Won't Do Posted on: October 9, 2018
• Chinese Student in Germany Gives Dating Advice to Fellow Countrymen Posted on: September 7, 2018
• Romanced on a Shanghai Bicycle (Almost) for Two: Cherished Memories of When My Husband 'Picked Me up' on His Bike Posted on: August 21, 2018
• Riding the 'Love Boat': Ukrainian Woman Falls for Chinese Cruise Ship Colleague Posted on: August 16, 2018
• “I Awoke to Find a Girl Lying by My Side”: Chinese Men Open up About Dating Foreign Women on Vice.cn Posted on: July 24, 2018
• “It Was Her First Time to Sleep With a Chinese Man”: Chinese Men Open up About Dating Foreign Women on Vice.cn Posted on: July 19, 2018
• "The Moment Our Eyes Met, I Froze": Chinese Men Open up About Dating Foreign Women on Vice.cn Posted on: July 17, 2018
• “She Liked Having Threesomes": Chinese Men Open up About Dating Foreign Women on Vice.cn Posted on: July 13, 2018
• Chinese Men Can’t Date White European or American Women? Chinese Overseas Students Weigh In Posted on: June 29, 2018
• “Are You Mother and Son?” No, I’m a White Woman Who Looks Older Than Her Asian Husband Posted on: June 26, 2018
• ‘The Chinese Exclusion Act’ on PBS Reminds Me Asian Stereotypes Haven’t Changed Much Posted on: June 5, 2018
• 11 Critically Acclaimed AMWF Movies Worth Watching Posted on: April 17, 2018
• Olympic Speedskater Shaolin Sandor Liu Has a Cool China Connection Beyond His Chinese Father Posted on: February 13, 2018
• Phoenix News Weighs in on Why so Few White Women Date Chinese Men – and It’s Awful Posted on: January 23, 2018
• Guest Post: I Got Divorced in China, and What Happened in My Marriage Is More Common Than You Realize Posted on: January 17, 2018
• Is Beijing China's Best City for Western Women Married to Chinese Men? Posted on: November 7, 2017
• 4 Chinese Curse Words That Sound Funny in Literal Translation, But Are Actually Serious Posted on: August 29, 2017
• “You Must Be Russian” – On Mistaken Identity in China and America Posted on: August 15, 2017
• Are China’s AMWF Couples Rarer Just Because Only 25% of Foreigners in China Are Women? Posted on: June 27, 2017
• To The Girl Tired of Hearing, “Why Would You Date Chinese Men?” Posted on: May 16, 2017
• Marrying Someone from Your Culture Is No Guarantee of Happiness Posted on: April 25, 2017
• How "Italian Eggplant" Divided Us, and Then United Us in Love Posted on: April 11, 2017
• 3 Stereotypes About Asian Men I’m Tired Of Hearing Posted on: February 28, 2017
• When a White Supremacist Website Links to Your Interracial Love Blog Posted on: December 15, 2016
• To the Girl Whose Boyfriend’s ￥8,000/Mo Salary "Wasn’t Enough" Posted on: December 1, 2016
• An Open Letter to the Girl Whose Interracial Relationship Ended Posted on: November 17, 2016
• What a Trump Presidency Means for Interracial Couples Posted on: November 10, 2016
• What It Means to Support Your Husband's Discrimination Lawsuit Posted on: October 24, 2016
• Is Interracial Dating Easier for Asian Men in Non-English-Speaking Countries? Posted on: October 17, 2016
• How Loving a “Foreign Enemy” (And Writing About It) Changes Lives Posted on: August 29, 2016
• AMWF History: Sarah Burke and Wong Suey Wong, Arrested in 1883 USA (For Love) Posted on: August 22, 2016
• 6 Surprising Experiences My Husband and I Had in a Chinese Hospital Posted on: June 27, 2016
• Why I Don't Like Going to Wedding Banquets in China Posted on: April 25, 2016
• 4 Things I'm Embarrassed to Share About Living with My Chinese In-Laws Posted on: March 28, 2016
• 5 Unhappy Things I've Struggled with as an Expat Married to a Foreigner Posted on: February 29, 2016
• "We're Not Fighting, We're Just Talking!" My Struggle with Cultural Differences in How People Talk in China Posted on: February 22, 2016
• The Love Stories of East German Women and North Korean Men in New German Documentary “Loved, Engaged, Lost” Posted on: October 11, 2015
