June’s Magical Yangmei Fruit Brings Thoughts of Love, Family in China – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM! just published my post titled June’s Magical Yangmei Fruit Brings Thoughts of Love, Family in China. Here’s an excerpt from the post:

Nevermind the high humidity. Or the relentless sunshine. Or anyone else who tells me how unbearably hot summers are in China. Who has time to worry about that in June in China, a month that, for me, is inextricably entwined with the arrival of what I consider the country’s most magical fruit – yangmei or Myrica rubra.

If you’ve never bit into the juicy, ruby red goodness that is a yangmei, imagine the world’s most succulent red fruits (like my favorites of cranberry and pomegranate) packed together into one tiny, koosh-ball shaped package. It’s a little bite of ecstasy that will dance across your tastebuds and probably dribble onto the table or your summer clothes, making you look like you indulged in some red wine…but who cares when there’s yangmei on the table?

You can head on over to WWAM BAM! to read the full post. And if you like it, share it!

“Don’t Eat Potatoes and Eggs Together” – and in China, She Wasn’t Alone in This Belief – Pub’d on WWAM BAM

The group blog WWAM BAM just published my post “Don’t Eat Potatoes and Eggs Together” – and in China, She Wasn’t Alone in This Belief. Here’s an excerpt from the post:

Many years ago here in China, I remember sitting down to lunch with the wife of my husband’s cousin on a sultry summer day. Surrounded by the tempting aromas of the many delicacies covering the table, we invariably turned our thoughts – and the conversation – to food.

I still don’t remember exactly how we stumbled upon the idea of foods you should and shouldn’t eat. But somehow, the topic surfaced in our friendly chat at the table. And that’s when she began pointing out some curious combinations of foods you should never, ever eat together. Including one suggestion that, to me, was baffling.

“Don’t eat potatoes and eggs together,” she said, explaining that the combination was supposedly harmful to your health.

She might as well have been wagging her finger at me and my entire family in America, not to mention entire countries in the West. ….

I had yet to perish from my allegedly “hazardous” egg and potato dishes. And as far as I could tell, the entire country of Spain was doing just fine, with no plans to suddenly cancel one of their most beloved foods. How was it possible that biting into a potato omelette would put your life at risk?

To read the whole post, head on over to WWAM BAM. And if you like it, share it!

 

Should You Leave Behind Facebook and Its AMWF Communities? – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM! just published my post titled Should You Leave Behind Facebook and Its AMWF Communities?

While I’ve been following the news on Facebook and Cambridge Analytica, I was particularly inspired to write this post after hearing the most recent episode of the NPR show On the Media. They invited a number of experts on the show, who highlighted how Facebook, not Cambridge Analytica, ought to concern us more.

Then I started pondering how I’ve used Facebook to connect to the community — and whether or not I could leave, turning into this post. Here’s an excerpt:

Unless you’ve been taking a social media detox or avoiding the news, you’ve probably heard about the recent scandal involving the Facebook data leak. But while much of the spotlight has been on Cambridge Analytica, many experts are saying we should be far more concerned about Facebook.

So what does this have to do with the relationships we write about — such as AMWF (Asian Male, White Female), AMXF (Asian Male, Non-Asian Female) and WWAM (Western Women, Asian Men)? The many, many connections I’ve made on Facebook through the community.

I don’t know about you but I’ve long turned to Facebook to connect with many people in the AMXF/AMWF/WWAM communities.

Head on over to WWAM BAM to read the full post.

How about you? Have you thought about leaving Facebook?

WWAM of the Month: Jess Meider – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

Jess Meider

The group blog WWAM BAM just published my interview with WWAM of the Month: Jess Meider. Here’s the introduction to the interview:

Several years ago, when I was invited to be a guest on the cross-cultural talk show “Crossover” on China Central Television (now China Global Television Network), one of the highlights of the experience was the opportunity to meet two other very talented women in the WWAM community, including Jess Meider. Jess sat next to me on the couch and I marveled at her at the end of the show when she and her husband Gao Fang performed a song from their musical group “Chinatown”. What a voice!

