On Moving: My "Too Much Stuff" And My Husband's Little Blue Duffel Bag | Speaking of China

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  1. jack
    jack July 2, 2012 at 3:14 am | | Reply

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  2. Kedai
    Kedai July 2, 2012 at 3:14 am | | Reply

    Moving is a bear…. I’ll have to relocate from Europe to China in the next couple of months, and I am absolutely dreading the hassle of it; so, on that front, I can sympathize.

    Good luck to you both and I’m looking forward to the writing you’ll share with us in your new locale.

  3. Sveta
    Sveta July 2, 2012 at 6:46 am | | Reply

    Good luck with the move. The last time I moved somewhere was when I was twelve years of age moving from Dallas to another city. LOL I’m scared now at the idea of moving somewhere and packing stuff I’ll need. (Will need tons of boxes just for my books, five or six boxes for my dvd stuff, music and movies and so forth… then there are drives and my computer and clothing and other essentials…)

  4. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian July 2, 2012 at 7:47 am | | Reply

    Like John, I used to move with one bag. A taxi would more than contain all that I had. It was nice. No hassle. You could move place anytime. Then as the years pass, without knowing you have accumulated a ton of things. In my case, mostly books. And now moving would be a hassle. Ah, the freedom of having little. The joy of being mobile.

    @Kedai, I am curious. Kedai is Malay for shop.

  5. Katrina Miller-Fallick
    Katrina Miller-Fallick July 2, 2012 at 3:25 pm | | Reply

    Good luck on the move! We will be moving this fall as well, but we are the opposite. I always say I “hate stuff”. It stresses me out to have more than I need. I’d love to have just a duffle bag.

    My fiance is the oposite. He has SO MUCH STUFF (part of the reason for our move, we can’t fit in my tiny 2 bedroom apartment) and has warned me that what I have seen is only a SMALL portion of his books, movies, music and art collections.

  6. namenotgiven
    namenotgiven July 2, 2012 at 6:29 pm | | Reply

    I am just happy you both made the trip safely! Moving, yep you begin to wonder how you obtained x,y, and z, as you sort through everything, and then some things you forgot you had. I think that a good yearly purge of stuff you no longer need helps a lot.

    I envy you only having to go through moving once.
    The most horrendous move I made was with a cart down a huge hill into another dorm one person to help with some of it. At least five or six times on that day. Needless to say, my plants in didn’t survive.

  7. Allen
    Allen July 2, 2012 at 9:45 pm | | Reply

    I ended up enacting the 18 month policy. When we move, we write the date on the packing tape. If 18 months later the tape remains unbroken, the box is thrown out without being opened. Exceptions of course for the various heirlooms and the like we have from family members.

    The trick is I can’t let my wife look in there, because if she looks she’ll start rationalizing why we need to keep it. So I take it out, open it and decide if it goes to the dumpster or over to the Chinese Student Association to pass around.

  8. cvaguy
    cvaguy July 2, 2012 at 10:46 pm | | Reply

    I came to US with two suit cases. First move was packed in one car. Second move was packed in a big van. Third move was … omg did I really buy that many stuff?
    Moving is tough I have to say. It took me a long time to unpack… good luck with the move.

  9. Barbara
    Barbara July 3, 2012 at 2:03 am | | Reply

    Last summer I’ve made a decision to stay with my chinese bf and moved here from Poland in March. I also had two suitcases but took only four or five t-shirts and two pairs of shoes cause I already knew that it’s more important to take the things which I can’t buy here. So I brought books, my painting/drawing tools, a lot of coffee, chocolate and gifts for my boyfriend’s family. I don’t care much about clothes – in my case they get dirty sooner or later 😉 Sure that I miss my collection of prints, drawings and figures but it would be just weird to bring all those things to China.
    My bf has lots of stuff at his parent’s home but when he moved to our new flat he took just a few shirts, his suit, undrewear and a toothbrush.
    Sill, after these three months, our appartment seems to be quite empty. But my boyfriend’s sister and her husband (they live next door and moved in shortly before us) or our neighbours have really cluttered flats with tones of strange stuff (I’ll never get it why adult people here buy those huge teddy bears, plush rabbits and QQ pinguins for themselves ;)).

  10. Nathalie
    Nathalie July 3, 2012 at 7:37 am | | Reply

    My Chinese boyfriend is the same way as John. He also had to live with roommates during his university days and since it was away from home, he mostly just had clothes that followed him. All he needed was the home cooked meals his mom would make him to take back when he would come back during the holidays. 😉 When we first met, I was surprised at how little he had at his place.

    Compared to him, I pretty much lived on my own and had space to fill; I also slowly bought my furniture and other household items so it would not be a big expense all at once later on. This works out because when he moved in with me, there was still enough room in my apartment for his [little] belongings!

    Now that we will be moving to our first home in 7 months, I am happy to have most of the furniture/items needed to make a home, a home. However, I am still going through everything I have not used in the past year or two and giving it away (unless it is some sort of family heirloom, as Allen above mentioned). The only things I can’t part with are my ton of books and painting/art supplies; they are unfortunately more than just a duffel bag!

  11. piaochong
    piaochong July 3, 2012 at 11:35 pm | | Reply

    I am having a similar problem at the moment. I plan to spend most of my life in China with my future Husband (Engaged for two weeks now!) But i think he could never understand the fact that at my mothers home in Australia I have boxes and boxes of books, clothes and just…things that i have kept all these years. I still don’t know how/ if i will bring it all over to China, or if i should just leave it there! Planning to go back for three weeks very soon and I think i might do a big clean out! Haha

  12. 丁杰
    丁杰 July 4, 2012 at 2:02 am | | Reply

    Well China has developed rapidly We welcome the white girl living in China ….. I know that most Chinese boys and Russian girls Ukraine, Belarus ….. In northern China near the Russian Northern young boys young boys than in the south to high 4CM to 10CM Yes China has a different man 1.Beautiful ..2Ugly …3 High short ..4 Fat thin 5….. Humor, kindness and sincere smart ::::…. Yes \…. we are different .. .I hope …. more Chinese boys want to know a white girl ….Chinese boys like smart Kind-hearted Yes … Good girl

  13. 丁杰
    丁杰 July 4, 2012 at 2:50 am | | Reply

    Chinese boy likes a girl He will use he practical action to prove it Mouth to say I love you to easily……………Yes……Chinese men intense emotion May be only a month But love is life One will always support you love your man

  14. Bruce
    Bruce July 4, 2012 at 9:30 pm | | Reply

    I really don’t know how am I going to move like this. Seriously, I have lots of things. Since I like so many things and interests within a few yrs, I do have many items . It’s not even funny when I think about it. It took us 6 months to arrange everything on our last move. Why so long? hmmm we worked also.. Don’t buy junks. Just buy high quality items so you only have to buy once. I won’t move for another 25 yrs 🙂 lol to a smaller lot and home.


  15. Dave
    Dave July 5, 2012 at 9:30 am | | Reply

    I wonder if George Carlin’s famous standup routine, “A Place for My Stuff,” would translate well into Chinese? I do think your husband would get a KICK out of that routine! 😀

  16. Susan Blumberg-Kason
    Susan Blumberg-Kason July 11, 2012 at 5:15 pm | | Reply

    I think it’s great how you’ve shown John to expand a bit and how he’s shown you to conserve. I think American students are way too spoiled in college and seem to think they have to move into their dorms with a proper dowry! I prefer the Chinese way!

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