From the Archives: Sex, Lies and Infidelity in China

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While I take a much-needed breather this Friday, a recent confidential Ask the Yangxifu question by e-mail had me thinking about sex, lies and infidelity in China. So I’m digging into the archives and sharing some Q&A posts on this topic. See you on Monday!

On Married Men in China Seeking Extramarital Affairs With Western Women. Why does it seem that foreign women are the preferred choice for married men to have an affair with?

Cheating with a Married Chinese Man. A 24-year old Western woman is in love with him. Except, he’s already taken.

How to Avoid Dating Dishonest Chinese Men. Advice that came out of an e-mail from a heartbroken reader who didn’t realize the man she was dating was married and had a pregnant wife.

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3 Replies to “From the Archives: Sex, Lies and Infidelity in China”

  1. I think cheating is everywhere except in China most women turn a blind eye for economical reasons.

    I remember my tour guide in China telling me that she caught her husband walking in the mall with his mistress holding hands and when she confronted him, he said to her “So what are you going to do?” She replied “Nothing, enjoy yourself.”

    There was nothing she could do. She already married him and has a kid. If she divorces him it would be hard for her to even get married because she has a kid. Very limited options in China especially when you live in a small town like she did.

  2. People have pointed out this is not unique for China. The society is partly trapped in old feudal system and bears higher tolerance for cheating.

  3. People say Latino cheat a lot, I met someone who said to me: Spanish women will run away with someone else if they can. Ok he didn´t know I was Spanish cause we met 30 minutes ago, talked in English and he was reading to me something he found on the internet.
    I only said: Well, I have never done that, but If I am with someone who says that about me, it might happen if there is someone else who shows respect and trust.
    Cheating is when there is no honesty, if the other person knows what you are doing and doesn´t say or do anything then he or she is allowing you to continue.
    I don´t know if this is related to a nationality, I like to think is not.

    But I can say that reading all your articles and comments I have realized that we can´t just say “Westerns” cause we are different from US to Europe, from East Europe to West Europe..

    Those Chinese who are living in US are totally different from the ones I know living in France / Spain / Finland. So I guess we can´t generalize after all,…

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