Double Happiness: The Accidental Online Dater

A Chinese groom and white American bride
Samantha tells the story of how a free online dating account she never intended to use ended up connecting her with her future husband (photo from Samantha Mead).

When people ask me why I chose to live in China, my answer usually includes one of my favorite words: serendipity. Happy accidents, such as my decision to move to the Middle Kingdom, sometimes end up changing our lives — and love — forever. That’s why I love this story from Samantha Mead, where she describes the serendipity behind how she came to meet her Chinese husband.


I met my Chinese husband online, of all places. It was an accident, really. I got a free online dating account through a promotion, but I had no intention of actually meeting someone. Two weeks before, I had almost considered dating someone who I knew was out of my league and decided to show myself what men were out there through this dating site.

After about a week of having this account, this Asian guy messaged me. He addressed me as “nerd” (quite accurate), and wrote about stuff I had on my profile like Star Trek, burnable objects and theatre. I was hooked before the message was over.

Soon we were chatting online and I was telling him about the theatre some of my friends were doing. I was giving them props, saying that it was their last night of performing on Friday and he should “totally go.” Then I realized that I was going to be there on Friday, and I had just asked him out. He was quiet for so long on the other end, I was afraid I’d turned him off by asking. Turns out he was just researching the area to see what restaurant he could take me to before the show.

The rest is history. We met, enjoyed the show, and stayed up until 7 a.m. talking. A 15 hour first date. I kept saying, “You don’t need to stay.” He’d say, “Do you want me to go?” The answer was always no, so he’d say, “Then I’ll stay.” He’s stayed with me through an unexpected pregnancy, his family’s opposition, everything.

We just got back from a visit to China and his family loves me, and they love our beautiful little girl. Everything has worked out wonderfully and — even if it’s cheesy to say this — my husband is the only one in the world for me. He’s just amazing.

Samantha Mead is a college student and mom who muses about motherhood in a cross-cultural family and more at College Baby Bump.


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9 Replies to “Double Happiness: The Accidental Online Dater”

  1. I met my husband online and even more bizarre place – myspace. 🙂 My husband messaged me and he sounded sincere, respectful. I decided to write back soley because of that. Who would’ve thought I was writing to my future husband? I usually ignore messages.

    This is a great article. I love it. 😀

  2. What a sweet story. Congratulations! Today my younger sister got married to an American and they have known one another close to six years! But still congratulations on meeting your husband 😀

  3. I also met my Chinese boyfriend online. I couldn’t be happier. He was a bit skeptical and cynical at first, but once I gained his trust, he turned out to be an awesome boyfriend. Couldn’t have asked for more. And it also happened unexpectably.

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