2013 Blogs by Western Women Who Love Chinese Men | Speaking of China

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  1. Anna Darnley
    Anna Darnley March 8, 2013 at 2:18 am | | Reply

    Oh wow~! I’ve just seen that you linked to my blog – Thank you ever so much! I’m an avid supporter of “Speaking Of China” and I can’t even remember how many times I’ve ‘name-dropped’ your blog in conversation with other foreign friends here in Beijing! Now most of the girls in my close circle of friends here follow your blog and your articles never fail to provide sources of debate for our meet ups! Thank you ever so much for being a source of such a phenomenal inspiration and I hope, one day, that I can find a husband like yours!! 😉 ~ I wish you both all the best and I will continue to support you! Anna 🙂

  2. Jessica
    Jessica March 8, 2013 at 4:02 am | | Reply

    Thanks for mentioning my (now mostly-defunct) blog! What happened was that WordPress became blocked in China and although I have a VPN, having to jump over the firewall to write my own blog sort of killed my motivation to update it that often. And of course the usual, life, kids, busy, etc etc. Maybe one day I’ll return to it, you never know!

  3. Eileen黃愛玲
    Eileen黃愛玲 March 8, 2013 at 5:35 am | | Reply

    Thank you for your support. 🙂 I will check out other blogs. I wont be blogging for a while. Major hiatus for obvious reasons. 😀

  4. Lauren
    Lauren March 8, 2013 at 6:55 am | | Reply

    Thanks so much for the links to all of these blogs!!! I literally just got home from meeting my Chinese boyfriend’s HUGE family. Overwhelming is a huge understatement to sum up our trip!! I have to say 16 days ago I was only in love with a Chinese man, but now I’m in love with the culture too! I’ve read your blog from the moment I met him two years ago! Thanks all the insight and for all the new links!!

  5. melanie gao
    melanie gao March 8, 2013 at 9:26 am | | Reply

    I’m so honored to be included on this list – thank you Jocelyn! Thank you for keeping it real too, Sister!


  6. Sveta
    Sveta March 8, 2013 at 4:05 pm | | Reply

    Thanks for mentioning my blog 😀 I liked Han Han, in some ways he was really funny.

  7. Son
    Son March 8, 2013 at 4:16 pm | | Reply

    Spread the words

  8. menglelan
    menglelan March 8, 2013 at 4:24 pm | | Reply

    Ah, well, mine wasn’t mentioned here, probably because it is written all in Chinese and not always about guys….everyone in the blogs seems to be all under age 30…still that was a good list to browse.

  9. Sveta
    Sveta March 8, 2013 at 4:51 pm | | Reply

    I also want to mention that I have some other books about China, such as review of Dreams of Red Chamber, or Marguerite Duras’s North China Lover, and Court of the Lion, a novel about T’ang Dynasty. I also have a few Japanese male/white female novels, and some Korean male/white female novels. I’ll continue to search and read and review the most interesting books I’ll find 😀 Enjoy my blog!

  10. Taiwanxifu
    Taiwanxifu March 9, 2013 at 1:37 am | | Reply

    Wow, what a list! So many interesting blogs to read and enjoy. Thank you for maintaining such a growing index.

  11. 夏美
    夏美 March 9, 2013 at 6:06 am | | Reply

    I also live in China (as a student) and have a Chinese boyfriend. I thought about making a blog about it for a while too, because I definitely have some, uh… “opinions” about the difficulties we face and the little daily issues that pop up. Yeah. I have a lot to say about the whole ordeal.

    The thing that’s stopping me from doing it, is my city is REALLY small. Technically not that small- we’re the third biggest and maybe the second richest city in Shaanxi province, but small in the sense that people walk up to me on the street and say- “Wow! You’re that girl with the Chinese boyfriend, right? I’ve heard about you!” So I’m just too paranoid about someone from my university reading it and then knowing every little secret and insecurity I have.

    Everyone in my university knows me, especially since my 口语 teacher thought me and my boyfriends’ story was so inspirational, he decided to publicly share it (without my permission) with his entire history class!! That’s about 400 Chinese students alone! Gee, thanks 马老师。

    It’s to the point now where I add a complete stranger on weixin, and they say, “You’re 夏美 right? You’re pretty famous in our school!”

    Sigh. So if I blog about it, it’ll only take one student finding out about it and then it’ll spread like wildfire. And if I can’t blog about this issue honestly and frankly, then I don’t want to blog about it at all. And not only can I not blog about it, but now I’m wondering what will happen if someday our relationship just turns out to not be working. That’s about 300,000 people that will be really angry/disappointed at me for leaving him. My boyfriend’s loved by pretty much everyone (he’s also locally famous for winning 5 different English speaking competitions despite being an engineering major) and I’m afraid if that happens I’m not welcome to come back to 陕北 ever again.

    A lot of people here have the idea that western girls are no good and not marriage material at all. I want to prove everyone wrong, but I can’t stay in an unsuitable relationship all my life just to prove a point.

    This is an issue I really want to talk about and need advice/support on, but my relationship is just too public in this town. So sometimes I feel really trapped and alone.

  12. menglelan
    menglelan March 9, 2013 at 6:14 am | | Reply


    But you aren’t going to be in the university forever are you? When you finish school you and your boyfriend can think of those issues when the time comes to find a new job, new future, etc. not every stays in the same town forever and ever after graduation/life change/career opportunity.

