Guest Post: Asian Men Dominated this Hollywood Fashion Show and the Crowds LOVED it!

Today, I’m running a guest post from Ana Hudson, a model and photographer (who you might remember for a number of superhero-themed guest posts, such as 9 Powerful ‘AMWF Superman’ Photos to ‘Save’ Your Day).


Vince Kelvin, Designer Pam, and the Runway Models (Photo by DW Kim)

Friday, December 28th, 2018. It’s a chilly evening at the Complex Theater, but the pot was stirring across the lands of glamorous Hollywood. Once the trouble bubbled over into the night, the evening would soon be more thrilling than anyone ever expected. This was because the magic of Asian representation would enchant a fashion runway show:  all three male models, one female model, two of three expert photographers, and one clothing stylist represented Asian American backgrounds which included Cambodian, Chinese, Korean, Filipino, and Indian heritage. Eastern European, Western European, African American, Middle Eastern American, and European American heritage also were contributors in the making of a beautiful production.

Fourteen people (seven models, seven crew members) came together that night to put on a beautiful runway show which featured the designs of Vampire Rockstar, which prides itself in being “made for the immortal rockstar in us all”. Vampire Rockstar, an epic clothing brand, whose designers and assistants have worked wonders in the fashion world and with well-known American rock artists such as Michael Jackson and Black Veiled Brides, would be dressing up our models in the amazing glamwear.

Vince Kelvin brings Designer Pam to the Stage who is Thrilled by Applause (Photo by Narendra Chowdary)

This event was held as a feature showcase of the Evolution of Consciousness Event headed by Vince Kelvin and Arash Zepar Dibazar, two globally known experts in seduction and elite lifestyle. Almost every year the duo hold a full weekend of action packed events with dynamic speakers and activities for men and women who are interested in bettering themselves through living life to the fullest and spicing up their dating lifestyle. Their convention this year was supposed to be a full panel of speakers including the leading lesbian dating coach Ana “Flye” Hudson, who suggested doing something more creative than lecturing this year. Instead of being another speaker, why not add in an event of entertainment and ambition? The idea of a fashion show came immediately to mind. Arash and Vince, powerful instructors of the dominant masculine and connoisseurs of the beautiful feminine, both agreed immediately. Flye had immediately set out to work and the glorious fashion show was born.

Models were greeted a few hours before the show to a private room where they would enjoy light refreshments; style their hair; be painted with makeup, kohl and glitter; and be fitted for clothes and shoes. Photographers snapped pictures and videos from behind the scenes, set up equipment, and prepared to be escorted into the red theater where they would capture the magical moments of fashion gracing the stage. The show started, the eyes in the audience danced across the stage as stunners and rockstars of all types walked smoothly to ’97 Jon B and Tupac Shakur. Yes, many would say the music was out of place. But it didn’t matter for everyone was lost in the beauty of it all. It was a night to remember, with moments captured that we are happy to share with the world. Check out images from our Fashion Show, including behind the scenes footage with the models!

Jasmine in the spotlight. Jasmine is an experienced model and actress who has walked many runways. (Photo by Narendra Chowdary)
Sidrich reigns on stage. (Photo by Tony Assi)
Christina Skaya rocks psychedelic colors (Photo by DW Kim)
Justin the Wolf. Justin works as a fitness trainer and as a Youtube entertainer under the name “NoobStrength” (Photo by Narendra Chowdary)
Elizanda Dingle graces the stage. (Photo by DW Kim)
Mike is bulletproof. Mike acts and enjoys making films. (Photo by Narendra Chowdary)
Brittany Paige gives a new meaning to the ‘Cat Walk’ (Photo by DW Kim)
Ana Hudson is overseeing the fashion show (Photo by DW Kim)

YOUTUBE VIDEO:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gjh5Z7fLNqg&feature=youtu.be

CREDITS:
Runway Show Creator and Director: Ana “Flye” Hudson (IG: 6888.models)
Clothing Designer: Pam, “Vampire Rockstar Clothing” (IG: vampire_rockstar)
Assistant Designer: Al Bane (IG: al_bane)
Clothing Stylist and Coordinator: 
Brian Horowitz Chang (IG: thefashionmafiatoo)
Makeup Artist: Pam, “Vampire Rockstar Clothing”
Photographers: 
DW Kim (IG: dwkim_ca)
Narenda Choudary (website: www.snapstoris.com)
Anthony “Tony” Assi (IG: weird.media.fashion)
Models:
Justin Zhang (IG: noobstrength)
Mike James Wong (IG: mikejameswong)
Sidrich Chhour (IG: _sid_3rik)
Jasmine Winfrey (IG: jamine_winds)
Elizanda Dingle (IG: elizanda_dingle)
Christina Skaya (IG: christina.skaya)
Brittany Priestess Paige (IG:priestesspaige)