• Can Interracial and Intercultural Relationships Be a Transcendental Experience? Posted on: October 5, 2015
• Why Did I Assume I Would Stay Single in China? Posted on: August 24, 2015
• Things I've Learned from My Chinese Husband: Asia Is Not That United Posted on: August 10, 2015
• The Courage to Blog Personally About Love, Family and Marriage in China Posted on: June 8, 2015
• How Could I Forget About the Cultural Differences in My Intercultural Marriage? Posted on: May 11, 2015
• Mom, if only you could have known the person I became after China Posted on: May 4, 2015
• Why It's a Really Bad Idea to Teach Your Spouse Your Language Posted on: March 23, 2015
• “What will they think?” The fear of being seen as a failure before family at Chinese New Year Posted on: February 16, 2015
• 4 Habits I’ve Learned from my Chinese Husband Posted on: January 5, 2015
• The Ups and Downs of Spending Christmas Abroad (in a Country That Doesn’t Celebrate It) Posted on: December 22, 2014
• 6 Ways to Prepare for Meeting the Parents in China Posted on: November 17, 2014
• On sexual assault in China (and how my husband "guards my butt") Posted on: November 10, 2014
• “Is he your foreign exchange student?” When you’re a white woman who looks older than her Asian husband Posted on: October 27, 2014
• 5 Fascinating Stereotypes of Western Women in China Posted on: September 15, 2014
• Interview with Alex Tizon on His Memoir "Big Little Man: In Search of My Asian Self" Posted on: September 12, 2014
• 4 Really Bad Reasons for Marrying Western Women in China Posted on: August 22, 2014
• 5 Awkward Things for a Longtime Married Couple in China with No Kids Posted on: August 8, 2014
• Photo Essay: Celebrating 10 years of marriage to my husband! Posted on: July 25, 2014
• Are we more vulnerable to one-sided relationships when it's cross-cultural love? Posted on: July 21, 2014
• When China makes people feel better about their first-world countries Posted on: May 19, 2014
• The power of a smile in China's countryside Posted on: May 12, 2014
• What's the big deal about Asian men and bags? Posted on: April 28, 2014
• Are interracial couples of Asian men & Western women really that rare? A field report from Hong Kong Posted on: April 18, 2014
• 6 Stunning Celebrity Couples of Asian Men & Non-Asian Women Posted on: March 28, 2014
• 8 Surprising Things I've Learned from Living in China's Countryside Posted on: March 24, 2014
• To learn dialect or not? When your Chinese family doesn’t speak Mandarin Chinese Posted on: February 17, 2014
• My husband's excuse not to drink? "I have a foreign wife!" Posted on: February 10, 2014
• Photo Essay: Chinese New Year at the Family Home Posted on: January 31, 2014
• How rare are Chinese men/Western women? Enough to be "nonsense" Posted on: January 13, 2014
• Three Things I Wish I Had Known About Dating in China Posted on: October 18, 2013
• Infidelity in China? Doesn't matter to my marriage Posted on: September 23, 2013
• Justifying Cross-Cultural Love By Hating On Others? Posted on: August 19, 2013
• Why Ignoring Cultural Differences in Cross-Cultural Relationships is Harmful Posted on: July 22, 2013
• Double Happiness: "Enter Zhao Ming...China's Answer to Arnold Schwarzenegger" Posted on: July 5, 2013
• Foreigners Who Think They're Entitled To Date The Hottest Chinese? Posted on: May 6, 2013
• Fenshou: "I Was Once Engaged to a Chinese Man" Posted on: April 12, 2013
• Double Happiness: Setting Up His Chinese Nephew With American Women Posted on: March 22, 2013
• Divorcing Your Chinese Spouse Doesn't Mean You Must Divorce China Posted on: March 18, 2013
• The Next Big Thing: On "Red All Over," My Forthcoming Memoir Posted on: March 4, 2013
• On Dating Chinese Men -- Or Why You Shouldn't Judge After Only One Date Posted on: January 14, 2013
• On My Negative Dating Experiences With Chinese Men, and Why I Still Kept Smiling About China's "Dating Scene" Posted on: December 17, 2012