  13. Bruce
    Bruce March 9, 2013 at 8:06 am | | Reply

    We have a lot of sterotypes to break throught.

  14. Jin Feng
    Jin Feng March 9, 2013 at 10:03 am | | Reply

    Wow what an excellent list Jocelyn! Great work putting it all together! And thanks for much for including me! I hope to write some more soon! 🙂 I can’t wait until I have a little nose around some of the new blogs you wrote about! Best love from London my dear! and my regards to Jun toO!

  15. honeyinthelion
    honeyinthelion March 9, 2013 at 12:11 pm | | Reply

    This is a great post for finding new China-related blogs.

    I wonder how strange it would be to see 50 blogs written by Chinese men about dating Western women. Are there Chinese language blogs out there like “I can’t believe what my American gf did today” and “I don’t understand why she does this.” It would be interesting to hear about it from the other side.

  16. askdsk
    askdsk March 9, 2013 at 2:45 pm | | Reply

    I’ve seen individual account of Chinese men’ experiences. Many western women bloggers, Jocelyn included, have come to a unfamiliar place to discover themselves. The Chinese men entered into relationships with western women either have sufficient language abilities or belong to the traditional type that won’t express feelings outward. I have never see anyone (Chinese man) written in enough wit and humor to sound adventurous. I am interested to know if such blog exists.

  17. Sam
    Sam March 9, 2013 at 8:17 pm | | Reply

    when the post of the media’s negative perception of China came out, there was this guy, RobC, who incidentally had so many negative stuff to say about China, his latest being that China should blame herself for her negative image and asking China to leave Tibet, now that this post of AMWF came out, interestingly, he is nowhere to be seen. I have noticed, that the more people like Jocelyn write about AMWF relationships, the more people like this RobC come and say things that are not related to AMWF relationships. but I have to give Jocelyn credit though for highlighting AMWF relationships as people like me have been searching for stories on AMWF relationships for quite some time now so that I can a much clearer insight into AMWF relationships.

  18. chinaelevatorstories
    chinaelevatorstories March 10, 2013 at 9:28 am | | Reply

    Great list! Keep up the good work, you’re a great inspiration for many of us. Hope the Year of the Snake will be easier on you and John than the Year of the Dragon.

  19. centaur
    centaur March 11, 2013 at 12:03 am | | Reply

    Thank you for killing a week’s worth of productivity for me!

    I just found this hilarious blog post:

  20. centaur
    centaur March 11, 2013 at 12:09 am | | Reply

    @ Jocelyn and all the western women who are dating Asian men — it’s great to see all these blogs about WFAM relationships, but most of them are by women. I wish we could see more posts coming from the Asian men’s perspective. Jocelyn, why not invite some Asian guys to write a few guest posts?

  21. Charlotte
    Charlotte March 11, 2013 at 6:17 pm | | Reply

    Thanks for putting my blog on your list, Jocelyn! Can’t wait to add more of these to my reading list (as if I have much time to read) but it’s great to know that I’m not alone in this adventure of being married to someone of another culture.

  22. centaur
    centaur March 12, 2013 at 2:10 am | | Reply

    @ Jocelyn and all the western women still reading this thread, maybe we should have a thread where Asian men can comment on what they love about western women.

    Here are ten things I love about Western women (the list actually goes much longer, but let me just begin by the simplest sexual attraction):

    1) Your eyes. Deeply set, bright, shaded with long lashes, infinitely seductive. They can have so many colors — blue, green, gray, brown, … , and the color can even change with sunlight. If I stare into them, I’d forget what I was saying.
    2) Your hair. Curly, soft, fine, always makes me want to run my fingers through it.
    3) Your nose. Long, high, strong (no, I am not making fun of you). It gives your face so much character.
    4) Your narrow cheekbones. Contrary to the typical Western view, we don’t find high cheekbones very attractive.
    5) Your curves and long legs, they give you such a feminine look.
    6) You know how to handle high heels.
    7) You enjoy sex. You are open, evolved, and sexual.
    8) You are affectionate and you love kissing.
    9) You know how to put on makeup.
    10) You like to work out and you age gracefully.

  23. Laura
    Laura March 12, 2013 at 4:28 am | | Reply

    Thank you for this great list, I knew only a couple of them.
    I´m actually working in a blog / website now, still offline, but I will talk about everything, I´m not targeting my life with Tony, but you know, it goes as it evolves.

    I always mention what I read in your blog during dinner time, but well you didn´t know because there is no (yet) technology that tells you when someone is talking about you. Though if you feel your ears are warm and read, it means someone is thinking about you, but that´s a very rustic method!


  24. Laura
    Laura March 21, 2013 at 8:50 pm | | Reply

    Hi Jocelyn!
    New Blog here, still in the start-up phase, no about me page and I am not convinced about the theme.
    Tony also wants to write about some topics and he may join the blog some day!
    Anyway, now you know the blog and you can visit it whenever you want!

  25. Eileen
    Eileen March 26, 2013 at 8:02 pm | | Reply

    Jocelyn, I have great news. I can finally blog in China. Again, thanks for the support. It means a lot!

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