Ana “Flye” Hudson is the white-passing biracial author of the book “Pet: A Memoir” which details her passionate and thrilling life story dating Asian Dating Coach Jeff Khan. She currently works as a dating coach, dancer, model, and community manager. For fun Flye likes to vlog on Youtube, travel to fun places, and cook beef noodle soup and pasta e fagioli. She is currently working on her second novel and portfolio.


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Guest Post: I Love How This Young Chinese Man Treats My White American Daughter

Today, I’m sharing a short story a reader shared about her white American daughter Jessica, who she introduced to a lovely young Chinese man that has brought happiness to the both of them.

Do you have a story about love or anything else you think would fit this blog? Have a look at the submit a post page and then contact me today with your ideas or draft submission.


My daughter Jessica is as American peaches and cream as you get, and James, who has been in the U.S. for two years, is shy, a little awkward, respectful, brilliant and just a bit goofy. He and my daughter share a love of cats, music, Volkswagen Beetles, and all things anime and “cute.” They text off and on all day and never run out of things to say.

Ordinarily I’d be a little reluctant to let my daughter, who is in her late teens, get close to someone four years older, but James is as innocent as she is (they’ve both never dated anyone before), and I got to know James pretty well over the past couple of years and actually introduced him to my daughter.

Right after I introduced them, a group of us went to dinner for my birthday. Jessica was very shy and withdrawn. And James, knowing that Jessica’s favorite music group is Owl City, arranged with the restaurant somehow to play only Owl City music the entire time. A couple of weeks ago he bought her Hello Kitty Converse shoes, and Jessica reciprocated by giving him no-bake cookies (which I got to make, since Jessica tends to burn things up when she cooks – LOL). Next came snacks from the Asian market that James determined were all “cute,” and banana bread (baked by me, of course) was Jessica’s next thank-you offering. I’ve told her it’s okay to accept these things from James as long as she remembers to show him kindness as well and not just accept gifts as her due.

I have no idea what will happen in the future, but I love this young man and how well he treats both me and my daughter.

I wish I could tell every young Chinese man out there, both in the U.S. and in China, not to give up hope; that there are, indeed, lovely young American women who think Chinese men are desirable and fun, girls who think these young men are exactly what a man should be. Girls who are wise enough to look at a person’s heart and character instead.


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Guest Post: A Stalker of Women Invaded My Shanghai Workplace

An reader, who has asked to remain anonymous, sent me a recent story about a stalker in her workplace in Shanghai.


I didn’t really think about sexual assault for the longest time in China, even though as a woman, it was something we always talked about back home in my Western country. Things often seemed different, even safer, over here. But now I realize I was a little naive, especially after what my coworker told me.

We work at a large company in Shanghai. Most of us are women, the majority Chinese, with a few foreigners like me. And some of us have to work evenings. I do too at times but the night never worried me.

But last week, my Chinese coworker came over to me and said, “Did you hear about the stalker at work?”

I was so shocked she used the words “stalker” and “work” in the same sentence. I mean, this is our office. It had felt so comfortable and friendly most days. And people had to swipe a card to get inside. So how could this be?

She said that the guy is from Shanghai and actually used to work for our company. He got a swipecard from a former employee and then hung out around the building during evenings, when bosses are gone but the evening workers (usually women) are still around. He had swiped his way into our department to harass some of the women. She said he had come to harass women more than once.

My coworker didn’t elaborate on what “harass” exactly meant in, but I could tell from the look on her face that it wasn’t anything good.

But it got worse the other night. The guy followed my coworker all the way to her apartment building. I don’t know if he saw her exact apartment or what, but it was chilling enough to know the creep trailed her.

The news has rattled me a bit. I’ve often bicycled home late at night after getting off at work, and would always say how safe it is because there are so many people out on the streets. Now I’m not so sure.

My coworker said she doesn’t want to work in the evening anymore. And I’m asking myself, should I do the same too?


