3 American WWAMs in Asia Share Thanksgiving Stories – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM just published my post titled 3 American WWAMs in Asia Share Thanksgiving Stories. Here’s an excerpt from my contribution to the piece:

As a longtime vegan, Thanksgiving – a holiday that revolves around turkey – never ranked as one of my favorite holidays. So when I moved to China, where the fourth Thursday of November is just another average workday, I didn’t feel the need to resurrect the holiday and celebrate it in spite of being half a world away from my American family.

But all that changed after I moved back to America for a period of time with my husband Jun, who is Chinese. While he often jokes he’s an “80 percent vegan,” the reality is my guy loves to have a little meat and fish on occasion. We’ve managed to make our dietary differences work in our marriage with mutual respect and understanding.

Well, one of things I discovered in America is this – Jun loves turkey. A lot.

To read the full story — and also read contributions from two other fantastic bloggers — head on over to WWAM BAM. And if you like it, share it!

Differences Between Northern and Southern China – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM just published a collaborative article on Differences Between Northern and Southern China, inspired by my recent move to Beijing. Four Western women married to Asian me, including myself, share our experiences about leaving one latitude for another. Here’s my contribution to the post:

In China, I’ve lived the southern life for years, residing in the Hangzhou region my husband calls home. But recently I’ve moved from Hangzhou to China’s great northern capital of Beijing. Sure, I’m looking forward to enjoying a fully heated apartment in the winter, something you don’t often have in Hangzhou (where it’s common for people to wear their coats even indoors during the coldest months). But I’d like to share some of the differences I’ve experienced that you might not necessarily expect.

If you follow my blog, you probably know my husband and I drove up to Beijing. One pleasant reality we discovered in the city – they allow free street parking on designated parking spots, something increasingly difficult to find in Hangzhou. However, Hangzhou beats Beijing hands down when it comes to green buses. The vast majority of buses in Hangzhou are either electric or powered by natural gas, but I’ve yet to see even one example of this green public transport on the streets of Beijing.

Our eating habits have also changed since moving up here. Back in Hangzhou we bought our vegetables from the community fresh market and cooked exclusively at home. But here in Beijing, my employer has a cafeteria that serves up breakfast, lunch and dinner, and there are several super-affordable cafeterias just across the street at the university. All of them serve up some of the most mouth-watering cafeteria food I’ve ever tasted, and because the price (and flavor) is right, we’ve cooked maybe a handful of meals at home. Does Beijing have more of a “cafeteria culture” than Hangzhou, thanks to its wealth of state and government-owned institutions that also provide food service? I don’t know, but I’m loving the experience of leaving the cooking to someone else for a change!

Head on over to WWAM BAM to read the full post. And if you like it, share it.

WWAM of the Month: Bianca Wan – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM just ran my latest WWAM of the Month interview with Bianca Wan, a Brazil native residing in Chongqing. Here’s an excerpt from the interview:

What attracted you to your husband?

I had an instant crush on him because he was a real gentleman and had the features I find attractive in a man. What I love the most about my husband is that he always supports me. He is a very just person and is reasonable most of the time. Plus he never gets tired of my constant need of hugs. Brazilians love hugs. I’m a Taurus as well – we’re very passionate lovers.

Head on over to WWAM BAM! to read the full interview. And if you love it, share it!

3 Foreign Women with Kids in China Talk About Chinese Schools – Pub’d on WWAM BAM

The publication of Lenora Chu’s new memoir “Little Soldiers: An American Boy, a Chinese School, and the Global Race to Achieve” has reignited interest in the Chinese education system. Her book examines the pros and cons of Chinese schools through her son’s experiences in a Shanghai kindergarten and her own investigative reporting. While Chu acknowledges the challenges of the Chinese education system, she also praises a number of positive aspects, concluding that American schools could learn from China.

