Concerned Chinese Person asks:
I’m a Chinese service man,and I’m a number of the communist party of China,I have a question about it,My identity isn’t like the ordinary people,if I build a serious relationship with a western girl,would she mind of my identity?
CCP, chances are, she wouldn’t care if you’re a Communist or in the military.
Sure, back in the era of McCarthyism, consorting with Communists could suddenly make you “un-American” and put you on the fast track to unemployment.
Even today, some extremists throw around the label “Communism” as if it’s a four-letter word, and “fear government takeover.” But, by and large, these people wouldn’t even think of coming to China, studying Chinese, or having anything to do with a country that has a red flag with a hammer and a sickle on it.
That means, the Western women you’d end up meeting in China probably don’t see Communism as a big deal anymore. I sure didn’t. In fact, Frank, my second Chinese boyfriend, was a Communist Party member. So are many Chinese who end up marrying Americans and getting green cards (even though, officially, the US bars Communists from immigrating — a ridiculous holdover from the Red Scare days).
As for being in the military, I’m sure many a Western woman has thought the same thing I have, after seeing a truck filled with ripped People’s Liberation Army guys in their camos: Chinese military men are hot! 😉
Assuming you have equal opportunities to meet Western women, you won’t be at a disadvantage compared to other Chinese men, when it comes to falling in love. But you do have a disadvantage when it comes to marriage:
According to current Chinese law, a foreigner cannot marry a Chinese citizen who falls within one of the following categories:
(1) military personnel in active service, diplomatic personnel, public security personnel, confidentiality personnel, or any person who possesses important and confidential information;
Maybe if you’re no longer in active service, you could marry. But, on the other hand, someone might say no, because you “possess important and confidential information” (likely decided at their discretion). You might also get very different answers on this, depending on what bureau you ask.
Before you even think of talking up a Western woman, talk to someone in the know about this. Because if there’s a breakup in your future, I’d rather it come from the two of you, than the government.
What advice do you have for CCP?
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