2016 Blogs by Western Women Who Love Chinese Men

2016 Blogs by Western Women who Love Chinese Men
New blogs for 2016. Top from left: Ni Hao Cassandra, Our Chinese Wedding, Talking of Chinese, East West Love Story. Bottom from left: My Oriental Life, Betty Has a Panda, Lena Around, Jess Meider.

It’s March and we just celebrated International Women’s Day. That means it’s time to update to my list of blogs by Western women who love Chinese men!

This year, my list includes 69 70 different blogs — wow! I’ve still grouped the blogs loosely according to their focus, and tagged first timers on this list with *NEW* for your convenience.

Like last year, the same housekeeping rule applies — blogs must have been updated within the past year to make this list.

So, without further ado…(insert drumroll of choice)…here are the blogs!

Authors/Books
Family and Kids
Food
Personal Stories

Authors/Books

Behind the Story. American writer Nicki Chen married her late Chinese husband in 1967, the same year that the US Supreme Court finally made interracial marriages legal in the US. She’s led a fascinating life indeed, so it’s no wonder that her blog has become a repository for many of the real-life stories that inspire her novels, including Sketching Baguio, an Artist’s Favorite Holiday. Her debut novel Tiger Tail Soup hit the shelves in 2015 and it’s perfect for anyone who loves Pearl Buck’s wartime China stories. Check out my interview with Nicki from September 2014 to learn more about Tiger Tail Soup.

*NEW*Fiction Diversity. Em Liu, an American woman with a Chinese husband, has a passion for reading and promotes diversity in fiction through her blog, with posts such as #ReverseTheWhitewash and reviews of diverse books such as Celeste Ng’s Everything I Never Told You.

My Half of the Sky. Jana McBurney-Lin, who has a Chinese husband and children, penned the novel My Half of the Sky, which also is the namesake of her writing- and family-focused blog. But as a Tai Chi enthusiast, I loved this older post about trying out this venerable martial art.

Kylie Chan. This Australian author who married a Hong Kong national channeled her passion for Chinese mythology, culture and martial arts into writing novels, which you can learn more about at her site. She also blogs on her site.

Michelle Maisto. Pretty much anyone in a Chinese-Western cross-cultural relationship will invariably find themselves having an occasional disagreement about a simple question: “What should we eat for dinner?” That’s the subject of Michelle’s memoir titled The Gastronomy of Marriage, which explores how she and her Chinese-American husband managed to make room at the table for all of their different eating preferences. Her blog is loaded with lots of Chinese food porn (naturally!) but also stories about being a mom to their little girl (who she’s teaching Mandarin — yes!).

Rhiannon Jenkins Tsang. A British woman truly ahead of her time, Rhiannon made her first sojourn to China in 1986 — what I wouldn’t give to experience that China through her eyes. She later met her husband, who is from Hong Kong, at Oxford; the two of them live with their family in the UK. Her first novel, The Woman Who Lost China, just came out in 2013 and will surely appeal to anyone fascinated with the country and its tumultuous past.

Susan Blumberg-Kason. Once upon a time, Susan was a yangxifu, spending time in Wuhan with her Chinese husband and first child. She’s since moved back to her Chicago roots, remarried and added two more children to her family, but is forever connected to China. She offers tidbits of everything from Jewish Asia to raising multicultural kids, as well as regular reviews on Hong Kong/Shanghai/China-related books. If you’re living in or near Chicago, or passing through, check out her book, All the Tea in Chicago. Last year she released her long-awaited memoir Good Chinese Wife – if you’re new to the book, check out my interview with her.

Sveta’s Book Review Blog. Sveta still searches for her true Asian love, but currently pours her passion into reading and sharing her latest reads on this blog. She reviews a variety of books, including AMWF reads that might interest followers of this blog, and now posts readings of selected books on Youtube. She’s also expecting a new baby this March with her Chinese beau – wishing her a smooth delivery!

Family and Kids

A Broad Abroad. JQ, an American woman who used to live Qingdao with her Chinese husband, toddler and new baby girl, isn’t afraid to say what’s on her mind. She and the family have moved on over to the USA and are enjoying their new lives over there. Wishing them a wonderful time on the other side of “the pond”! 😉

AMBW Families and Relationships. This is one of the best sites spotlighting AMBW (Asian men, Black women) couples and their families, filled with beautiful photos and stories of real families out there. It’s run by a black woman married to a Chinese guy (they met and married each other in just three weeks, wow!) who have two kids. Definitely worth bookmarking!

Celestereille. This blog is another proud example of beautiful Blasian love in China, right down to this gorgeous photo of the author kissing her Chinese beau, and this lovely Valentine to him. She welcomed her lovely baby Connor into the world in 2013 and in 2014 she moved the whole family back with her to the US (but still files the occasional post about China, such as Top 5 Things I Can’t Understand About China). She’s now expecting a baby girl – wow!


Chinese Potpourri. This blog offers a mish-mash of postings from Charlotte an American woman with a Chinese husband and two small children, living in a small town in Hebei, China – including a post last year with some cute family photos from Easter . She’s in my Double Happiness Archives, you’ll also find her love story — which has one of the most surprising titles: “I Want To Be Your Slave For The Rest of My Life”. Also, if you’re in Beijing, you can meet her in person at the Beijing Bookworm Festival on March 13.

Corazón Asiático (en español). This Spanish woman named Selenia married her sweetheart from Shandong Province (their photo on this About page is one of the most romantic I’ve ever seen). Today she’s a mom and writes about life, love and her interest in Japan/Korea en español.

Diaries of a Yangxifu. UK native Sarah met her husband during a marathon in Birmingham (a how-we-met story she generously shared with us all in her guest post on my site). She’s in China now with her husband and their new baby, writing about everything from what it’s like raising a new baby with her mother-in-law to her wedding experience last year (great photos!). And did I mention she’s also a vegan, just like me?

The Downtown Diner. American Melanie Gao has no pretensions about herself. Her blog is a homey, welcoming little slice of the yangxifu blogosphere, self-described as “Made famous in Beijing, now operating out of Nashville, Tennessee.” She has spoken out about her divorce from her Chinese ex-husband and will always remain my unofficial twin (we really do look alike). She often writes about her two lovely biracial and bicultural children (love this post about taking a family photo) and filed a fascinating post about her amazing experience attending the White House Correspondents dinner last year. Thanks for keeping it real, Melanie.

Ember Swift. This Canadian woman is a singer-songwriter, musician, writer and blogger who writes some of the most fascinating and powerful posts on this list about her life (from her marriage to a Chinese guy to raising their kids). Don’t miss the interviews (one and two) with her that I posted up in 2013 just before Chinese New Year. Her blog has become required reading for pregnancy in China as well as navigating the visa issues of having kids with a Chinese national. Also, if you’re in Beijing, you can meet her in person at the Beijing Bookworm Festival on March 13.

