Just this weekend, John and I weathered two crises.
One happened with this site — my host decided to turn off his server by the end of this month. I suddenly realized that I couldn’t move things like I expected, my old host wasn’t responsive, and I didn’t know where to find someone who could help me in time (thank you Sorella Design, for the extraordinary hosting and moving help, and BlogVault, which made it possible to get my databases and files off my former host).
The other happened with John — he didn’t get an internship, and now he’s scrambling to get applications together for the next round by Thursday, March 1.
But it’s our love that keeps us moving forward. And that got me thinking about all the times on this site when I’ve written about love in China and crises. So, to give this writer a chance to catch her breath, I’m sharing a few classic crisis-related entries for anyone who could use a little more drama. (Yeah, right 😉 )
Love in the Time of Stomach Inflammation. What should have been a romantic night together for John and I turned into a night at the hospital.
On the Border, at the Public Security Bureau. When I had to face the Public Security Bureau in Hangzhou — and the consequences of my expired visa — John stayed by my side.
Negotiating For My Life in China. One thing I always admired about John — he’s a fighter. See how he helped me fight against my former boss in China.
Love in the Time of SARS.When SARS struck Shanghai, John and I were still a young couple in love, trying to hold onto that romance in the midst of this deadly viral outbreak.
How has love helped you through the hard times?
My apologies for being a downer but I think so far love hasn’t helped me through crises. When I was dating my Korean ex, and each time I was upset or something, he pretty much dropped me off at my parents instead of staying by my side; when my Korean ex abandoned me the way he did, all my Korean friend ever said was good riddance and that he used me. When my grandfather was in the hospital, this event really did show me who was supportive and who was not, and unfortunately neither my friend nor Korean ex fit the bill. A friend who’s a girl did try to be there for me in her own way. When she’d text me, she always asks how he’s doing; she even attended my sister’s wedding with me when I didn’t have anyone else to go with.
I’m sorry he didn’t get matched. For what little it’s worth, I know a few people in that boat with him. Maybe it’s because I’m an MD/MPH, but I can’t figure out why they require an internship to graduate if they only have spots for 50% of all applicants.
It’s good that you have finally migrated your blog without further problems. As for John’s internship, keep faith and just as in all the crises you went through with John when you were having problems that you have related, there is hope. I read all four of the posts you mentioned and they were inspiring.
I wish john luck, hope you 事事顺利！(everything goes well)
Wish everythings will go the way you want soon, for good. Remember the saying goes “As bitterness ends, sweetness comes”.
You guys had quite a few dramas. Only strong minds will out last crises, that shows real characters.
@cvaguy “As bitterness ends, sweetness comes”. 苦尽甘来，哈哈。
I’m so sorry to hear about this, but you’re right–when you have a supportive partner at your side, it makes life a lot easier. (Sveta, I’m so sorry about your ex. I know how that feels and it’s very disheartening.) As with your website, I hope the match issue is only a temporary problem and gets resolved soon. I’m a firm believer that all things happen for a reason. Maybe that fabulous internship with a bridge to your future is just around the corner, but you wouldn’t know about it unless you first experienced this hardship. All the best of luck on John’s applications!!
If John is a U.S citizen, I think he will be getting his internship soon. Life works in strange ways and I know everything will be fine with him. Just be positive , think positive and love yourself and wife , everything will fine. I’ve been through alot so I know how it feels to struggle.