On Attraction Between White Women/Asian Men And What’s “Normal” – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

In case you missed it, WWAM BAM! recently published my post titled On Attraction Between White Women/Asian Men And What’s “Normal”. Here’s an excerpt from the piece:

“It’s totally normal for white Western women not to be sexually attracted to Asian men,” wrote a woman in a comment I happened to read.

I shouldn’t have been stunned or surprised by her words. Hadn’t I heard variations on this theme before? After all, I’d been privy to many conversations where white Western women dismissed the possibility of dating Asian men in all sorts of ways. Sometimes in unprintable language.

But I was jarred by her comment, feeling the mental equivalent of a sudden static shock pulse through me as I read it. That’s because there was a time when it might have applied to me. That I might have concluded my own pre-China track record of exclusively dating white guys was “normal” and “natural”.

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4 Replies to “On Attraction Between White Women/Asian Men And What’s “Normal” – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!”

  1. Hi Jocelyn,

    I was wondering if you or any of the women in a AMWF relationship had encountered 撒娇? Do their partners like if they behave in this way or do most not engage in it? I have been in a AMWF relationship for 4 years and only recently my partner said that he kind of missed this behaviour, but knows not to expect it from a western female. I’m just curious if western women participate in 撒娇 or not? I get embarrassed when I try and think I look fairly odd when I try to behave cute haha 🙂

    1. Hey Vee, thanks for the comment on this! You know, that’s a good question. I am personally not aware of any women who have, but that doesn’t mean there’s not someone out there who hasn’t tried like yourself — or even engaged in it regularly.

  2. Totally normal not to be attracted? Sounds like she does not regard Asian women as human and the relationship more as a bestiality. Even Donald Trump sounds moderate on race issues after Charlottesville than this woman and we are surprised Trump even got elected?

  3. Seriously, I wonder if people actually “think” and “reflect” before they respond with seemingly comical expressions of indignation….With that in mind, I have to agree that yes, it is indeed, “perfectly normal” for a White woman not to be sexually attracted to Asian guys, including myself. So why is that, “controversial? Is it because there is “so much truth” to the statement? After all, the term “Asian” encompasses a wide variety of people whose physical appearance do not necessarily fit within Western standards of sexual attractiveness….Now, Asian women are more likely to view Asian guys differently because they share similar social/cultural/ethnic traits–and there is a great deal of mutual exposure to each other starting with the basic family unit, whereas the average White woman grows up with far fewer social encounters with Asian males….As such, it would be patently absurd–in my view, to suggest then, that it would be “perfectly normal” for White women to be “sexually attracted” to Asian males, simply because there is no real basis for that assumption, except one’s highly questionable, subjective opinion.

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