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Guest Post: AMWF ‘Thor and Sif’ Thunder Ahead in Photos

Enjoy this AMWF Thor and Sif photo collaboration by Ana Hudson, a new model and photographer hitting the scene. This is part of her portfolio titled “Project Justice”, which includes her previous posts: Lucky in Love – 21 Photos of ‘AMWF Iris West, Flash’9 Powerful ‘AMWF Superman’ Photos to ‘Save’ Your Day and 13 Sexy, Fun ‘AMXF Deadpool’ Photos to Make You Smile.

What superhero would you like to see Ana feature in her next photo shoot? Let us know in the comments!

If you are an AMXF couple in the Los Angeles area, Ana Hudson would love to offer you a free/donations accepted photoshoot. To find out more information about planning a photoshoot you can reach her at [email protected]


Credits:
Models: Justin Zhang (IG @NoobStrength) and Liz
Photographer: Ana Hudson (@WhiteChocolatePlayer)

If you are an AMXF couple in the Los Angeles area, Ana Hudson would love to offer you a free/donations accepted photoshoot. To find out more information about planning a photoshoot you can reach her at [email protected]


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Riding the ‘Love Boat’: Ukrainian Woman Falls for Chinese Cruise Ship Colleague

Have you ever imagined romance on the wide, open seas? Meet Mary, a Ukrainian woman who worked on a cruise ship and fell for her colleague from South China. I’m honored to share the tale, along with a lovely collection of photos that document their precious love.

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He asked if he could accompany me on this trip … and he became my companion for life.

I was working on a luxury cruise ship and my day off looked pretty fun. I planned to sail up to Manaus, the capital of northwestern Brazil, for shopping, lunch, a crocodile safari tour in the Amazon river just for crew members, dinner in a traditional Mexican restaurant and clubbing all night.

When my girlfriends and I entered the l boat for the safari tour, which was supposed to take us to see dangerous crocodiles, he was already onboard, taking pictures of the Amazonian waters.

He was the handsome IT engineer on the cruise ship.

I had talked to him on our ship before. He was always very polite and friendly, and this moment was no exception. He asked if he could sit next to me and accompany me on this trip.

I said “Yes,” never realizing it was the beginning of our romance.

The next day we had a date in Manaus city. Then we got together Curacao island, Aruba, St. Martin and Puerto Rico, and along the way our love grew.

Both of us had worked on cruise ships for a few years, traveling all over the world. We shared a lot in common, including the fact that we were both dreamers who were accustomed to taking action to achieve our goals. With him everything always felt easy and enjoyable.

When our working contracts had ended, I flew back to the Ukraine, while he went home to South China. Yet the bond between the two of us remained strong.

Three months after we parted, he arrived in my city of Lviv and we traveled together to all the best places in Ukraine.

Later, I was invited to visit him and his family in Guangzhou, where he proposed to me. I went back home and announced to my parents that I would move to China.

We did not find any obstacles in our way. My parents really liked him, and his parents liked me.

Before the wedding, we lived together for one year. We established our own home and found jobs (as we had resigned from the cruise company). We also traveled together to Shanghai, Hong Kong and Macau, and had a paradise honeymoon in Hawaii. Our wedding supposed to be small, but we ended up with 120 people in attendance. My parents, a few relatives and friends came from Ukraine. It was mix of traditions, with sea-inspired decorations, Chinese cuisine, Ukrainian embroidered towels, a first dance and a hip party for younger guests on the 65th floor of the Hyatt rooftop bar.

Eleven months after the wedding, we were blessed with our gorgeous daughter Alicia, becoming the happiest parents ever. Now seven months old, she is a very interesting and cute little baby.

When we are together, nothing seems impossible. There are no distances, no obstacles and barriers for us. We are citizens of the world. And we will continue to open up this world together and show all of its beauty to our girl.
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Guest Post: Lucky in Love – 21 Photos of ‘AMWF Iris West, Flash’

Enjoy this AMWF Flash and Iris West photo collaboration by Ana Hudson, a new model and photographer hitting the scene. This is part of her portfolio titled “Project Justice”, which includes her previous posts: 9 Powerful ‘AMWF Superman’ Photos to ‘Save’ Your Day and 13 Sexy, Fun ‘AMXF Deadpool’ Photos to Make You Smile.

What superhero would you like to see Ana feature in her next photo shoot? Let us know in the comments!

