Pub’d in the HuffPost: The Top 6 Gifts Sure To Please Your Chinese Family

The Top 6 Gifts Sure To Please Your Chinese Family

The Top 6 Gifts Sure To Please Your Chinese FamilyThe Huffington Post just published The Top 6 Gifts Sure To Please Your Chinese Family, an article inspired by my classic post Giving Gifts to Your Chinese Family – A Modest Guide. Here’s an excerpt:

Buying gifts for someone else never ranked as one of my top 10 most fun things to do. Not even back in America, where I grew up.

But after moving to China and marrying a Chinese local, it became even more of a headache. After all, China is a country that takes gift giving seriously, complete with its own gift-giving customs and etiquette. Now I would have to navigate all of these cultural rules to buy for my family in China, the people I’d be seeing every single year.

Cue the panic attack.

Fortunately, after years of experience in buying gifts for my Chinese family, I’ve learned it’s actually a lot easier than I thought. And sometimes, it can even be fun – if you know what to buy.

Head on over to the Huffington Post to read the full piece and discover my top gift picks. And if you like it, share it!

4 Tips for Giving Gift Baskets in China (+ Exclusive Holiday Deals)

What should I give to my loved ones/family in China? I’ve received hundreds of e-mails from people around the world, asking me for advice on this. And believe me, I understand. How many times have I struggled to come up with gifts for the family here in China? (Especially for my husband’s dad, who is the ultimate tough-to-buy-for kind of guy!)

Of course, over the years I’ve discovered there can be a very simple answer to this question – the fruit basket, or even a well-chosen gift-basket.

If I had known this a long time ago, I could have saved myself tons of trouble and money. (I shudder to think of all the cash I’ve thrown away on gifts that didn’t hit the mark.)

Today I’m sharing four tips for giving gift baskets in China, along with some recommendations of gift baskets from Gift Baskets Overseas (scroll down), where you can send a nice gift basket to China from anywhere in the world in just a few easy clicks.

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#1: When in Doubt, Make It a Fruit Basket

Are you totally stumped on what to give your friends or loved ones in China? Meet your new best friend – the fruit basket.

Fruit is one of the most beloved and universal gifts in China. It’s also the number one gift idea among my own family members in China. We always give fruit when we’re visiting someone for a special occasion, or seeing someone in the hospital, or even just want to show we care. Everyone loves fresh fruit, from grandma right down to my four-year-old niece.

You’ll never have to wonder if it’s the right gift. And even better, you can send the fruit basket as a gift to the whole family.

#2: Think Fine, Imported Wines

Did you know China is the world’s top consumer of red wine and the world’s largest wine market? Even my husband’s family traditionally drinks a little red wine on holidays and special occasions. But if it’s an imported wine, you’re sure to make a great impression.

So why not send a fine, imported wine in your gift basket? Reds, whites and even champagne will surely please any of your Chinese family, friends or loved ones, no matter where they live.

#3: Don’t Forget Decadent Imported Chocolates and Cookies for Younger Folks

My online supermarket here in China – which caters to young, middle-class Chinese – has an entire virtual aisle loaded with imported chocolates and cookies. I’ve watched them sell out of mouthwatering French truffles and Belgian darks in a flash, which tells me they’re a perennial favorite among the younger set in China. And like wines, imported is always better.

If you’re buying for younger, middle-class and urban Chinese, consider including imported chocolates and cookies in your gift basket.

#4: Pay Attention to Packaging

Yes, the thought does count (as my dad has always reminded me). But in China, so does the packaging.

It wasn’t until I came to China that I realized how elaborate packaging could actually be (in the most extreme cases, it even overshadows the actual gift). That’s because people care a LOT about presentation for their gifts. How the gift appears says as much about you as the gift itself.

That’s right – your slap-dash home wrapping jobs (where you end up wasting an entire roll of scotch tape on one present) just won’t do here.

Instead, always get it boxed or presented in a nice basket. Red and gold is the traditional good-luck color combo, but honestly, any colors will work as long as the packaging is attractive.

What are your tips for buying gift baskets and fruit baskets for your Chinese family and loved ones?

Want to send a gift basket now — and save 5% off your order? Head on over to Gift Basket Overseas.

My “hard-to-buy-for” Chinese father-in-law

(photo by Geoffrey Gilmour-Taylor via Flickr.com)

That hard-to-buy-for person? To my parents, that could have been John’s father — given the conversation we had yesterday about what to give him for the holidays.