Hong Kong Kisses. This blog is written Canadian woman with a Hong Kong husband, and they just had a baby girl last year! They’ve moved the family to Hong Kong – and she posts lots of cute photos her baby and the family.

Living A Dream in China. Finnish woman Sara Jaaksola writes with a lot of heart and soul as she works on her Mandarin Chinese. But what I really love about Sara is her support to the community — she started the Foreign Women in China discussion forum (any woman anywhere is welcome to join). Sara had an exciting time last year when she welcomed a new baby named Anna into the family. She’s also written about what it’s like to take her baby out and about in China.

Mighty Maggie. American Maggie lives with her husband Phillip, the Devastatingly Handsome Chinese Man, in Seattle with three kids. She’s a stay-at-home mom who blogs about everything from religious issues to parenting. This is an older post, but she brings up an interesting dilemma when she writes about the problem of sending a child to Chinese language school, when she and her husband don’t speak the language well. Also love this more recent post about how the kids learned Maggie blogged about them, and then wanted to hear the stories themselves!

Monkeys and Mooncakes. American Steph (who has a husband from Anhui, China) is a thirty-something mom to three lovely kids and she devotes her blog to helping children love Chinese language and culture at home. Parents will love her posts such as these 3 fun activities and games using flashcards in Mandarin learning and Mandarin adjective match it.

Nama Mama. This was one of the most exciting blogs I discovered in 2014 – it’s not often you come across an American woman married to a Tibetan guy living in Xining, Qinghai (with their baby daughter). Kimberly has since moved the family to Jiangsu Province, where she’s now teaching English. But her heart is still in Qinghai, as anyone who reads her post remiscing about the New Year traditions can tell. Be sure to read her guest post here about how she met her husband (who seems like a super-sweet and extra-special guy).

Olivia’s Choice. If the community had a magazine, chances are Olivia Lau could easily be the covergirl. This beautiful and stylish woman from Spain was living in Hong Kong, where she met and married a local man and also ran her own online fashion store. They’ve moved back to Barcelona to work in Olivia’s family store, but still make regular trips back to Asia (such as these dispatches from Tokyo and Hong Kong). In 2014, they welcomed baby Liam into their lives – he’s the star of their Xmas pictures from 2015.

Rosie in Beijing. American Rosalie Zhao’s how-we-met story, which she shared in 2013 year on my blog, challenged stereotypes by introducing her future husband as “China’s answer to Arnold Schwarzenegger”! It still remains one of the most memorable posts I’ve run. She’s a stepmom to her husband’s daughter from another marriage and had a baby in 2014; trying to bring her son over to the US on a Chinese passport led to a really interesting post for anyone considering having kids in China. She’s since moved the family to the US – looking forward to hearing more about their adventures there.

Wo Ai Ni. Rhiannon, an American woman who met and married her Chinese husband in the US, creates a whimsical collage of an intercultural family on her site. It’s a snapshot of daily family life — including two blonde-haired children from a previous marriage, and four young half-Chinese kids.

Food

Madame Huang’s Kitchen (Formerly Out to Lunch). Carolyn J. Phillips doesn’t just have a Chinese husband. She loves to eat too, and shares her passion with the world through some of the most authentic and mouth-watering recipes for Chinese food on the web. Don’t read on an empty stomach, and be on the lookout for her upcoming illustrated book on all of China’s great cuisines. Called All Under Heaven, it will be published by McSweeney’s in August 2016. She also came out with a fantastic downloadable Dim Sum Guide. To learn more about Carolyn and her work, check out my 2012 interview with her.

Taiwan Xifu. The Taiwan Xifu dishes out delicious recipes with a dash of Chinese culture thrown in for good measure (including her posts about foods for zuo yuezi). In 2014 she moved back to Australia, where she divorced her husband, and last year bravely shared her post-divorce identity issues in an incredible guest post for this blog. Here’s wishing Serina the best as she moves forward with her new life in Australia!

Personal Stories

AMWF Couple. She’s white and British, he’s from Hong Kong, and they’re happily dating in the UK. You’ll enjoy her posts on how they met and how they started dating (his story versus her story), as well as this 2014 post asking why so many AMWF couples end up living in Asia?

Becky Ances. She teaches English in lovely Xiamen and writes frequently about traveling, her students, and expat life (love her recent post about how to take good pics of yourself while traveling by yourself). But many of you will appreciate her take on dating Chinese men. You can also follow her at her new blog Badminton Becky!

*NEW*Betty Has a Panda. Betty is an Austrian woman in her 20s in an intercultural relationship with a Hong Konger in Vienna. She shares all of the funny, frustrating, interesting and strange stories on her blog. Betty shared one of the biggest frustrations about her relationship in a guest post for me titled Why We Are Not Married (Yet) – and as it turns out, the Panda proposed to her in late 2015. Congratulations on their engagement!

*NEW*Our Chinese Wedding. A blog by Laura, a German woman who just married her Chinese beau last year, sharing all of the ups and downs in the process of getting married in China (from the issues with bureaucracy to bridesmaid dress horrors to even setting wedding dates). Don’t miss her budding bride guide. They’ve moved up to Beijing together – wishing them great happiness in their new life together!

Chocolate Chick in China. This African-American blogger is an English teacher based in  Wuxi, and you’ve got to love a woman who writes this in her About page: “I have  always been fascinated by the 5000 year old culture and also all the handsome single Chinese men that may never find love due to the fact that they overpopulate the women. so off I go to China to find a different way of life and  maybe a husband too.” Love that she took the time to bake her students Christmas cookies.

Dreaming of Taipei. This Italian girl has long harbored dreams of Taiwan’s great metropolis because that’s where her sweetheart lives – and now they are finally together in Taiwan. Hooray!

*NEW*East West Love Story. Karen is a native Californian who moved to Singapore to marry Jeremy. You’ll find posts about travel, living in Singapore, recipes and even their relationship (such as a recent wedding anniversary they just celebrated). Wishing them a wonderful year of the monkey!

Foreign Sanctuary. Constance is a Canadian married to a Taiwanese man who currently calls Taiwan home — and shares gorgeous photos as well as stories from her life. She’s now expecting a baby! Enjoy her guest post on my site about how she believes everything happens for a reason (even how she ended up finding love and a new life in Taiwan).

Greece Meets Taiwan. This is the love story of a Greek girl and a Taiwanese guy living in South Africa (they just celebrated their two-year anniversary). You’ll love her posts about famous AMWF couples and the advantages of being mixed race.

My Hong Kong Husband. Lina, who hails from Poland, lives in  Ireland with the eponymous husband that inspired her blog — one that has fast become a popular read in the AMWF community. And it’s no wonder, with her funny posts about everything from a survival guide for dealing with mothers-in-law (she calls hers “Momzilla”) to her take on the “princess syndrome”. Wishing her and Sing the best as they move forward together in Ireland!