I later interviewed her on my blog (see Interview with Jess Meider, One of China’s Best Jazz Vocalists), where I asked her all about how she ended up in China some 20 years ago, how she met her Chinese husband Gao Fang, her start in the music scene in Beijing, and her musical projects over the years. You can purchase her music on iTunes and Amazon.com, follow her on Youtube and Facebook, and learn more about her at Jessmeider.com.

But Jess is more than just an incredible singer-songwriter with some outstanding credentials (such as performing in the VIP venues at the Beijing Olympics and having her music featured in the major Chinese movie “What Women Want”).

She has become known for the natural skincare serums and oils she and her partners sell through The Green Room Skincare company. And did I mention she is a prized instructor at the Yoga Yard here in Beijing?

Since interviewing Jess Meider in late 2015, I wanted to catch up with her in this WWAM of the Month spotlight, exploring everything from her new business and musical projects to what it takes to make a cross-cultural relationship work and how Beijing has changed since she first arrived.

Head on over to WWAM BAM to read WWAM of the Month: Jess Meider. And if you love it, share it!

“Christmas Is Your Chinese New Year”: On Fascinating Similarities Between the Holidays – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM just published my post “Christmas Is Your Chinese New Year”: On Fascinating Similarities Between the Holidays. Here’s an excerpt from the piece:

Christmas is your Chinese New Year.

I’ve heard this phrase uttered countless times by people in China when the holidays roll around, whether it’s Christmas or Chinese New Year.

And while I used to think the comparison was a bit of a stretch, over the years I’ve recoginzed that Chinese New Year and Christmas share fascinating, and sometimes surprising, commonalities.

Here are the most interesting ones I’ve observed over the years:

Good fortune

While Chinese New Year customs have a more obvious connection to good fortune (such as how red couplets and firecrackers would scare away the evil Nian monster) even Christmas was traditionally about good luck and protection during the darkest time of the year.

To read the full piece, hop on over to WWAM BAM! And if you like it, share it!

What are YOU looking forward to most for Chinese New Year? – Pub’d on WWAM BAM

The blog WWAM BAM! just published a group post titled What are YOU looking forward to most for Chinese New Year?, and it includes a contribution from me. Here’s what I wrote:

This is my first Chinese New Year ever in Beijing, and there’s something thrilling about living in a city that has these larger-than-life historical monuments, particularly during the holidays. My husband and I always traditionally include worship as part of our Chinese New Year customs – usually paying respects to ancestors, but also visiting temples when we have the opportunity. But this year, we can follow in the footsteps of past emperors in Beijing and pray at the Temple of Heaven.

I’m also psyched about food. Since I’m on duty during the holiday, we won’t have a lot of time to prepare. But we’re going to order out jiaozi dumplings from one of my favorite restaurants in town, Xian Lao Man (which happens to have quite a few vegan-friendly options). We’ll also prepare a couple of our own dishes – a fancy tofu stir-fry for me, and a spicy stir-fried fish for Jun.

Finally, as a huge fan of the Olympics, I’m looking forward to all of the outstanding holiday programming provided by the international sporting event.

Happy Chinese New Year!

To find out what the other 6 contributors are looking forward to during Chinese New Year, read What are YOU looking forward to most for Chinese New Year? And if you like it, share it!

25 More Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married or Engaged (The January 2018 Edition) – Pub’d on WWAM BAM

The group blog WWAM BAM just published 25 More Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married or Engaged (The January 2018 Edition).

It’s my latest edition of the highly popular series of 25 Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married or Engaged. (I first unveiled the project in April 2017 and followed up with another round in June 2017.)

Here’s an excerpt from the post:

Kristel Ouwehand is an artist from Canada married to a Tibetan man, and she started a nonprofit art and culture school together with him in Labrang (Xiahe), Gansu province of western China. Kristel’s school is in danger of closing by March 1, 2018. You can learn more and help support them at www.snowlandart.org, their GoFundMe site, the school’s Facebook page, and their Instagram page.