“Wouldn’t he like, say, one of those pocket knives?” my dad asked. “Or a letter opener? Or even a tool kit?”

But John shook his head “no” at every suggestion, leaving my dad surprised and even laughing. After all, we essentially vetoed what he considered the top three must-have gifts for the average American guy his age.

While John’s dad was only a few years younger than my dad, he was a world away when it came to interests and needs. Unlike my dad, John’s dad wasn’t one of these handyman types who liked tinkering around the house, and would never have imagined that anyone needed a special tool to do something as simple as opening a letter. He cultivates bonsai in the garden, dabbles in painting and calligraphy, pens his own articles and self-published books, and reads the newspaper from front to back everyday. And while I’m sure some American men out there must share his passions, I’ve yet to meet him.

It’s no wonder, then, that cross-cultural gift-giving challenges so many of us — enough to keep a steady stream of “what should I buy him/her in China” e-mails flowing into my inbox.

In the end, my parents settled on an engraved pen — sure to please a certain “cultured” retiree in Zhejiang with a penchant for writing.

P.S.: Have a hard-to-buy-for person in China on your list? Check out my gift guides.

Great Gifts For Your Chinese Zodiac Year (Ben Ming Nian)

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Red “good fortune” earrings with a copper backing (from Jean Toh’s Etsy.com Store)

In the US, this Friday (aka Black Friday) kicks off the holiday season. For John and me, that means Christmas all the way through Chinese New Year.

Most years, I’m excited at the prospect of making spiced pumpkin bread or Chinese-style jiaozi, and decorating our home with Christmas tree lights and duilian. This year, though, the holidays — specifically, Chinese New Year — fill me with some trepidation.

Well, even though this is going to date me, here’s the deal — I’m a snake, and 2013 is the year of the snake. That means, in Chinese zodiac terms, 2013 is my benming nian (běnmìngnián, 本命年), the year of my birth zodiac sign.

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The number one gift for anyone about to face their Chinese zodiac year? Red underwear. (photo from flickr.com by Priya Ranganath)

Unfortunately, your benming nian is traditionally considered unlucky, something I have firsthand experience with. During my last benming nian, I moved five times in that year, worked three soul-crushing jobs, and suffered two months under a sadistic roommate. My father came down with a life-threatening condition during his benming nian; my mother, sadly, died during hers.

Fortunately, though, the superstition about your benming nian comes with a so-called solution in the form of gifts. Supposedly, with the right gifts from family and friends, I could breeze through 2013 — and quite possibly have one fantastic year.

With that in mind, I decided to dedicate my usual holiday gifts post to those people on the eve of their own Chinese zodiac year. What should you get them this holiday season? Here are a few ideas:

Continue reading “Great Gifts For Your Chinese Zodiac Year (Ben Ming Nian)”

Ask the Yangxifu: Holiday Gift Roundup for Chinese Friends & Loved Ones

To make your holiday to-do list a little easier, I’m rounding up all of my gift-giving advice in one easy post. Includes ideas for your Chinese friends and family, as well as hosts and even business associates. (photo by Christy Thompson)

(UPDATED February 3, 2018)

“What gift should I give?” It’s the number one question in my mailbag — and chances are, with the holidays coming, the number one thing on the minds of many readers.

To make your holiday to-do list a little easier, I’m rounding up all of my gift-giving advice in one easy post.

7 Great Chinese New Year Gifts Sure to Impress Friends, Family and Coworkers. While the focus is Chinese New Year, this latest post is an excellent guide for great gifts you could give all year long.

Giving Gifts to Your Chinese Family – A Modest Guide remains one of the top 10 posts for this site. It’s not exactly my favorite post of the bunch — which I guess is bound to happen when it’s your first stab on the subject.

Still, I feel this one does help on several counts. It’s not bad as an overview, and it offers great ideas for anyone doing their holiday gift shopping in China. So there you go. Read it, but remember it’s not my last word on gifts.

4 Tips for Giving Gift Baskets in ChinaWhat should I give to my loved ones/family in China? I’ve received hundreds of e-mails from people around the world, asking me for advice on this. Over the years I’ve discovered there can be a very simple answer to this question – the fruit basket, or even a well-chosen gift-basket.

