Tibetan husbands, dating Chinese pop stars, and other unusual stories of Chinese men & Western women in love

Kumbum Ta'er monastry at Xining, Qinghai China (photo by Remko Tanis via Flickr.com)
Kumbum Ta’er monastry at Xining, Qinghai China (photo by Remko Tanis via Flickr.com)

This week, I’ve stumbled upon a number of incredibly unique stories in the blogosphere about Chinese men and Western women in love. While I’m on deadline these days (and need a break from my usual posts) I thought I would share some of these fantastic blogs/posts with you. Enjoy!

A Tibetan-American love story in Qinghai

Earlier this week, a reader tipped me off to a few new AMWF bloggers — and one of them fascinated me the moment I read the short intro in her blog’s sidebar:

I’m Kimberly, an American lady living in western China with my Tibetan husband and our beautiful baby girl

Wow.

Kimberly’s About page offers a glimpse into how it all happened:

Following my stint in the home of Peking Duck, I went back to the states to get my Master’s Degree in Library and Information Science. (That’s right, I am a certified librarian.) By then I was itching to get back to China and decided to make my home out west, where the air is cleaner, the food is heartier, and the people are diverse.

I used to joke with my parents before I left that I was going to find a nice man there and settle down. To my surprise and delight (and my mother’s disappointment) it really happened. K and I were married on July 28th 2012…

…and on August 2nd 2012. We had two weddings, one western style in the city and one Tibetan style in the village.

Boy, what I wouldn’t give to sit down with Kimberly and hear the details of how she met and married her husband! Still, since starting her blog in March 2014, she’s already offered a lot of insight into her fascinating and unique life, including why she loves China, what she and her husband eat at home, pregnancy and birth in Qinghai, and local expectations for new mothers. This is definitely one blog to watch.

Dating a Chinese Pop Star

I’ve had my share of relationships with Chinese men (including my marriage to John), but I’ll never know — as Hannah Lincoln has reported on Beijing Cream — what it’s like to date a Chinese pop star:

Xiao Li was part of a gang of pop-folk musicians that included not just his band mates, all singers, but also their brothers and cousins and mentors and girlfriends and gal pals.

I had gone that night to get my culture on and enjoy some folk music. Awkward but uninhibited, I picked off one of the shy ones to practice my Chinese. We were having a pleasant conversation until his strikingly handsome friend cut in. He said I was really pretty and clinked beers with me. When I replied in Chinese, he slapped his hand on his face – “Wah! I didn’t know you’d understand me!” He then asked for my number, said he wanted to treat me to a meal.

…After a few weeks, I looked up Xiao Li’s band on Baidu. Apparently they had won China’s version of American Idol and were a go-to choice for the Party at official events.

Hannah recounts her time as the girlfriend of a pop star in China with honesty about it all, including her own missteps in the relationship. It’s a long post, but also worth reading and discussing.

What one Chinese man thinks of his foreign girlfriend

It’s no secret the the vast majority of stories about Chinese men and Western women in love are written by the women. And if we do hear from the men, rarely is it about a relationship that blossomed in China — one that, for that matter, is still going strong.

That’s why I’ve loved this recent post from C, the boyfriend of Spanish blogger Marta of Marta Lives in China. Here’s a snippet of his post, which reads like a valentine to Marta:

But Marta changed my point of view. She knows what is the real happy life, she prefers traveling to different countries rather than buying a CHANEL, she thinks we do not need to buy a house of our own(sorry but that is still one of my shot-term aims), she prefers walking more than driving a car, she is so kind and so nice to every member of my family, she is always so kind and polite, and she loves music.

Marta, he’s a keeper!

Check out the full post here, including a unique photo of the couple with tropical flowers in their hair.

Have you come across any unusual stories of Chinese men and Western women in love? Share them — or link to them — in the comments!

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14 thoughts on “Tibetan husbands, dating Chinese pop stars, and other unusual stories of Chinese men & Western women in love

  • April 25, 2014 at 2:10 pm
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    I agree with you, Jocelyn! The third one captures my attention!! I wonder what my husband would write about me. Maybe I will get him to write a post for my blog sometime!!

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  • April 26, 2014 at 9:51 am
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    Lovely stories. Good luck to all couples I guess.

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  • April 26, 2014 at 1:17 pm
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    Thanks for mentioning us, Jocelyn! 😉
    I already read Hannah’s article a couple of days ago, I will check Kimberly’s. I have never been in western China!

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  • April 26, 2014 at 8:45 pm
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    Thanks Jocelyn,
    Love them all, what a nice community. Hope to join you some day again.

    Laura

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    • April 30, 2014 at 9:53 pm
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      You’re welcome! Looking forward to seeing your new site, Laura! (Please send me the URL when it’s ready.)

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  • April 28, 2014 at 5:42 pm
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    Hi Jocelyn,
    I was unable to comment on your blog before but I want to try again. Thanks for showcasing my blog on yours! I’ve been enjoying yours for a little while now. I’m just starting to get into blogging actively again and I was excited to find and read yours. Since I am behind the Great Firewall most of the time it is difficult to set everything up and make things work, so I am still working on it. As time goes on I hope we can get to know each other better.

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    • April 30, 2014 at 9:49 pm
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      Thanks for the comment, Kimberly! I’ve enjoyed your blog so far and look forward to getting to know you better as well!

      P.S.: Apologies for the trouble commenting, I had an issue w/ my spam filter. It should be fine now.

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  • May 1, 2014 at 9:37 pm
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    Although it’s definetely an interesting story worth mentioning and very well written, I hope Hannah’s story doesn’t set a prejudice to Chinese musicians. I’m together with my Chinese rock musician for 5 years now, we respect and love each other and have great communication.

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