June’s Magical Yangmei Fruit Brings Thoughts of Love, Family in China – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM! just published my post titled June’s Magical Yangmei Fruit Brings Thoughts of Love, Family in China. Here’s an excerpt from the post:

Nevermind the high humidity. Or the relentless sunshine. Or anyone else who tells me how unbearably hot summers are in China. Who has time to worry about that in June in China, a month that, for me, is inextricably entwined with the arrival of what I consider the country’s most magical fruit – yangmei or Myrica rubra.

If you’ve never bit into the juicy, ruby red goodness that is a yangmei, imagine the world’s most succulent red fruits (like my favorites of cranberry and pomegranate) packed together into one tiny, koosh-ball shaped package. It’s a little bite of ecstasy that will dance across your tastebuds and probably dribble onto the table or your summer clothes, making you look like you indulged in some red wine…but who cares when there’s yangmei on the table?

You can head on over to WWAM BAM! to read the full post. And if you like it, share it!

“Don’t Eat Potatoes and Eggs Together” – and in China, She Wasn’t Alone in This Belief – Pub’d on WWAM BAM

The group blog WWAM BAM just published my post “Don’t Eat Potatoes and Eggs Together” – and in China, She Wasn’t Alone in This Belief. Here’s an excerpt from the post:

Many years ago here in China, I remember sitting down to lunch with the wife of my husband’s cousin on a sultry summer day. Surrounded by the tempting aromas of the many delicacies covering the table, we invariably turned our thoughts – and the conversation – to food.

I still don’t remember exactly how we stumbled upon the idea of foods you should and shouldn’t eat. But somehow, the topic surfaced in our friendly chat at the table. And that’s when she began pointing out some curious combinations of foods you should never, ever eat together. Including one suggestion that, to me, was baffling.

“Don’t eat potatoes and eggs together,” she said, explaining that the combination was supposedly harmful to your health.

She might as well have been wagging her finger at me and my entire family in America, not to mention entire countries in the West. ….

I had yet to perish from my allegedly “hazardous” egg and potato dishes. And as far as I could tell, the entire country of Spain was doing just fine, with no plans to suddenly cancel one of their most beloved foods. How was it possible that biting into a potato omelette would put your life at risk?

To read the whole post, head on over to WWAM BAM. And if you like it, share it!

 

Should You Leave Behind Facebook and Its AMWF Communities? – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM! just published my post titled Should You Leave Behind Facebook and Its AMWF Communities?

While I’ve been following the news on Facebook and Cambridge Analytica, I was particularly inspired to write this post after hearing the most recent episode of the NPR show On the Media. They invited a number of experts on the show, who highlighted how Facebook, not Cambridge Analytica, ought to concern us more.

Then I started pondering how I’ve used Facebook to connect to the community — and whether or not I could leave, turning into this post. Here’s an excerpt:

Unless you’ve been taking a social media detox or avoiding the news, you’ve probably heard about the recent scandal involving the Facebook data leak. But while much of the spotlight has been on Cambridge Analytica, many experts are saying we should be far more concerned about Facebook.

So what does this have to do with the relationships we write about — such as AMWF (Asian Male, White Female), AMXF (Asian Male, Non-Asian Female) and WWAM (Western Women, Asian Men)? The many, many connections I’ve made on Facebook through the community.

I don’t know about you but I’ve long turned to Facebook to connect with many people in the AMXF/AMWF/WWAM communities.

Head on over to WWAM BAM to read the full post.

How about you? Have you thought about leaving Facebook?

What are YOU looking forward to most for Chinese New Year? – Pub’d on WWAM BAM

The blog WWAM BAM! just published a group post titled What are YOU looking forward to most for Chinese New Year?, and it includes a contribution from me. Here’s what I wrote:

This is my first Chinese New Year ever in Beijing, and there’s something thrilling about living in a city that has these larger-than-life historical monuments, particularly during the holidays. My husband and I always traditionally include worship as part of our Chinese New Year customs – usually paying respects to ancestors, but also visiting temples when we have the opportunity. But this year, we can follow in the footsteps of past emperors in Beijing and pray at the Temple of Heaven.

I’m also psyched about food. Since I’m on duty during the holiday, we won’t have a lot of time to prepare. But we’re going to order out jiaozi dumplings from one of my favorite restaurants in town, Xian Lao Man (which happens to have quite a few vegan-friendly options). We’ll also prepare a couple of our own dishes – a fancy tofu stir-fry for me, and a spicy stir-fried fish for Jun.

Finally, as a huge fan of the Olympics, I’m looking forward to all of the outstanding holiday programming provided by the international sporting event.

Happy Chinese New Year!

To find out what the other 6 contributors are looking forward to during Chinese New Year, read What are YOU looking forward to most for Chinese New Year? And if you like it, share it!

3 American WWAMs in Asia Share Thanksgiving Stories – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM just published my post titled 3 American WWAMs in Asia Share Thanksgiving Stories. Here’s an excerpt from my contribution to the piece:

As a longtime vegan, Thanksgiving – a holiday that revolves around turkey – never ranked as one of my favorite holidays. So when I moved to China, where the fourth Thursday of November is just another average workday, I didn’t feel the need to resurrect the holiday and celebrate it in spite of being half a world away from my American family.