If you are an AMXF couple in the Los Angeles area, Ana Hudson would love to offer you a free/donations accepted photoshoot. To find out more information about planning a photoshoot you can reach her at [email protected]


With this particular shoot, I focused more on the comic book character version of Iris West. I noticed how red and vibrant her hair was and thought about how lucky and loving the color red is to Asians. I wanted to focus on the color red for this piece- it’s the color of love and luck. How lucky we are to be alive and to love those who mean the most to us. – Ana Hudson, WhiteChocolatePlayer

Credits:
Models: Justin Zhang (IG @NoobStrength) and Angelique Evans (IG @angelique.evans3)
Photographer: Ana Hudson (@WhiteChocolatePlayer)

If you are an AMXF couple in the Los Angeles area, Ana Hudson would love to offer you a free/donations accepted photoshoot. To find out more information about planning a photoshoot you can reach her at [email protected]


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Guest Post: 13 Sexy, Fun ‘AMXF Deadpool’ Photos to Make You Smile

Enjoy this AMXF Deadpool photo collaboration by Ana Hudson, a new model and photographer hitting the scene. This is part of her portfolio titled “Project Justice”, which includes her previous post: 9 Powerful ‘AMWF Superman’ Photos to ‘Save’ Your Day.

What superhero would you like to see Ana feature in her next photo shoot? Let us know in the comments!

If you are an AMXF couple in the Los Angeles area, Ana Hudson would love to offer you a free/donations accepted photoshoot. To find out more information about planning a photoshoot you can reach her at [email protected]


While reflecting on this Deadpool photo shoot, I realized that sometimes the things that seem so horrid in our lives can be the best transformative experiences of all time. There have been a lot of things that I’ve seen in the news about people falling upon hard times, fearing for their safety and for the safety of their loved ones. Sometimes. we wake up and feel like life is a dark, cruel joke played upon us. And who are the ones who are laughing? Our oppressors? Who can laugh when no one wins?

That means one thing: sometimes we need to laugh at the world to get back at it. Not everything is going to go our way. There will always be something sad to hear or something that makes us sicken with rage. But there is no rule that says we cannot churn our rage into passions and create war with our minds and talents. Go forward, create, and laugh as your enemies waste away in their waste. – Ana Hudson, WhiteChocolatePlayer

Credits:
Photographer: Ana Hudson (IG: whitechocolateplayer)
Models: Justin Zhang (IG: NoobStrength) and Marina Bruzadin (IG: marinabruzadin)

If you are an AMXF couple in the Los Angeles area, Ana Hudson would love to offer you a free/donations accepted photoshoot. To find out more information about planning a photoshoot you can reach her at [email protected]


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Guest Post: 9 Powerful ‘AMWF Superman’ Photos to ‘Save’ Your Day

Enjoy this powerful AMWF Superman photo collaboration by Ana Hudson, a new model and photographer hitting the scene. This is part of her portfolio titled “Project Justice”, the first of many more photoshoots like this to come.

She was inspired to contact me by my open call for photos of AMXF (Asian male, non-Asian female) couples. (Incidentally, that open call helped me gather enough photos to publish a January post of 25 More Stunning Photos of Western Women & Asian Men Who Got Married or Engaged)

But Ana offered something different — to share her own work photographing couples in the community.

Next month, Ana will be submitting another superhero shoot. What superhero would you like to see? Let us know in the comments!




In love, we are enthralled and never entitled. We screen the world with our sight- we see opportunities and claim them. We are wise beyond words, we know how to know.



We don’t let rules define us. They make lines for us, but we violently blur them. We float on the skies as their eyes burn is misery. We stand powerful, even against Kryptonite.



The world softens as love glows between us. We pave wonders for the world to witness- we shall love and conquer to set an example for the future. Love will save the day.

Credits:
Models: Justin Zhang, fitness coach and Youtuber ” (IG: NoobStrength) and
Angelina Bower, beautiful fashion model (IG: musicloveandlies)
Photographer: Ana Hudson (WhiteChocolatePlayer)

If you are an AMXF couple in the Los Angeles area, Ana Hudson would love to offer you a free/donations accepted photoshoot. To find out more information about planning a photoshoot you can reach her at [email protected]


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Guest Post: I Got Divorced in China, and What Happened in My Marriage Is More Common Than You Realize

When you blog about love, family and relationships in China for as long as I do, you get to know lots of couples. But while there are love stories, there are also breakups and divorce in China.

Alex is someone I’ve known for years. She shared her love story here back in 2013. But her marriage with a Chinese man unraveled, ending in divorce. Her tale of divorce in China has become an everyday story she tells to the taxi drivers of Qingdao. It’s an act of courage to share stories like this and I’m grateful Alex wrote this piece.

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The taxi driver says, “I’m here! Where are you?”

I reply, “I’m nearly there! Wait one moment, what color is your car?” Moments later, I say to him, “Hi! This is the car I ordered, correct?”