*NEW*Jess Meider. American Jess Meider is a Beijing-based singer-songwriter who has been named one of China’s best jazz vocalists. She’s also married to composer and bassist Gao Fang. Jess and I were on CCTV together last year; she also did an interview for my blog. You can check out her blog, where she posts about her upcoming gigs, press coverage, and her interest in traditional Chinese medicine.

Judith in China (in Dutch). This Dutch woman used to live in Beijing with her local boyfriend but has since moved with him to Wuhan. She blogs about life in China, including the things she encounters every day in the country, such as odd things her neighbors do. Her guest post titled “He Feels Horrible About Me Being The Breadwinner” got a lot of you talking.

Karma’s World Tour. Written by AMWF couple Kara and Mark, this blog chronicles their travels around the world (in gorgeous photos that will have you wishing they had taken you along for the ride).

*NEW*Lena Around. Lena is a 20-something Danish girl who is currently working on a bachelor degree in Communication, English and Chinese while traveling in Asia and writing about those travels, China (her favorite place) and love. She’s written about everything from getting into uni in China to being single on Valentine’s day in China. Have a look at her guest posts for this blog, How Asian Will My Future Husband Be? and I Shouldn’t Be Dating in My Own Country.

Linda Goes East (formerly Linda Living in China). Originally from Germany, Linda followed her heart and passion all the way to China, never expecting that along the way she would end up falling in love with a man from Korea. Now based in Korea, she blogs about everything from life in Korea to AMWF. Don’t miss her recent guest post for this blog about four things that helped her adapt to life in South Korea.

Life Behind the Wall. The first blog on this list by an African-American woman with a Chinese beau. Jo Gan isn’t your usual expat teaching English in China. An entrepreneur and dreamer, she has become a partner in a bar, started her own band, dated some fascinating fellows (before meeting her sweetheart Jet Liu), and has decided to start her own fashion company. Impressive! Check out her interview for this blog, where she talks about some of her entrepreneurial endeavors.

Lost Panda. Anna was born in Russia and raised in Germany, but she ultimately discovered her love and future in China. In 2014 she dazzled us with her personal stories at The Mandarin Duck, and now she’s doing it again with the Lost Panda, a blog especially dedicated to living in rural China. Some of her cool recent posts include how to stay warm in China without central heating and a love hate relationship with rural China.

The Love Blender. Italian Marghini, who is dating Mr. B (she describes him as a “a Hong Kong-New Zealand-British boy with funny hair and kind eyes”), writes about one of my favorite subjects: cross-cultural dating (or, as she calls it in her tagline, “dating out of the box”). Readers will love her posts on intercultural relationships, including one about 10 reasons why Asian men are sexy. By the way, she also shared her love story here for Double Happiness — check it out here! Wish them the best as they settle into life in London!

Malatang. American Amanda loves China and she loves to eat (including the tantalizingly spicy dish that is the namesake of her blog, subtitled “A Vermonter’s Adventure in China.” She’s blogged about her life (and delectable meals) in some of the most beautiful corners of China, including Lijiang and the wilderness of Sichuan. She has also loved a Lijiang local along the way (which she blogged about in this insightful post titled Dating in China: Cultural Differences).

Mandarin Reflections. Nathalie describes herself as deeply “in love with the most wonderful Chinese man” – and the two of them made it official by getting married! You’ll enjoy her classic posts on signs that you’re dating a Chinese man and On Dating Chinese Men: All Men Are Different.

Mandarin Stories. Orange rain’s blog originally had a dramatic backstory — even though she was already married to a Chinese man, her family didn’t know about it. Turns out, when she finally revealed her secret marriage to the family, there wasn’t any drama over it at all (nor much reaction, according to her). She does a lot of posts w/ photos from their trips – such as Scandinavia — so this is a great blog for all you armchair travelers! Last year she and the hubby had their official wedding ceremony in Shanghai (which her two brothers and Aunt even attended, their first-ever trip to China) and she posted her gorgeous pre-wedding photos (including pics in a stunning red dress). Congrats to them!

Marta lives in China. She’s a Spaniard who met her Chinese boyfriend in Suzhou, where she used to work for a manufacturer in the city. After working in Shanghai for a year, she’s back in Suzhou freelancing. You’ll love her post on how she met her sweetheart C as well as her many humorous posts (such as this one on cursing in Chinese). You can also follow her en espaňol on her Spanish-language blog Infinity Plus One.

Mingbai. A Dutch woman with a Chinese husband runs a China consulting and travel business, and maintains a blog written in Dutch mainly about travel destinations in this great country.

*NEW*Ni Hao Cassandra (in Spanish). Cassandra is a 24-year-old Chilean who studied for a year Mandarin Chinese in Kaifeng, Henan, China. She has long been passionate about Chinese culture, and also has a Chinese boyfriend (who she posts about on the blog). Check out this cute post about some habits she has acquired from her boyfriend.

*NEW*My Oriental Life. Ava Ming was born in England to Jamaican parents and is currently living in Shenzhen, Guangdong Province, China where she writes and teaches English. Some interesting posts of hers cover whether she was brave or stupid to move to China, and her impressions of Chinese food. Ava’s guest post for my site – Larry – a Short Tale of Ignorance or Cross-Cultural Misunderstanding – generated a lot of discussion, so do have a read!

People Mountain, People Sea. Ashley is not your average American teaching English in Taiwan, thanks to her marriage to a Taiwanese guy (which included a period of time when she lived in the family home). You’ll find her posts on relationships and dating interesting, including this post on what it takes to make a cross-cultural relationship work. Recently, she’s posted about what an incredible cook her husband is (sounds like a keeper to me!).

The Ruby Ronin. American Mary (who has a white dad and an Asian mom) has long had a love affair with Asia, spending two years in Japan (and learning Japanese), and then four years in China. She’s now living in Los Angeles with her Chinese boyfriend, but has plans to return to graduate school (and will visit Asia this summer). Love this cute recent post about her first and only blind date in Japan.

PINK✿PEACH✿BLOSSOMS. This twenty-something woman in Germany (who has a Chinese husband) is crazy about Korean beauty products, K-Pop, manga and more, and is currently studying Mandarin Chinese. Check out her reviews of Korean beauty products and other posts about what’s going on in her life (including her bunny).

Selly’s Little World. Sarah Heintze is a German gal residing in Wuhan, China who describes herself as a “Music lover with a weakness for 王力宏 Wang Leehom. Quirky. Cheeky. A butterfly flitting between ideas. In love with exercising, 小笼包 (xiaolongbao) & 热干面 (hot dry noodles)。” She posts on what’s on her mind and what she’s doing — I enjoyed her post on her trip to Shenzhen!