• Six Chinese Men in the Movies Who Loved Western Women, from Least Sexy to Most Sexy Posted on: December 14, 2012
• Four Lame Reasons Why Western Women Won't Date Chinese Men Posted on: October 29, 2012
• Asian Women "Too Tempting" To Husbands/Boyfriends? Please. Posted on: October 15, 2012
• On Shopping With My Husband, And The Parka That Got Away Posted on: October 8, 2012
• A Story of Sexism, Chinese Men and Who Should Wash the Dishes Posted on: September 3, 2012
• Ask the Yangxifu: 3 Reasons Why You Should Pursue Chinese Men Posted on: August 10, 2012
• I Never Intended To Marry a Chinese Man Posted on: July 30, 2012
• "Rougan": How My Husband Helped Me Love My Curves Posted on: July 16, 2012
• Things We've Learned About Going Meatless in China From Our Chinese Families Posted on: March 26, 2012
• My Chinese Husband Has Balls Posted on: March 19, 2012
• Why I Write About "Forbidden" Love in China Posted on: March 12, 2012
• Yangxifu Pride: 8 Memoirs For Western Women Who Love Asian Men Posted on: March 9, 2012
• Double Happiness: A Journey Towards China And Love Posted on: March 2, 2012
• The Fuqi Xiang Fallacy Posted on: February 13, 2012
• I Stand By My Man, And Yes, He's Chinese Posted on: January 30, 2012
• Getting Personal When Buying Condoms at Watson's China Posted on: January 16, 2012
• Double Happiness: Once You Go Black, You Never Go Back Posted on: November 11, 2011
• On Discrimination and Marriage to a Chinese Man Posted on: November 7, 2011
• One Vegan, Making Chinese Red-Braised Pork For Love Posted on: October 24, 2011
• Ask the Yangxifu: Six Western Women of the Past who Married Chinese Men Posted on: September 2, 2011
• My Chinese Husband's Cousin, Looking For a Western Wife to Brag About Posted on: August 8, 2011
• The Relationship Between Language and Falling in Love Posted on: July 18, 2011
• My Chinese Inlaws' Not-So-Free Marriage Posted on: July 4, 2011
• Marriage in China is Home, Car, Money? Posted on: April 25, 2011
• Ask the Yangxifu: Staring in China at Couples of Chinese Men-Western Women Posted on: March 25, 2011
• 2011 Blogs by Western Women who Love Chinese Men Posted on: March 7, 2011
• Are Jewish Women More Likely to Marry Chinese Men? Posted on: February 28, 2011
• My Chinese Husband Calls Me Laopo Posted on: February 7, 2011
• Ask the Yangxifu: Western women in China are NOT all sluts Posted on: January 28, 2011
• Ask the Yangxifu: Dating Advice for Chinese Men from JT Tran, the Asian Playboy Posted on: January 14, 2011
• Ask the Yangxifu: Sex and Chinese Men Posted on: January 7, 2011
• Three Inches of Separation: On Loving a Shorter Chinese Man Posted on: November 29, 2010
• Ask the Yangxifu: Gifts to Buy Abroad for Chinese Family and Relatives Posted on: November 19, 2010
• Ask the Yangxifu: Books with Chinese Men and Western Women in Love Posted on: November 12, 2010
• Stereotypes About Couples of Chinese Men-Western Women Posted on: November 8, 2010
• Ask the Yangxifu: Movies with Chinese Men and Western Women in Love Posted on: October 29, 2010
• Ask the Yangxifu: Western Women Can't Wear Qipaos? Posted on: October 22, 2010
• Chinese Men Are Sexy Posted on: October 11, 2010
• How China Made My Clothing Cuter Posted on: August 16, 2010
• Ask the Yangxifu: What Western Women Think of Chinese Men Posted on: April 23, 2010
• China Blogs by Western Women who Love Chinese Men Posted on: March 14, 2010
• Ask the Yangxifu: Indirect Dating and Chinese Men Posted on: March 12, 2010
• Ask the Yangxifu: A Big, Fat, Traditional Chinese Wedding? Posted on: February 12, 2010
• "Zao sheng guizi": the pressure of having babies in a Chinese family Posted on: December 20, 2009
• Giving Gifts to Your Chinese family - A Modest Guide Posted on: November 27, 2009
• The Troubling Chinese Mother-in-law Relationship Posted on: September 16, 2009
• On the Rarity of Foreign Women and Chinese Boyfriends/Chinese Husbands Posted on: August 29, 2009