Since 2010 I’ve realized that getting from point A to point B in China has always been a fairly simple task. When the cost of a car sets you back a couple dollars, and they are in high supply, the only time I ever worry about getting around would be during those peak traffic times. And in that case I will rarely leave the house.

Chinese taxi drivers certainly have a reputation for being curious – if anything they should be merited for their ability to test all foreigners in China on their Chinese-speaking abilities. If you can pass the first few questions of the journey, well that merits you have a certain level of experience in China.

When it comes to getting a taxi, it is all about creating a conversation. To communicate is to be human, and to tell a story is to be someone willing to share a piece of your life with an overworked, and often bored, taxi driver. This always seems to be the best opportunity for these conversations., I will never see you again, and you probably won’t see me again, so time for that beautiful exchange.

Qingdao is a city I have called home since my early twenties — a city of 8 million, with sea, mountains and locals that are beyond welcoming. To reiterate a story that I often share with those stranger taxi drivers reveals another side of those international love stories. Because not all love stories, not all magical moments are real life. And not everything we see is as it is.

I met my now ex-husband in 2010, and funnily enough a Chinese fortune-teller actually reminded me about this over a business lunch just yesterday! He was spot on that I had indeed met a love. The story of how I met my ex-husband has nearly been erased from my mind, but I cherish and hold on to the beginning where it seemed to be about love — true love, love that crosses thousands of miles — and that is what brought on my destiny.

Today I have to be brutally honest when I tell those taxi drivers that within the beautiful city of Qingdao, out of all those friendly, smiling, helpful Shandong faces there are in fact a few bad eggs.

Adultery, divorce, rumors, gossip, cheating, lying and manipulation. This side of marriage in China is more prevalent than ever – but would you ever know the truth? Of course not. It is buried so deep in “keeping face” and maintaining a reputation that what goes on after the wedding ceremony is rarely discussed. My own experience as a 22-year-old university graduate, madly in love and naïve as hell, is a simple representation.

What I have seen in only the past three months goes to show that this exists in many, many relationships. The Chinese version of “undiscussed” open relationships, staying together for the money, the kids, the face.

I wouldn’t and couldn’t endure it.

It began by discovering images on iCloud – you sneaky bastard! From that point on I became a professional private investigator. Once that “小三” (xiaosan) mistress was discovered I was basically looking to find out everything. Looking back now it was really pointless. This mistress culture is a part of many marriages in China. Perhaps this is the reason why two people can stay together for so long. Perhaps long-term monogamy is unrealistic.

What I really want to say is not a sad sob story of how I had to escape a manipulative, power-hungry businessman or how I left the company we built, that cute poodle puppy, apartment and the mini cooper car lifestyle. The life we had together from the outside looked ideal. We were set to have some great looking kids, and be able to exchange country residencies. We were on our way to building a successful company, and overall I loved this man. It was stupid love but it was true. After this entire experience I feel that marriage is about so much more than love or lust. It should be viewed as a partnership, a collaboration, and built from a foundation of reason and logic.

How I went from a married, power-couple team of wedding planners and designer to a single, nomadic dating coach in London – well, that process and series of events still surprises me. So much of what has happened, I look back on it and think, Wow, where did the time go? How did all of this happen?

So, what do these kindhearted, slightly coarse, smile-wrinkle taxi drivers have to do with it? They hear my story of divorce in China every day, because how else can I say the reason why my Chinese is spoken with some local dialect tones? How can I answer what kept me in Qingdao for over five years? I like to be open and share my story as I think so much of the reality is behind closed doors.

You would not believe the number of businessmen who find it completely normal to not inform me until the second date that they have a family and wife, but would still like to pursue me. Even today I attend dinner meetings and drinking spells with men like this, offering up this kind of proposal. After what I went through with my ex-husband, it’s odd to be on the other side of things, so to speak.

And yet, I continue to date Chinese men. I would still marry a Chinese man, but with so much more caution, and with more high-level requests as to what he will provide. I would ask for what I deserve upfront and first. I would want a house in my name, a nice car, and a wedding paid for by him, just like many Chinese women. That is the lesson I learned.

Will I find love once again in China? I couldn’t tell you because I’m not a fortune-teller. But I remain cautiously optimistic about the future. And every day, as I hail another taxi, it gets a little easier to tell the story of my divorce in China and embrace the possibilities for my future.