Sincerely, Shalom (Formerly Jew Knew). Eileen’s blog is so lovely and touching, like her pictures of smiling, long-haired women in dazzling rainbow colors. She is married to a man from Taiwan and after living with him in Shanghai and Taiwan, they’re back in the US. She had a wonderful 2015 – wishing her an equally wonderful 2016!

*NEW*Talking of Chinese. Chi, an Australian woman who has a Chinese fiancee, blogs about the process of learning Mandarin Chinese (Why a tutor in China is WAY better than university) as well as lovely posts about her relationship (such as Funny/awkward things about travelling as an AMWF couple). As a side note, I’m touched that her blog’s name was inspired by Speaking of China!

When West Dates East. Autumn — who lives in LA with her Chinese American boyfriend – writes: “Some swear it’s a myth:  ‘You’ll find a unicorn before you find a white chick who dates Asian dudes.’ Welcome to my blog on unicorns.” She offers a funny and self-deprecating look into her relationship with posts such as When Lions Eat Lettuce and What My Chinese Father-in-Law Said. Don’t miss her guest post for this site titled A “Little” Something Red for My Chinese-American Groom.

Xi’ananigans. Marissa, an American woman from New Jersey, met her hubby ZJ while teaching English in Xi’an (she married him in China in the most brilliant red gown I’ve ever seen) and in 2014 moved with him back to the States. They’ve navigated the challenges of building a new life for themselves in the US (which has its pluses too) and now are based in North Dakota, where Marissa works for a local paper (congrats to her!) Don’t miss her guest post on my site all about how she met and fell in love with ZJ, or the Q&A I did for her blog.

What do you think? What blogs did I miss?

RIP Elsie Tu: Hong Kong Activist, Politician & AMWF “Grandma”

Elsie Tu and Andrew Tu in 1995

Last week, the world collectively mourned the passing of Elsie Tu on December 8, 2015 at age 102, a woman who fought for social justice, became a renowned politician in pre-1997 Hong Kong, and ultimately left a lasting impact on the region. Some dubbed her “the real spirit of Hong Kong.” But did you know that Elsie Tu, who was originally from England, was also married to Andrew Tu for over 25 years, making her one of our AMWF grandmothers as well?

Here’s a brief background on Elsie Tu from her Wikipedia page:

Born and raised in Newcastle-upon-Tyne, England, Tu moved to Hong Kong in 1951 following a period as a missionary in China. She became known for her strong antipathy towards colonialism and corruption, as well as for her work for the underprivileged. She fought for gay rights, better housing, welfare services, playgrounds, bus routes, hawker licenses and innumerable other issues and her campaigning is credited with leading to the establishment of the Independent Commission Against Corruption (ICAC) in 1974.

In their remembrance of Elsie Tu, the South China Morning Post called her a “veteran Hong Kong politician and champion of the underprivileged”:

Tu, a former Urban Councillor and lawmaker regarded as a pro-Beijing figure, was well-known for her outspoken manner. The centenarian still actively turned in articles to newspapers to criticise government policies she deemed unfair or inadequate….

Turning a brand new page of her life, she met the late Andrew Tu Hsueh-kwei. The pair co-founded Mu Kuang English School in 1954.

Theirs was a long-blossoming relationship. It was not until 1985 that their friendship led to marriage – 30 years after the two teachers met. She was 71, her husband 63….

Remembering her late father’s teaching of helping those in need, Tu decided to delve into politics, in 1963.

Elsie Tu became a household name after she won election to Urban Council in 1963….

In the 1970s, Tu decided to take on the city’s corruption.

Her consistent effort was one of the forces that drove the colonial government to set up an unprecedented department, the Independent Commission against Corruption, in 1974.

Wow. The South China Morning Post also has a wonderful article detailing her extraordinary life and achievements in photos.

Elsie Tu’s life inspires me deeply. Here is a woman who devoted herself to serving others. She truly wanted to make the world a better place. As this article noted, “Each year she made the same very public wish: “We can have a world at peace instead of all wanting to fight.”

Let’s take a moment to remember this incredible woman. Thank you, Elsie Tu, for all that you have done, and may you rest in peace.

P.S.: Thanks to Susan Blumberg-Kason for tipping me off to this news.

Interview with Jo Bai: Fashion Entrepreneur, App Creator and Bar Owner in China

If you want living proof of just how far you can take your expat business dreams in China, then you need to meet Jo Bai.

She first wowed us all with her award-winning blog Life Behind The Wall. But more recently, she’s been making a name for herself as a serial entrepreneur, living out her business dreams here in China. Just recently, she has opened HeiLan Hair & Fashions — a store specializing in weaves, wigs, and Western-style clothes, shoes and jewelry – and launched a new teaching app called Freebao. In addition, she’s still an owner and host for SharesBar here in Hangzhou.

And did I mention that she’s snagged a gorgeous Chinese guy?

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I don’t know about you, but I’m totally inspired by this woman! It’s my great pleasure to introduce you to Jo Bai and her entrepreneurial adventures (and more) through this interview.

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Here’s Jo Gan’s bio from her blog Life Behind The Wall:

Born in Columbia, Missouri and raised in a small town not far from there, then moved to Naples, Florida for the majority of my life .  I always knew I was not your normal Mid-Western/Floridian.  I had dreams and wanted to see things that my family thought were impossible at the time.   However, after a living a life of many different experience that only a book could express totally… I have found my place in the world, for now.  Surprisingly, that place is  The People’s Republic of China.

Yes, I am an African-American Woman over 40 living in the P.R. China…. I decided that I wanted to express myself and my feelings the best way I knew how, through words.   I also wanted to share what it was like to live in a foreign country where things are not what you expect and people are not what you think.

Follow me through my experiences, my joys and my pains, my sane and insane times.. but most of all live through me what you are not ready to do yourself.  I hope to inspire all of you to live your life the way you want and to not be afraid of the unknown or the comments of others that are not living their dream……Live outside the box…. do not only “Dream it… Do it”

You can learn more about Jo at her blog, check out her app at Freebao.com, and visit SharesBar on Facebook. If you’d like to shop HeiLan Hair & Fashions right now on WeChat (the official website will launch on January 2, 2016), just scan the bar code below.

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What first brought you here to China?

I came to China to see China. I had always wanted to go to the Far East. I had gotten laid off and my kids were out of high school. So, they said go for it. Here I am 8 years later.

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Many of us first came to know you through your award-winning blog, Life Behind the Wall. What inspired you to start blogging?

Actually, laziness. Lol. I was tired of writing long emails to all my friends and family and decided to put it in a blog for all to read. And taaadaaaa I’m Internet famous. Who knew?

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In 2014, you started out as a partner/shareholder in a Hangzhou bar called SharesBar and went on to become an Assistant Manager there. Tell us about how you became involved in this business, and what you enjoy about working for the bar.