But all that changed after I moved back to America for a period of time with my husband Jun, who is Chinese. While he often jokes he’s an “80 percent vegan,” the reality is my guy loves to have a little meat and fish on occasion. We’ve managed to make our dietary differences work in our marriage with mutual respect and understanding.

Well, one of things I discovered in America is this – Jun loves turkey. A lot.

To read the full story — and also read contributions from two other fantastic bloggers — head on over to WWAM BAM. And if you like it, share it!

Differences Between Northern and Southern China – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM just published a collaborative article on Differences Between Northern and Southern China, inspired by my recent move to Beijing. Four Western women married to Asian me, including myself, share our experiences about leaving one latitude for another. Here’s my contribution to the post:

In China, I’ve lived the southern life for years, residing in the Hangzhou region my husband calls home. But recently I’ve moved from Hangzhou to China’s great northern capital of Beijing. Sure, I’m looking forward to enjoying a fully heated apartment in the winter, something you don’t often have in Hangzhou (where it’s common for people to wear their coats even indoors during the coldest months). But I’d like to share some of the differences I’ve experienced that you might not necessarily expect.

If you follow my blog, you probably know my husband and I drove up to Beijing. One pleasant reality we discovered in the city – they allow free street parking on designated parking spots, something increasingly difficult to find in Hangzhou. However, Hangzhou beats Beijing hands down when it comes to green buses. The vast majority of buses in Hangzhou are either electric or powered by natural gas, but I’ve yet to see even one example of this green public transport on the streets of Beijing.

Our eating habits have also changed since moving up here. Back in Hangzhou we bought our vegetables from the community fresh market and cooked exclusively at home. But here in Beijing, my employer has a cafeteria that serves up breakfast, lunch and dinner, and there are several super-affordable cafeterias just across the street at the university. All of them serve up some of the most mouth-watering cafeteria food I’ve ever tasted, and because the price (and flavor) is right, we’ve cooked maybe a handful of meals at home. Does Beijing have more of a “cafeteria culture” than Hangzhou, thanks to its wealth of state and government-owned institutions that also provide food service? I don’t know, but I’m loving the experience of leaving the cooking to someone else for a change!

Head on over to WWAM BAM to read the full post. And if you like it, share it.

WWAM of the Month: Bianca Wan – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM just ran my latest WWAM of the Month interview with Bianca Wan, a Brazil native residing in Chongqing. Here’s an excerpt from the interview:

What attracted you to your husband?

I had an instant crush on him because he was a real gentleman and had the features I find attractive in a man. What I love the most about my husband is that he always supports me. He is a very just person and is reasonable most of the time. Plus he never gets tired of my constant need of hugs. Brazilians love hugs. I’m a Taurus as well – we’re very passionate lovers.

Head on over to WWAM BAM! to read the full interview. And if you love it, share it!

WWAM of the Month: Toni – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM! (Western Women, Asian Men – Breaking All Molds) just published my piece spotlighting our WWAM of the Month: Toni. Here’s an excerpt from the piece:

If the WWAM community held a talent show, you can guarantee Toni would shine onstage. This native of Alexandria, Virginia is a singer-songwriter who can play piano and the guitar. She also speaks Mandarin Chinese, one of the languages she shares with her fiancé Min, who she met while teaching English in Zhengzhou. Wow!

We sat down with Toni to learn more about everything from how she came to China to what it’s like having a bilingual relationship.

Head on over to WWAM BAM! to read the full interview. And if you like it, share it!

On Attraction Between White Women/Asian Men And What’s “Normal” – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

In case you missed it, WWAM BAM! recently published my post titled On Attraction Between White Women/Asian Men And What’s “Normal”. Here’s an excerpt from the piece:

“It’s totally normal for white Western women not to be sexually attracted to Asian men,” wrote a woman in a comment I happened to read.

I shouldn’t have been stunned or surprised by her words. Hadn’t I heard variations on this theme before? After all, I’d been privy to many conversations where white Western women dismissed the possibility of dating Asian men in all sorts of ways. Sometimes in unprintable language.

But I was jarred by her comment, feeling the mental equivalent of a sudden static shock pulse through me as I read it. That’s because there was a time when it might have applied to me. That I might have concluded my own pre-China track record of exclusively dating white guys was “normal” and “natural”.

Head on over to WWAM BAM! to read the full post. And if you like it, share it.

WWAM of the Month: Jo Bai – Pub’d on WWAM BAM

My interview with Jo Bai, the fabulous blogger at Life Behind the Wall, was just published on WWAM BAM! Here’s the introduction to the interview:

If you asked me to name some of the most influential and inspiring bloggers I’ve met in China, I’d count Jo Bai among them. She’s the voice behind the popular blog Life Behind the Wall, where she’s written about everything from Chinese culture and dating to things China newbies do incorrectly. But I also admire her for her entrepreneurial spirit (she launched her own online clothing business Heilan Fashions) and willingness to take risks in the name of living out her dreams.

We sat down with Jo Bai to learn more about how she’s making great things happen in China, what it takes to make a WWAM relationship work, and more.

To learn more about Jo Bai (and see stunning photos of her and her husband Jet) head on over to WWAM BAM to read the full article.

P.S.: Are you a part of the WWAM (Western women & Asian men) community? Would you like to be featured as our WWAM of the month? We’re always on the lookout for outstanding women and men to feature in this column. If you’d like us to spotlight you through an interview, send an e-mail to [email protected]