You can follow Alex on Instagram.
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Guest Post: Expat Dad Shares Tips for Raising Kids in China

I’m honored to run this guest post from Josh Summers, who started the phenomenal blog Far West China covering Xinjiang province and just started a new website called Travel China Cheaper. He’s also a dad here in China and today shares some of his tips for raising kids in this country.

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I remember when I first arrived in China with my 1-year old son. It was an emotional moment as I sat on the hotel bed thinking to myself, “What have I done? Is this really fair to make my son live as an expat?” Away from his loving grandparents. Away from a reliable school system. Away from everything I had known growing up.

It’s been more than 4 years since that evening and I’ve learned a lot as a dad. It’s not that I’m an expert now, but looking back I realize a lot of the things I’ve done well as well as those things that I’ve done poorly.

Hopefully I can share some thoughts that might encourage you as you consider raising your kid in China – or any country for that matter.

Give Your Child an “Exit Word”

In China, this was a big deal for us. Outside of China’s major cities, cute little foreign babies and toddlers are still fawned over like crazy. I can’t even count the number of times that a Chinese lady has taken my son from my arms to hold or show off to their friends.

When my son was a baby, he made his feelings known by crying if he didn’t like this. As a walking, talking toddler, this wasn’t always the case.

My wife and I decided to give our son an “exit word”. What this means is that if people ever wanted to take a picture with him (which happened often on the road) or tried to take him over to play with their son, he could go if he wanted. However, if he didn’t want to for any reason, all he needed to say was “No, thank you” and we would immediately step in and remove him from the situation.

We want our son to be comfortable in the Chinese culture. We also know that he gets special attention as a foreign kid, so giving him this “exit word” has been key to keeping him from growing bitter toward China.

Include Your Child in Major Decisions

My son didn’t make the decision to move to the other side of the world away from his family and friends. The least I can do is respect him enough to include him in other major decisions that affect his life.

Will he go to Chinese school or be home schooled? (We don’t have an international school option where we live.)

Where will we take our vacation?

Is our time in China done? Should we move back to the US?

Mind you, including him in the decision doesn’t mean he gets to make the final decision. I merely want him to know that we’re not dragging him around or asking him to do something without giving it proper consideration.

Be an Example of an Adventurous Attitude

I know a lot of parents who want their kid to be that model expat kid who speaks Mandarin, loves local food and gets along well with both expat and local kids. At the same time, they don’t study, they eat at McDonalds and they only hang out with their expat crowd.

I’m a firm believer that I need to model what I hope to see in my kids. I am the biggest influence in his life!

I want my son to grow up with a sense of an adventure, a desire to learn and an ability to adapt to very different situations. My hope is that he can see me doing that on a daily basis and learn from that.

Are you trying new things? Are you attempting to learn the Chinese language and culture? If not, don’t be surprised if your child doesn’t either.

Be EXTRA Involved in your Child’s Life

As parents, we often don’t realize how good we had it in our home country. We had family we could rely on to love on our children, social clubs for interaction (church, athletic teams, etc.) and a familiar education system.

When we leave that environment, we unknowingly shift a lot of that responsibility on ourselves. And often, unfortunately, we come short. At least I do.

I’ve learned that I need to be very intentional about being involved in my son’s life. He doesn’t have a grandpa around who can share that load. He doesn’t have a basketball coach that can teach him to play basketball.

That’s on me. And I need to own that responsibility if I’m going to live as an expat dad.

Be Intentional with your Child’s Education

Building upon the burden of responsibility I just mentioned, I believe it’s important that my wife and I are intentional about our child’s education.

Most of the time the schools in our home country take on the responsibility of planning for the future. It’s assumed that students will at least attempt to go to university within the country and are prepared accordingly.

Unless you can afford to send your child to a fancy international school, this kind of preparation often falls on us as parents when living as China expats. My son is only 5 years old and we’re not only putting away money for his college every month, we’re making sure we understand all the different tests and other requirements that will be expected when he considers high school or college in the US (our home country). Every country has different requirements and within the US, even each state is different!

Conclusion | Raising a Child in China

I am convinced that raising my child in China is giving him advantages that most other kids don’t have – Chinese language immersion, multi-cultural experience, etc. If I didn’t believe that, I wouldn’t be here!

But these advantages don’t come automatically. I have learned over the past few years that if I want my family to thrive in China, I need to be personally responsible and very intentional about how our family operates.

Our time in China won’t be forever. I want to take advantage of it while we can!

Josh Summers has been living in China since 2006 with his wife and two sons, all of whom have spent more of their lives in China than in their home country of the United States.
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