Ask the Yangxifu: Rec’d Websites/Links With Dating Advice for Chinese-Western Couples

“You should check out this website.” That’s what I’ve been telling a number of readers who send me Ask the Yangxifu questions — I refer them to some of the fantastic sites that I follow and admire. So I thought, maybe it’s time to do a brief post and spotlight some of my favorites?

Western Wives, Chinese Husbands. I’ve dubbed this article, which I compiled together with the generous help of three other yangxifu (including Melanie Gao and Jessica Larson-Wang), “everything you wanted to know about dating Chinese men but were afraid to ask.” Whenever I hear from a woman new to the dating scene in China looking for comprehensive advice, I always send this along.

The Love Life of an Asian Guy. Ranier Maningding dishes out some of the funniest advice around, and speaks to both Asian men and the non-Asian women who love them.

My New Chinese Love. Whether you’re a Western woman dating Chinese men or a Western man dating Chinese women, you’ll find friendly advice from Jeff Cappleman and his Chinese wife that covers everything from courtship to weddings.

Middle Kingdom Life’s Guide to Dating Chinese Women. For the Western men dating Chinese women, I often send them straight to this incredibly comprehensive guide.

Candle for Love. This forum was created to help Americans bring their Chinese loved ones over to the US (and navigate the whole visa process). But it’s also a good sounding board for anyone grappling with cultural conundrums in their relationships — especially Western men dating Chinese women.

Asian Man White Woman Magazine. Founded by JT Tran, the Asian Playboy, this magazine bills itself as the lifestyle and dating site for AMWF relationships — and offers advice written by JT and white female bloggers. I also interviewed JT, and I frequently send this interview to Chinese men seeking advice on dating Western women. (Disclosure: I’ve written for his site, and JT is one of my advertisers).

What sites or articles would you recommend? Sound off in the comments!


7 Replies to “Ask the Yangxifu: Rec’d Websites/Links With Dating Advice for Chinese-Western Couples”

  1. @ Jocelyn. Yee ha! Finally you alluded to something which interests us Western boys. I absolutely love the “Middle Kingdom’s Life Guide to Dating Chinese women.” I absolutely love Asian girls and you gave me such a good site to drool all over. I will be certain to spend my entire weekend lurking and exploring this site along with those others which help us White boys get the China dolls. I will also tell my fellow White boys about them so that they can be successful in their hunt.

  2. @ Luc. I do not believe that calling Chinese girls “China dolls” is a sexist term. It is a term of endearment. Have you ever heard men or women say to a woman: you are a doll? This is not intended to be sexist but it is a word of praise. If I were to add the word “China” in front of the word “doll” it does not change the meaning. Here in the South, calling a girl a “doll” is complimentary and not insulting. So, I was merely praising Chinese women and not slandering them. I have an ABC gf and she did not find it insulting either.


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