To see the other 24 photos, head on over to WWAM BAM to read 25 More Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married or Engaged (The January 2018 Edition).

Tibetan Art and Culture School Needs Your Support

One of the wonders of the social media age has been the ability for me to meet so many other people in the AMWF community. That includes Kristel Ouwehand, a talented artist from Canada married to a Tibetan man who started a nonprofit art and culture school together with him.

Now Kristel’s school is in danger of closing by March 1, 2018 and she needs your support. Here’s the story from their GoFundMe page:

The school was started by Kristel Ouwehand in the Tibetan province of Amdo. The goal of the school is to promote Tibetan art and culture.

At this time, the most urgent need of the school is to complete the purchase of the home in which serves as the school and dormitories. Without the home the school will not be able to function and students will be sent back to their families unable to complete their education.

$19,000 (Canadian Dollars) needs to be raised to save the school.

As the students that are selected are mostly from low income nomadic families, Kristel does not charge any tuition for the 4 years of training. Only a token amount of 500 RMB is paid by the families for the entire 4 year period. Remarkably, the school has therefore been funded solely by the sales of Kristel and the students’ artworks as well as commissioned paintings and murals.

You can learn more about the fundraising campaign at GoFundMe. Every donation, even the smallest, can make a difference.

And if you’d like to read more about the story behind the school, head on over to the About Us section of the Snowland Art School website.

Another way you can support the school is through buying art produced by Kristel and her students. There are art auctions you can access through the Snowland Art School website, and also the school’s Facebook page.

And remember, even if you cannot donate, just sharing this story and spreading the word will make a difference.

P.S.: In addition, you can read more about Kristel and the campaign to save her school through this post by fellow blogger Kimberly at WWAM BAM.

Wanted: More of Your Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men

Are you in a WWAM (Western woman/Asian men) relationship? Do you happen to have some share-worthy photos of the two of you? Something really stunning?

Once again, I’m working on a new round of stunning photos of Western women & Asian men for WWAM BAM! – and I would love for you to be a part of it.

This project started back in April 2017 when I published 25 Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married on WWAM BAM! The post quickly went viral (garnering mentions on major blogs including YOMYOMF and NextShark). I followed that up with a call last year for more photos, and later published a second round in June 2017 in 25 More Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married or Engaged (The June 2017 Edition).

It has been a wonderful labor of love to share these photos and show the world just how beautiful WWAM couples can be.

If you’d like to be a part of this project, why not join us by submitting your own photos?

Here are the guidelines:

  1. Photo submissions must come from the individuals featured in the photos (and not a 3rd party).
  2. Photos must be high-resolution.
  3. While you don’t need to be a model/actor, your photos should be stunning. (What do I mean by stunning photos? You can find 25 great examples in my post from June 2017.)
  4. Ideally, I’m looking for engagement, pre-wedding or wedding photos – but I welcome anything that appears professional, regardless of your engagement or marital status. (Again, see the June 2017 post to get a sense for what I mean.)
  5. Please include any information you feel comfortable sharing about yourself and your partner. For example, your names or where the photo was taken or where you both are from. (You can read the June 2017 post to get a sense of what couples chose to share.)
  6. Please also provide me with a link to any websites/blogs/social media sites you would like to include in the post.

Send your favorite photos to me at jocelyn(at)speakingofchina.com

I look forward to receiving your submissions!

3 Things I Find Fascinating About the Winter Solstice in China – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM! just published my post titled 3 Things I Find Fascinating About the Winter Solstice in China. Here’s an except from the piece:

For many families in China, Friday December 22 (which is coming up later this week) is not merely the shortest day of the year. It’s also a time to gather together in celebration of the winter solstice.

Until I married into a Chinese family, I didn’t realize the winter solstice was actually a holiday here. But I’ve been fortunate to experience it with my husband’s family, and here are 3 things I’ve learned about the holiday:

To find out what those 3 things are (oooh, cliffhanger!) head on over to WWAM BAM! And if you love it, share it!