How Loving a “Foreign Enemy” (And Writing About It) Changes Lives | Speaking of China

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  1. Svetlana
    Svetlana August 29, 2016 at 7:40 am | | Reply

    Beautiful post Jocelyn! From personal experience it can also be reversal, at least in terms of religion, where you don’t see different faith as an enemy, but when you grow up and meet people who are judgmental and who don’t want to be with you because you come from another faith, it is difficult to remain neutral towards that faith. Sad but true.

  2. Susan
    Susan August 29, 2016 at 1:05 pm | | Reply

    Jocelyn, I will share with your attorney what I learned from an exiled Tibetan Buddhist monk and my daughter’s Chinese family: the every day people of a country are not responsible for the actions of their government.

    I know that there is a common belief that we have a democracy here in the U.S., but as Jimmy Carter pointed out, due to the Citizen’s United act, we no longer have a functioning democracy in this country, and we are in the same situation as folks in China and Russia.

    I adopted my daughter without any knowledge of the fact that she had been taken from her family against their will. And when I found them and learned the truth, all I encountered was their gratitude to me for raising my daughter well, and an acknowledgement of a reality that they have lived with for a very long time: common, ordinary people are not responsible for the actions of their government.

  3. Cat
    Cat August 29, 2016 at 5:44 pm | | Reply

    I think one of the great things about the internet (and blogs like this one!) is that you can now learn what it is like in different countries from ordinary people who live there. I know the internet can be a platform for hate but it also connects the world like never before. Thanks for sharing Jocelyn 🙂

  4. Autumn
    Autumn August 29, 2016 at 9:54 pm | | Reply

    The internet is a font of misinformation and sometimes hate, but it’s also filled with blogs like yours about people in other countries. The more human stories we read, the more difficult it is to whip the populace into a nationalistic frenzy against another country.

    Yay, interwebs. 🙂

  5. Austin Guihua Jia
    Austin Guihua Jia August 30, 2016 at 8:25 am | | Reply

    Hi Jocelyn, what’s new? I know your dear husband actually has a ISU injustice, thought I can do nothing, I hope you win in this case.

    For your story “China as enemy?”, I’d like to say people who have this opinion may probaly have no deep understangding of China. I have saw an interesting film called TATTOO, at the beginning the actress who teachs in a primary school indeed dislike the chief actor because he gave a disgussting (may be disgusting) TATTOO show on his body in her class. But at the very end of this film, guess what? They fall in love each other! That because, I think, the actress recognized TATTOO is a part of his life and the man treated it as art. Deep understanding of a certain thing makes a man changes his idea as time goes along.

    Thanks for reading. And I have a question that you can give me help. It’s easy, I think, to understand when I changed the follwing sentence (Jocel) you wrote as:
    “After all, I was a TOTAL NEWBIE teach in China.”

    Jocel: “After all, I was a total************ teach in China newbie.”

    Please remember all I say in this comment are just for Language itself. If I let you feel sick accidently, I will say sorry with humble current myself.

  6. David
    David August 30, 2016 at 11:31 pm | | Reply

    China as the enemy spills into Chinese American as the enemy although it might be plain racism….although this is just acting!

  7. AG
    AG September 1, 2016 at 12:31 am | | Reply

    Well, same stuff on youtube. There is hope of attitude changing.

    On more positive note, people might think about getting their degrees in China instead of West soon if following trend continue:

    China Overtakes US in Scientific Articles, Robots, Supercomputers

    Glory of Tang, Han empire might be back to China very soon.

  8. Rachel
    Rachel September 4, 2016 at 11:53 am | | Reply

    Never posted before, but I’ve follow your website for a few years – since before I moved to China myself!

    My experience has been that many Americans have out-of-date views on what China is like and are willing to make some pretty rash assumptions. My experiences have not always been easy in China, sure, but there are so many wonderful reasons to be there. Sharing stories and experiences is the best way to open others’ minds.

    Hope you win your case~

  9. Alice
    Alice September 11, 2016 at 7:02 pm | | Reply

    I had no idea that people still considered China, as a whole, “the enemy”. It’s great to see that you and your husband have changed someone’s mind, and I’m sure your blog has had that effect on more people you don’t even know about. The best thing we can do as writers is share our experiences to help teach others and hopefully open their minds a bit 🙂

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