When I was reading this book, I couldn’t help thinking about the many Western women I know in China who have Chinese husbands and children here. What experiences did they have with the Chinese education system? What did they like or dislike about it? Would they send their kids to Chinese schools or prefer to educate them in their own countries?

That inspired me and the team of bloggers at WWAM BAM to search for Western women married to Chinese men who were willing to share their own experiences and perspectives on the Chinese education system. We were fortunate to find Sonia, Charlotte Edwards, and Tiffany, who talked to us about the decisions they made for their children.

We’ve just published their thoughts in a blog post on WWAM BAM titled 3 Foreign Women with Kids in China Talk About Chinese Schools. Each of these ladies had a completely different approach for educating their children, along with different opinions about Chinese schools. Here’s a snippet from the blog post:

Should I send my kids to Chinese schools? It’s a question that many foreign parents in China ask themselves, especially those with a Chinese spouse.

Journalist Lenora Chu asked herself the same question years ago in Shanghai when deciding where to send her son Rainey. She ultimately enrolled him in a local Shanghai kindergarten, and the experience inspired her to examine the Chinese education system as a reporter and mother. Her new memoir “Little Soldiers: An American Boy, a Chinese School, and the Global Race to Achieve” offers a nuanced and balanced perspective on the benefits and drawbacks of the Chinese education system. “Little Soldiers” ought to be required reading for any Westerner wondering if children would benefit from Chinese schooling.

After reading “Little Soldiers” I was curious to know about the experiences of any foreign parents with Chinese schools or their perspectives on the Chinese education system. We asked some Western women who married Chinese men and lived in China about the decisions they made for their children.

To read the full post, head on over to WWAM BAM! A huge thank you to Sonia, Charlotte and Tiffany, as well as fellow blogger Julia Chen, who helped us find and contact these contributors.

Finally, for anyone curious about the Chinese education system, “Little Soldiers” should be required reading. You can find it at Amazon, where your purchases help support this blog.

WWAM of the Month: Pamela – Pub’d on WWAM BAM

Just recently WWAM BAM ran my interview with Pamela, who is our lovely WWAM of the Month. Here’s the intro to that post:

If you’ve viewed our post on 25 More Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married or Engaged (The June 2017 Edition), then you’ve seen Pamela, who graced the final photo in the post.

She hails from the beautiful beach community of Tampico, Mexico, and now calls Taiyuan, China home. With her Spanish-language Youtube channel, she’s helping folks around the world get a new perspective on China en español. (You can also follow her on Instagram.) We sat down with Pamela to learn more about how she landed in China and what it’s like connecting with people on Youtube.

Head on over to WWAM BAM to read the full post. And if you like it, share it!

WWAM of the Month: Toni – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

The group blog WWAM BAM! (Western Women, Asian Men – Breaking All Molds) just published my piece spotlighting our WWAM of the Month: Toni. Here’s an excerpt from the piece:

If the WWAM community held a talent show, you can guarantee Toni would shine onstage. This native of Alexandria, Virginia is a singer-songwriter who can play piano and the guitar. She also speaks Mandarin Chinese, one of the languages she shares with her fiancé Min, who she met while teaching English in Zhengzhou. Wow!

We sat down with Toni to learn more about everything from how she came to China to what it’s like having a bilingual relationship.

Head on over to WWAM BAM! to read the full interview. And if you like it, share it!

On Attraction Between White Women/Asian Men And What’s “Normal” – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

In case you missed it, WWAM BAM! recently published my post titled On Attraction Between White Women/Asian Men And What’s “Normal”. Here’s an excerpt from the piece:

“It’s totally normal for white Western women not to be sexually attracted to Asian men,” wrote a woman in a comment I happened to read.

I shouldn’t have been stunned or surprised by her words. Hadn’t I heard variations on this theme before? After all, I’d been privy to many conversations where white Western women dismissed the possibility of dating Asian men in all sorts of ways. Sometimes in unprintable language.