Well, SharesBar in Hangzhou is a low key place where we have a lot of different activities like bands, comedy, theme nights etc. I used hang out there with my friends. So one day I saw some English mistakes in the advertisement and brought it to their attention. They asked me to edit the ads, then write them. Next thing I know I was hosting shows and volunteered to be lead singer in a band.

Not long after that I was helping to make decisions at the bar. They said you might as well be an owner. And I bought into the bar. I was elected to be apart of the management team. I am still an owner and I still host. But my schedule doesn’t allow me to do much else anymore.

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While you divorced in 2014 from a marriage that you shared very publicly with us, you also went on to meet Jet Liu (“a former gangster turned good”), your new partner here in China. Tell us about how the two of you met and what attracted you to him.

Jet, he is amazing. You never know what’s missing from your life until you find someone that completes you. After my divorce, my ex husband remarried a month later. Tells me he had a Chinese girl on the side. But you know me, nothing holds me down long. I dated a lot and one night went to the club on a girl’s night and we were feeling like we needed some men around. So I suggested that we just pick one like apples. They laughed and told me to go first. I looked around and pointed at Jet. Muscular, handsome Chinese man with a big dragon tattoo. I know nothing about him. Just picked him.

He came to sit with us and the other girls followed my lead. We all partied until six in the morning. I could not find a taxi back home so he invited me to stay in his apt. The rest is rated R. But been together ever since.

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A dress from HeiLan Hair & Fashions

You’ve started up an online business called HeiLan Hair & Fashions. What sparked your interest in the fashion business? Was it challenging to open a store in China?

I sell hair like weaves, and wigs, and Western-style clothes, shoes and jewelry. Due to Jet’s background it is very difficult for him to get a job in China. So we needed to think of a business. I saw a lack of products for the curvy girl and Black hair products, and decided to fill the void. It took off like crazy. Expats contact me from all over the world looking for clothes and hair. Jet helps me a lot since I have a job and three businesses.

I do most of my selling through Wechat and mobile apps. I just am finishing up the redesign of my website. I think all my items are popular since they are hard to get in China for foreigners.

The Freebao app
The Freebao app

I’ve heard you’ve been working on an app called Freebao as well. Could you talk about that?

My third endeavor is a teaching app that uses face-to-face video chats to teach languages. Works kind of like Uber. Request a teacher and they will pick up and teach you a class. It has launched and is doing well. Freebao is available in the Apple Store and Google Play.

My plate is full I guess.

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Many foreigners dream of opening businesses in China. What do you think it takes to be a successful foreign entrepreneur in China?

Patience. There is a lot of red tape. You need Chinese friends. Influential friends to help you with the government stuff. You also need money. Everything is up-front here. Foreigners cannot get loans here.

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Jo, I know you’re always working on something new. Do you have any business ideas for the future or plans for your current businesses that you’d like to share with us?

Well you know me, I always have something brewing. I’m thinking men’s clothes and make up next. Who knows, I’m just trying to grow my Empire.

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Thanks so much to Jo Bai for this interview! You can learn more about Jo at her blog, check out her app at Freebao.com, and visit SharesBar on Facebook. If you’d like to shop HeiLan Hair & Fashions right now on WeChat (the official website will launch on January 2, 2016), just scan the bar code in the intro to this interview.

Interview with Anna Zech, Artist and China TV Celeb with a Passion for Chinese Culture

I came to know Anna Zech through her fantastic blogging (first as the Mandarin Duck, and now at China’s Lost Panda) – but as I’ve discovered, she’s more than just an outstanding writer and blogger.

Anna also excels as an artist (she does portraits for commission and has even written and illustrated a children’s book titled Maomao and the Nian Monster). A lifelong martial arts enthusiast, she has studied Shaolin-style kungfu (she met her husband Jinlong while training one winter). She has hosted TV shows and documentaries on Chinese television, turning her into a local celebrity (see this adorable video of her and her husband during Chinese New Year). And did I mention she’s fluent in Chinese and went to the finals for the 2014 Chinese Bridge Competition in Beijing, fulfilling a personal dream of hers?

Anna has so many talents and fascinating stories to share, it’s no wonder she has caught the attention of China Central Television, who will be broadcasting a documentary about her life in rural Anhui Province this weekend for the program “Foreigners in China” on CCTV Channel 4.

It’s my great pleasure to feature Anna Zech through this interview.

When I was young and practicing

Here’s Anna’s bio from her blog, China’s Lost Panda:

Anna is a freelance illustrator and portrait artist in her late 20s, with a passion for Martial Arts and Chinese culture. She was born in Russia, grew up in Germany and studied in the UK. She is fluent in Mandarin Chinese and graduated with a masters degree in China and International Relations from London University in 2014.

Following the slogan Home is where the heart is, she joined her husband Jinlong, a Chinese national from Anhui province in his hometown, after living in Boading (Hebei) and Shanghai. Currently they both reside in Bozhou, a city in Anhui province. Being the center of Chinese Medicine and boosting thousands of years of history, Bozhou makes a great place for inspiration….

Aside from her passion for Chinese culture, Anna is spends her free time working on new drawings. Because art and Chinese culture hold such an important place in her life, she has fused her China blog with her art hobby, blogging about her new creations, sharing tips and tricks for beginner artists and gives free tutorials in traditional art, eg. pencil portraits, pastel or marker paintings.

You can find out more about Anna and her husband, and read Anna’s blog, at China’s Lost Panda. Visit Anna Z. Art to learn more about her artwork and how to commission Anna to do a portrait for you. If you’re in China, catch Anna this weekend on CCTV Channel 4’s broadcast of “Foreigners in China” at 1pm Beijing time Saturday, October 31.

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What originally brought you to China?

I have always been fascinated with martial arts. When I was 13, a friend introduced me to a Kungfu School in Germany. I was hooked from the first day. All my teachers were Chinese nationals from the Shaolin temple, and when they invited a small group to go to China to visit their home town and train in Shaolin, I was the first one to sign up. After this first experience in China I fell in love with not only Chinese martial arts, but also China’s culture, its people and, of course, the food.

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How did you end up meeting your husband?

Since my first visit to China to train in Kungfu, I have been coming and going whenever the time allowed me to travel. I remember it clearly. It was 2010, and I was on a university exchange studying in Shanghai. During my university studies I had actually more or less given up on my Kungfu training. But, some strange thing happened that winter. All of a sudden I decided to pack my stuff and go visit my old Trainer. He had opened a new Kungfu school, and I thought I had to check it out. Who would have thought that this decision would change my whole life? I met my husband in that school. He was a good friend of my trainer, and back then teaching a few foreigners Chinese Kickboxing. Even though he was very shy, he still managed to win me over. In the end it wasn’t me who made the first move. And within a month we were a couple. It was never a question for me. I just felt it was right and meant to be. For me, everything that had happened up to that moment was meant to be. It was fate.

