Pub’d in the Huffington Post: An Open Letter to the Girl Whose Interracial Relationship Ended

%e5%b1%8f%e5%b9%95%e5%bf%ab%e7%85%a7-2016-12-05-%e4%b8%8b%e5%8d%8810-58-19The Huffington Post just ran my piece titled An Open Letter to the Girl Whose Interracial Relationship Ended, which I first published on this blog.

In case you haven’t read it yet, here’s a snippet:

I was shocked to learn your steady Asian boyfriend of several years had left you.

Even though we’ve never met in person, I feel like you’re an old friend. Maybe that’s because we’ve both been in interracial relationships with Asian men. Or because I came to know you through what you shared with me over the years. Or even because you’ve supported me when I needed it most.

So I don’t think it’s enough to just say, “I’m sorry.” Sorry is such a small word, and small comfort. Honestly, I would rather give you hugs, just holding you the way friends have for me when I’ve weathered breakups.

You can read it all at the Huffington Post. And if you love it, share it!

P.S.: I’m in the process of moving this week, so I might be slow to respond to comments. Thanks in advance for your understanding!

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3 Replies to “Pub’d in the Huffington Post: An Open Letter to the Girl Whose Interracial Relationship Ended”


    “But last year, when I was seven months pregnant, my Anglo-Australian husband and I found a leaflet stuck to our car outside a Melbourne hardware store. It was a badly photocopied image of a little black boy and a white girl seen through the scope of a gun. Written on it in big black letters was “Stop race mixing.”

    “Too late now,” I told my husband.

    My college-educated friends were horrified, wondering how I could joke about such terrible racism. I could because it wasn’t a rock through the window. It wasn’t a fist to the face, or a polite but suspect withdrawal of a job offer — all things I have seen happen to friends from my old neighborhood. Yet I’m aware that what I now dismiss as the pathetic mad ramblings of a white supremacist would be a genuine menace to my safety if I were still living in that house with the broken window.”

    I do not know how she is certain it will not happen to her where she currently lives. One thing for sure…despite racism everywhere, this kind of thing rarely happens in China or Japan or for that matter anywhere in Asia. It is mostly a phenomenon in white countries. Until Japan or China has a leader like Donald Trump or Pauline Hanson, I will always argue that there is less racism against IR couples in Asia than in the majority white countries.

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