But I was jarred by her comment, feeling the mental equivalent of a sudden static shock pulse through me as I read it. That’s because there was a time when it might have applied to me. That I might have concluded my own pre-China track record of exclusively dating white guys was “normal” and “natural”.

Head on over to WWAM BAM! to read the full post. And if you like it, share it.

Yes, You! Write for Us at the New Group Blog WWAM BAM!

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As many of you know, a bunch of us started the new group blog WWAM BAM! (Western Women & Asian Men – Breaking All Molds) earlier this year.

But what you may not know is this — we’re always looking for people to write for us.

What do we write about at WWAM BAM? Here’s what our About Page has to say:

We are a group of women from a Western background who are dating or married to men from an Asian culture. AMWF (Asian Male Western Female) couples, or WWAMs (Western Women Asian Men) as we prefer to call them, have in the past been few and far between but in this increasingly globalized world are becoming more common every day. Still, there are cultural differences that such couples will face and our site is here to help you navigate them. At the same time, we make it our mission to weed through the racism and stereotypes about Asian men and culture out there. We all know the truth is never just black and white (or yellow for that matter).

Aside from gripping personal experiences of relationships with Asian men and their families, and of raising AMWF children, this site takes a look at the portrayal of Asian men in Western media and reviews AMWF related productions. We furthermore will spotlight the amazing women out there who have made Asia their family; past and present.

If you are interested in contributing or have any questions, send an email to Laura at [email protected].

We welcome women and men to join us. You can write for us just once, occasionally, or even every month if you like. It’s up to you.

Plus, if you happen to use WeChat, you can join our exclusive WWAM BAM blogging group, where you can be mentored and supported by fellow bloggers (including yours truly). How cool is that?

So what are you waiting for? Send an email today to Laura at [email protected] — come on and join us! 🙂

P.S.: Yes, I also welcome your writing here at Speaking of China, as I regularly feature guest posts on this blog. If you’d like to write for me, have a look at the submit a post page and then email me today with your ideas or a draft.

WWAM of the Month: Jo Bai – Pub’d on WWAM BAM

My interview with Jo Bai, the fabulous blogger at Life Behind the Wall, was just published on WWAM BAM! Here’s the introduction to the interview:

If you asked me to name some of the most influential and inspiring bloggers I’ve met in China, I’d count Jo Bai among them. She’s the voice behind the popular blog Life Behind the Wall, where she’s written about everything from Chinese culture and dating to things China newbies do incorrectly. But I also admire her for her entrepreneurial spirit (she launched her own online clothing business Heilan Fashions) and willingness to take risks in the name of living out her dreams.

We sat down with Jo Bai to learn more about how she’s making great things happen in China, what it takes to make a WWAM relationship work, and more.

To learn more about Jo Bai (and see stunning photos of her and her husband Jet) head on over to WWAM BAM to read the full article.

P.S.: Are you a part of the WWAM (Western women & Asian men) community? Would you like to be featured as our WWAM of the month? We’re always on the lookout for outstanding women and men to feature in this column. If you’d like us to spotlight you through an interview, send an e-mail to [email protected]

25 More Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married or Engaged (The June 2017 Edition) – Pub’d on WWAM BAM!

It’s June 2017 and time for another round of stunning photos of Western women and Asian men! The group blog WWAM BAM! just published 25 More Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married or Engaged (The June 2017 Edition). This time around, these fabulous couples didn’t just share photos — they also shared their stories as well. Here’s one preview to whet your appetite:

Kati (Finland) and her husband (Shanghai, China) in a European-style village in Shanghai, China. They reside in Helsinki, Finland, where she also blogs at Mandarin Stories.

Want to see the other 24 couples — and read their stories? Head on over to WWAM BAM! to see the full post.

P.S.: If you missed the legendary first post that started it all, check out 25 Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married.

P.P.S.: Want to be part of the next round of 25 photos? Read our guidelines.