Chinese Bridge Competition in Changsha

You had the chance to participate in the Chinese Bridge Competition, and were even flown to Beijing for the finals. What was your most memorable experience in the competition?

The day I started learning Chinese, I have always wanted to one day take part in the Chinese Bridge Competition. I almost gave up on the idea, until last year when my Chinese teacher in London decided to push me to take part. When I won the finals in the UK and was invited to take part in the finals in China, I was actually really surprised.

The most memorable experience was the friends I made with people from all over the world. But, except that, I found the experience quite exhausting. I am fluent in Chinese, but I only speak a local Chinese dialect (blame my husband), and so the competition was my own little hell. We had special Standard Chinese teachers who tried to make sure we only speak Standard Chinese Putonghua. Every time I opened my mouth people started laughing at me. I got very self-conscious and even stopped talking Chinese for a while after the competition. I have now come to terms with my Chinese dialect. After all, where I live, everyone speaks it, and no one looks weird at me for speaking it as well. On the contrary, they accept me as one of them.

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Many of us know you through your blogs — first, the Mandarin Duck and later the Lost Panda. How did you decide to start blogging?

I have always been writing a diary. I find it helps to structure thoughts. Since my first adventures in China, people had been suggesting I should share my stories with the world. It was 2013 when I finally had the courage (and a little push by my husband) that I decided to enter the blog world. I chose The Mandarin Duck at first because I thought they were really fitting. After all the male and female Mandarin duck look very different, but they still are together; a bit like our intercultural relationship with all its differences. But after blogging for a few months and moving to China for good, I realized it’s not just only about our relationship. Living in China, especially living in rural China has its own obstacles, and problems you have to overcome. And sometimes I just feel lost in this Chinese world of old traditions and superstitions. So, I became the Lost Panda. Who doesn’t love a panda? Now I am sharing the real life in rural China. It’s very different from the big Chinese cities, but it gives a glimpse into an old traditional side of living in China. The good and the bad.

Anna Zech's portrait of me
Anna Zech’s portrait of me

You’re also an outstanding artist and you’ve started selling your work online. How would you describe your artistic style?

I have never formally learned art. Actually, I just learned by watching my mother painting when I was a child. She gave up on art altogether, which is a pity. And to be honest I was on the same path over a year ago. It was my husband who encouraged me to pick up pencil and paper and do something with the gift that was given to me. I have found over the past months what I enjoy most are portraits. I have always been fascinated with eyes. When I was in school, I would draw little eyes all over my homework (creepy yeah). I am still a work in progress. Art is something you never stop improving in. I feel that during the past few months my portrait art has changed a lot. I have found my favourite medium to draw with and am now striving for realism. I want to capture the true character of every person I draw and make the portrait look as life like as possible. I hope I will get more opportunities in the future to practice these skills and share my knowledge I gain on the way with everyone else who is interested. Occasionally I also enjoy the freer art. I do many illustrations for my Lost Panda Blog and I have self-published a small children’s book called Maomao and the Nian Monster. I have so many more ideas and projects I am working on at the moment. Since moving to China, and finally being with my husband every day, I feel like my creativity has reached its peak, and every day I am excited to keep on working hard.

Anna Zech hosting a local TV show

You’ve been a TV host for a local station in Anhui. Could you tell us about how you came to land this gig, and talk about what it was like being a TV host in China?

Being the only female foreigner here in the city it wasn’t that difficult to be noticed. I had been doing a few documentaries with Anhui International TV and through them got introduced to our local TV station. We’ve done a few small shows, like filming me and my Chinese family spending Chinese New Year. Naturally, I am a very introverted person, and it took me quite a bit of convincing to enter the world of a News presenter. The first day they invited me to the TV station, it was supposed to be a simple “Meet and Greet”, where we could get to know each other and slowly get a feeling for what it could be like. As is usual in China, things never are as they say they will be. That Saturday, they put me into new clothes, put on make-up and sat me in front of the camera. I thought they were just testing, and so I complied, reading the lines running in front of me. But when the nice lady said, “Ok, we are done,” I found I out that what we just had filmed would be broadcasted later that day! To the whole of Anhui province! Chinese TV can be chaotic and very exhausting. I have already given up on the News host gig. Without the right support from the TV station, it is impossible for a non-native speaker to read out an unknown Chinese script right off the screen without preparation.

Anna Zech and her husband on Chinese New Year feature

China Central Television Channel 4 will be broadcasting a documentary about your life in rural Anhui Province. What was it like being filmed for China’s biggest TV network?

After having filmed a few documentaries for Anhui International TV, I was really relaxed about the CCTV 4 film crew coming to our home to film another documentary about our life.

I think my husband had different feelings. He hates the camera and always forgets how to speak as soon as the camera is facing him. This, combined with a funny director, made for a memorable experience. They followed us for five days, which was the longest I have ever worked on a TV production. In the beginning I wasn’t sure what there is to film about our life again. We don’t do anything spectacular at the moment. So, I am really curious how they have structured the documentary. Also, they did interview my Chinese parents-in-law and my sister-in-law and my husband separately, so I have no idea what they said and I am very curious to know. It is definitely something you should think about before agreeing to. A film crew will come to your home and film everything from you waking up in the morning, cleaning the house, cooking to how you are with your husband and family. It’s very personal, but I made the decision to join. I think it’s a great way to capture a moment of your life and share it with the world. Maybe even our simple life can inspire someone.

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Thank you so much to Anna Zech for this interview! Find out more about Anna and all of her many talents at her blog China’s Lost Panda. Visit Anna Z. Art to learn more about her artwork and how to commission Anna to do a portrait for you. You can buy Anna’s children’s book Maomao and the Nian Monster on Amazon.com, where your purchase helps support this blog. If you’re in China, catch Anna this weekend on CCTV Channel 4’s broadcast of “Foreigners in China” at 1pm Beijing time Saturday, October 31.

Interview with Competitive Ceroc/Modern Jive Dancers Samson Chan and Georgia Traher

Georgia and Samson
Georgia and Samson

Falling in love on the dance floor is not just the stuff of romantic comedies. It happened in London, England to Samson “Samo” Chan and book blogger Georgia Traher, who felt the sparks fly while dancing Modern Jive and Ceroc for fun.

But for this AMWF couple, dancing is more than a hobby. Samson recently won first place in the Advanced Freestyle category with his partner and now competes at an open level. Georgia, who has danced since she was 13, is an intermediate dancer just starting her competitive career. Wow!