Gifts to Buy Abroad for Chinese Family and Relatives. This post isn’t just for people with Chinese spouses/significant others and/or extended family on their list. It could be helpful for almost anyone doing their holiday shopping outside of China. When in doubt, stick with the more general suggestions such as chocolate or coffee (or see my final advice below).

Birthday Gifts for Chinese Men. What? Birthdays? Okay, the title sticks out — but the content fits right in. We could even rename this post “Christmas/Holiday gifts for Chinese boyfriends, husbands and other special men in your life.” In addition, some of the suggestions — such as the business card cases, briefcases/messenger bags, and unique electronic devices — could be great gifts for Chinese men and women who happen to be your China business associates.

P.S.: If you’re shopping this holiday season on Amazon.com, you can actually support Speaking of China — at no additional cost to you — by making a purchase through one of my affiliate links. Thanks!

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Ask the Yangxifu: Why Does My Chinese Family Refuse My Gifts?

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An American woman wonders why her Chinese in-laws seem upset every time she gives them a gift. Why do they always refuse what she buys for them? (photo by Irum Shahid)

Sam asks:

Recently, while I was at the grocery store, I saw a lovely bouquet of lilies. I thought they would look lovely in the kitchen, and decided to by them for my Chinese mother-in-law. I brought them home and put them in a vase. But when she came home and I told her they were for her, it seemed to stress her. She first tried to get me to say that they were just for myself, and then insisted that they were for the men in the house since Father’s Day had been the week before. We finally agreed that they were for everyone.

I can’t help but wonder if I did something wrong. My husband didn’t think so, but he’s been in the states for over 20 years now and isn’t always in the loop.

I had a similar experience when I came back from a trip. I had bought her a purse that I found on super-sale and thought she would like it. She kept on insisting that I would need it more than she would and that I should keep it for myself. It wasn’t until I told her I had bought myself something similar that she settled down and accepted it.

It is not uncommon for me to see something that I think a friend will like and buy it for them. Several times I’ve seen clothes that I know would fit my mother in law that would look good on her, but I am afraid I’ll terrify her or something. Do you have any insight? Continue reading “Ask the Yangxifu: Why Does My Chinese Family Refuse My Gifts?”

Ask the Yangxifu: Birthday Gifts for Chinese Men

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Chinese men don't usually celebrate birthdays. But a Western woman may never see her Chinese friend again, and wants to give him something to remember her by. (Photo by Zsuzsanna Kilian)

foreign friend asks:

My 哥哥‘s birthday is coming up in the first week of March, and I want to give him a gift…. And he’s actually leaving soon, to China…next month as well and I want to give him something that he will remember me by. (I’m just kind of worried that in the future, he’ll forget about me…and just move on with our friendship, because he’s not coming back to our city where we attend school at.)

I know, from reading one of your articles about your husband and celebrating his birthday, is not that big in Chinese culture, but I just am wondering, what’s the best gift? Continue reading “Ask the Yangxifu: Birthday Gifts for Chinese Men”

Ask the Yangxifu: Gifts to Buy Abroad for Chinese Family and Relatives

Gifts for Chinese family, relatives and loved ones
What gifts are best bought abroad for your Chinese family?

With the holidays coming in as fast as the cold fronts, it’s time once again for an update to my gift-giving guide for your Chinese family and loved ones.

A lot of readers have asked about what gifts they should bring their Chinese relatives and/or girlfriends/boyfriends from abroad. So, for all of you wondering what to stash in your suitcase for your next trip to China, this is for you. Continue reading “Ask the Yangxifu: Gifts to Buy Abroad for Chinese Family and Relatives”

Ask the Yangxifu: Gifts for the Qixi Festival (Chinese Valentine’s Day)

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How do you say I love you — with a gift — on Qixi Festival, also know as the Chinese Valentine’s Day? (photo by Crystal Leigh Shearin)

NOTE: Find newer recommendations in my post Qixi Festival: Popular Gifts, Celebrations for the Chinese Valentine’s Day.

A Valentine asks:

Hi! I’m a Western girl in love with a Chinese guy. I am going to stay in China the whole summer, taking a language course, just to be close to him.

I am wondering, will it be okay if I give him a present on Qixi Festival as a way of expressing my feelings towards him?

Any present suggestions? Maybe something I can bring from the West? Continue reading “Ask the Yangxifu: Gifts for the Qixi Festival (Chinese Valentine’s Day)”