When Eileen Fogg, the blogger behind My Neon Sign Lullaby, told me she would share the story of how she and Dawen, her Taiwanese hubby, got together, I couldn’t wait. I think anyone who’s followed Eileen for some time will agree that she’s one of the most lovable voices out there, and also a talented artist to boot. In fact, she’s generously shared some of her art with me for this piece. If you love her art, make a purchase at her Zazzle Store.
If somebody told me that I would be married to a down-to-earth Taiwanese guy and eventually move to Taiwan for an adventure, I would probably chuckle and think nothing of it.
I met Dawen online, out of all places. I did my normal routine. I would get online in the morning to check my messages on myspace (wait, what is that?) in the morning. I usually only responded to people I knew, but something told me to respond to Dawen’s message. Dawen’s message was sincere, respectful, not pig-headed. I felt like his message was old-fashioned with a modern twist. I mean, he didn’t say “my lady,” or anything. Who would’ve thought I was responding to my future husband? It’s like the quote, “Life happens when you’re busy making plans.”
I thought he was even more handsome in person! It’s weird because even when we met for the very first time, we talked to each other as if we’re childhood friends. I never felt so comfortable with anybody before. We can disagree with each other while still being civilized. We pick each other up when one of us is down. We encourage each other to get out and take risks and deal with the low blows of daily life.
Dawen and I may have grown up in two different countries but in the end, we can totally relate to each other. The more we talk about our childhood the more we relate to each other. Go figure!
When he proposed to me, he didn’t do the cliche of bending down in one knee. I liked that. I was watching television while Dawen was in another room using the computer. All of a sudden, Dawen pops out and tells me to pick out a ring online. I got up from the couch all puzzled and looked at the computer screen – wedding rings. I picked the ruby ’cause it’s my favourite stone. Getting hitched felt normal. It was no Cinderalla story but I felt comfortable and it was my kind of romantic. It felt right because I’m in a relationship where it doesn’t define me or take over my identity. I’m still me. I still have interests and goals who just happens to have a best friend to share them with. I actually didn’t get an engagement ring but the thing is, I lost so much weight that I had to get another wedding ring. Now when people look at my wedding ring, they think I had an engagement ring all along. No, my “original” wedding ring kept falling off the finger and I was afraid to lose it so I put it on my bigger finger. On our 5th year anniversary, Dawen have me another wedding ring. Yes, another ruby.
My husband is detail oriented, a great planner, and organized. I am completely the opposite. Due to this, Dawen was the one who organized the wedding. I liked the fact that the ceremony was small and sweet in Key West. I couldn’t ask for more. I am easy going (I keep Dawen calm). I’m messy so it’s great to have somebody who inspires me not be as such. When you clean your room, in a way you clean the gutter in your head. (I am not going to lie, I am still pretty messy. I don’t think I will ever be as organized as him.)
I honestly thought I would be living in a small house in New England with a bunch of cats and work in Home Depot at the paint section. Well, that was my plan. I’m now writing this while I sip my cup of coffee at a cafe in downtown Taipei. It’s crazy! It’s funny how you’ve been told to have “common sense,” and “have both your feet on the ground.” I’ll be honest, I did neither of those things. I was crazy to take a plane ride to Florida to be with him and get married in Key West. I was crazy to get a plane ride to Taiwan to start from scratch at almost-30 years old. Dawen can now finally show me his childhood, culture, and lifestyle while creating new memories on the beautiful island. I’m grateful.
Dawen has become my favourite travel buddy. Now that we’re living in Taipei, we’ll be visiting China (as well as Hong Kong), South Korea, and New Zealand in the near future. (Pinches self) Ouch.
How did you meet? Why do you love him/her (or Chinese men/Western women)? How two different people “complete each other” in unexpected ways? We’re looking for a few good stories from Chinese men and Western women in love to share on Fridays. Submit your original story or a published blog post today.