This weekend, they will rock the ballrooms of Hong Kong as participants in the Pan Asian Ceroc Championships, a charity event raising money for Angels for Orphans. Here’s a Youtube video from last year’s event:

In fact, the couple will be part of a group lead by Samson that will provide entertainment:

Be entertained by performances from Samson Chan and his team of 8 young, vibrant Ceroc dancers…

…and instruction on Saturday Oct 24:

4-5pm, Whips & Scrolls with Samson ‘Samo’ Chan:

Want to leave your followers with that “Wwheee!” feeling and impress onlookers? Whip along to this workshop to cover both some whirlwind moves and slick techniques.

The technique side will focus on connection for both lead and follow, then you’ll be learning a style of moves called ‘Whips’ and ‘Scrolls’ that can be used to enhance your smooth jive repertoire.

About Samo

Samo is known for his smooth and fluid style. This diverse dancer has stormed onto the UK ceroc scene, winning people over with his infectious smile and whirlwind whips. His smooth jive butters up all he dances with, and his collection of trophies would tell you the judges love him too!

FYI, for those of you new to Ceroc, here’s a quick introduction from the Ceroc website:

Ceroc is an abbreviation of the French phrase c’est Rock.

We have been introducing complete beginners to the world of partner dancing for over 30 years and today we are the biggest dance club in the world with hundreds of classes across the globe.

We teach dance in its general form, and we use dances like Salsa, Ballroom, Latin American, Street dance, Hip Hop, Musical Theatre, Tango and Jive to develop our creative and expressive inner-self.

I sat down with Georgia and Samson to learn more about how they met, their strengths as dancers, and what they’ll be up to during the Pan Asian Ceroc Championships.

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You both met on the dance floor. Could you tell us a little bit about that first time you were together?

We had had a few dances before we officially ‘met’ but he soon became my favourite dancer.

Most nights after the class, the group will move on to a nearby bar to keep dancing. As we were walking over, he asked me out for a drink on our own and we’ve carried on dancing since then.

You do Ceroc and Modern Jive dancing. Why are you attracted to these styles of dance?

The Ceroc franchise is set up to be friendly and for socialising as well as learning to dance. All dancing is great for meeting people, my dad and step mum met while dancing (tango) as well! Modern jive isn’t what people imagine, it is alot smoother than traditional jive or swing dancing and people often surprise themselves with how easy it is to learn few moves.

Could you tell us a little about your competitive strengths as dancers?

Competitions are so much fun! Samson inspired me to start to compete after I watched him (win) in London. Competition dancing is a little different to our usual freestyle (casual/social) Dancing. You get used to finding your judge and showing off your personality. Samson’s speciality is musicallity and hitting every beat with a ‘wow’ move with his partner. I love the feeling of competition dancing, you have to tighten up your styling and there is nothing like hearing the crowd cheer!

This weekend, you are both in Hong Kong for the Pan Asian Ceroc Championships, which is being organized as a charity event for Angels for Orphans. Could you tell us a little about what you and Samson will be dancing in this competition and how your efforts are supporting this charity?

This weekend the Pan Asia Ceroc Championships are going on. We are a group of eight and we are performing a group caberet dance, which features ceroc in its most advanced forms to show off what is possible with these simple dance moves. Some of the more advanced in the group will be judging the competition beginner categories, and the group is also providing two workshops to pass on some signature moves. We’re entertainment, judges and instructors for the weekend.

What advice would you have for someone interested in competitive dance?

Here I’ll hand over to Samson as he’s the expert: The most important things for competitive ceroc dancing are the couple’s personality, that they are compatible with eachother and dance with the same style. A few flash moves are useful but most of all it’s important to listen to the music. And as I tell Georgia: No making faces! A resting happy face is fine, but if you mess up pretend you didn’t, you might think the judges can’t see a wrinkled nose, but they’re always watching! You have to love every move and every song, even if you’re dancing to YMCA by the village people!

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A big thanks to Georgia and Samson for this interview! If you’re in Hong Kong and wondering what to do this weekend, consider heading to the Pan Asian Ceroc Championships, where you can catch them and many other brilliant dancers in action while supporting the charity Angels for Orphans. Book lovers will enjoy Georgia’s book blog Stories in Books.

Interview with Jess Meider, One of China’s Best Jazz Vocalists

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Earlier this year, I blogged about my experience being filmed for the English-language China Central Television show “Crossover” (NOTE: the show hasn’t aired yet, but I will let you know once it is scheduled).

One of the best things about it? Meeting some other amazingly talented yangxifu (foreign wives of Chinese men) on the set, including Jess Meider. She performed an original song in the studio with her husband, Gao Fang, and I was just astounded by her voice and the music.

So I knew I just had to introduce her to you too.

Jess Meider
Jess Meider

Here’s the short bio for Jess Meider from her personal website:

Jess has resided in Beijing since moving there from NYC in 1997. A songwriting graduate of Berklee College of Music, she has been gracing stages all over China with her amazing voice in various musical projects. If you’ve lived for any length of time in Beijing, you’ve likely seen Jess perform in her jazz quartet or in her singer-songwriter act. Most recently she has been performing in the electronic duo Jess Meider featuring Chinatown. Jess is one of China’s best jazz vocalists, and has spent almost half of her life practicing the art of performance in music festivals, and in Beijing and Shanghai’s most popular live music venues.

Here’s a short list of cool things about Jess:

  • She performed jazz in the VIP Beijing Olympics venue for the Olympians
  • She ‘starred’ in a movie with Andy Lau and Gong Li, and two of her jazz original tracks are featured in the movie (“Kiss” and “Now is the time”) “What Women Want” 2010
  • She was featured on a track for Cui Jian’s movie “Blue Sky Bones”
  • Her voice has been aired all over China in ads for Audi, in Japan for Godiva, and most recently, will be worldwide for Durex Condoms
  • She has sung for VIP Events all over China
  • She has performed with Gong Lin Na (famous Chinese singer) at the Forbidden City Concert Hall
  • She is a featured writer in her Berklee songwriting mentor’s book, Songwriting Without Boundaries by Pat Pattison.

You can purchase her music on iTunes and Amazon.com, follow her on Youtube and Facebook, and learn more about her at Jessmeider.com. If you’re in Beijing, you can check out Jess Meider’s Birthday Show at DDC Club on September 17 at 9pm:

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In this interview, I asked Jess about everything from her path to China to her music to how she and her husband Gao Fang collaborate together.

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How did you end up in China?

Fate. (YUAN) there is just no other explanation. I had never expressed any interest or wishes to travel to China. In 1997, I was living and working in NYC, and a guy I was seeing went off to Beijing. I immediately took interest and had to go have a look. I was stunned by the differences; I felt as though I’d landed on the moon. China is sensational – the smells, the tastes, the language, the history, the culture. I spent two months there and was hooked. It was the first time I’d ever left the country. I moved back in early 1998. It was incredibly inspiring and challenging on all levels.

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You once told me that China helped you realize your career as a singer and musician. Could you talk more about that?

Of course! I graduated from Berklee College of Music, and upon moving to Beijing in 1997, I had privy to live stages to perform my singer-songwriter music. NYC is packed with amazing musicians, so gigging there requires a lot of persistence to get on stage, and if you’re unpracticed, as I was back then, the chance to get back on the stage after a show was much more challenging. Beijing’s music scene was brand new; it offered me countless opportunities to practice the art of performing.  As one could imagine, the jazz scene was teeny tiny, and there were practically no jazz vocalists.  Any jazz musician knows how much practice is involved before you can really get up on a stage. I was able to practice singing jazz for modest earnings. It was really a great experience (and still is, eighteen years later). I remember my first jazz performance…my friend took me to the San Wei Bookstore, which hosted music almost every night. David Moser, a pianist, asked me if I could sing “Night and Day.” At the time, I was quite nervous that I wouldn’t be able to remember the lyrics. He put his hand on my shoulder and said, “Look at the audience, Jessica…Do you think they’ll even notice if the lyrics are wrong?”  I smiled, relaxed, and sang.

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I recently read that I am “known as one of China’s best jazz vocalists,” which is a nice thing to read…and fortunately for China, I am not the only jazz vocalist in China.

I was also privy to the stage at the Keep In Touch. The owner let me get on stage every week to play my original material. This was a great gift to my performance confidence. Even when I was fucking up, people were forgiving, and I would talk my way back to the beginning of a verse when I forgot a lyric (I’m rolling my eyes now, but then, it really was entertaining to the half Chinese, half foreign audiences).

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Your husband is also a musician. Talk about how you met each other, and how you’ve collaborated on music over the years.

I first met my husband, Gao Fang in 2004, in another lifetime. It was brief and my Mandarin was limited, so we couldn’t really connect. In 2009 I needed a bassist for the release of my 4th album, Divine. Someone suggested him. It wasn’t until I formed my rock trio, The Heavenly Stems in 2011, that I found out that Gao Fang (pronounced F-ahng) was a talented guitarist and brilliant composer.

After a few months, we were together, engaged, married, and now have an almost 3 year old daughter.

We now have a new electronic-ish project, billed under my name, Jess Meider. The album “Chinatown” will be coming out at the end of September.  Soon after the birth of our daughter, Gao Fang began composing well-crafted electronic pieces. I wrote the lyrics based on the stages of raising our daughter, from birth to present. Last year in 2014, we began performing the material. It’s just him and I on stage, which is a real treat, because the focus of the audience is more on the music; my vocals and Gao Fang’s layers of guitars. You can have a sneak peak selfie video of a song entitled “Light” and our wonderful song, “Cozy,” shot by the brilliant Maysha Lin.

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How would you describe your music?

I think just to be complete, I’ll describe a few of the projects that I’ve done:
My songwriter material is very auto-biographical. Lately, I have not been performing this music. I have always felt comfortable sharing my life experiences, as we all are in this life together, and every little bit helps. My songwriter music is helpful. I have received much feedback about these two albums, Jess Meider Songwriter and Divine, saying it’s very cathartic, healing, soothing. Fans play it to lull their babies to sleep. Friends listen and feel comforted.

My jazz is jazzy. It’s listenable and interesting. My favorite track off of Dao is “Now is the Time,” a piece I wrote based on the Hafiz poem “Now is the Time.”  The title track, “Dao” was written by Moreno Donadel, the Italian jazz pianist I’ve been playing with since 1998. I wrote the lyrics and the song is just a wonderful walk through the steps of the practice of the “Dao.”

This electronic music we’re producing now is intelligent and very comfortable (舒服SHOO-FOO) on the ears; all of the lyrics are positive and fun. It’s danceable. Kids and adults love it.  I highly recommend it.

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You’ve released 4 albums in China and are releasing your latest one this fall. How does your upcoming album compare to your past work?

I’ve self-released 4 albums. Candy (2000), Songwriter (2008), Dao (2009) and Divine (2009). Chinatown will be released in the fall of this year (2015). The new stuff is exactly the kind of music I’ve always wanted to write, but didn’t have the programming savvy to write it. Because Gao Fang composed, arranged and programmed all of the new material, it has the groove of electronic but the allure of a intelligent musical composition. It has deliberate melodies carved into really comfortable beats. Gao Fang’s layers of guitars are memorable, and my vocals are like a hip icing on a cake.

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Are there any other exciting music-related projects you’re working on that you’d like to share with us?

Other plans include making videos for the Chinatown album, applying for music festivals abroad, and of course, writing new material. I would really like to travel using Chinatown as a vehicle!

The family

In terms of the future, you’ve said you plan to remain with your family in Beijing. Why?

Well, aside from the sometimes acute pollution, I love Beijing. The culture, the language, the history, the food, oh god, the food…Chinese really know what they’re doing culinarily. It’s been my home for 18 years, and my husband is a Beijinger. I can’t possibly imagine leaving Beijing to live somewhere else, and believe me, on bad pollution days, I’ve tried. My Chinese Medicine Doctor (TCM) actually said to me once, “Jess, you can’t leave Beijing, it’s already been so long; your “life artery” (ren mai人脉)is here.

I am also fascinated with Chinese Medicine and the motto “Shun Qi Zi Ran,” which means, “follow the natural path.” I’ve been regularly seeing a Chinese Medicine doctor for 4 years now, and have recovered from most of my “chronic” ailments because I’m repairing my “qi” roadways (meridians). I’ve been keeping a blog about my experiences. I compare Western ‘health’ culture/mindset with the reality of Chinese Medicine. It’s really incredible. I feel like there is so much that I can write about, that at times, I just don’t have the power to voice it all. I continue to try.

Beijing and I are long term…I do think that there are possibilities in the future to have real estate in other parts of the world, but I will always have a home in Beijing.

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Thanks so much to Jess Meider for this interview! Remember, you can purchase her music on iTunes and Amazon.com, follow her on Youtube and Facebook, and learn more about her at Jessmeider.com (where you’ll find her bio, music, videos, and blogs about traditional Chinese medicine, yoga and having a child). And if you’re in Beijing, check out Jess Meider’s Birthday Show on September 17 at 9pm at the DDC Club (50 RMB cover charge).

2015 Blogs by Western Women Who Love Chinese Men

2015 bloggers

It’s March (the month we celebrate International Women’s Day), and time to update to my list of blogs by Western women who love Chinese men! I know, I know, I’m a little late to the game this year. All I can say is, my March has been insanely busy (including preparing for my upcoming appearance in Beijing on March 29 as part of the Bookworm Lit Fest – come if you can!).

This year, my list includes nearly 60 different blogs. I’ve still grouped the blogs loosely according to their focus, and tagged first timers on this list with *NEW* for your convenience.

Like last year, the same housekeeping rule applies — blogs must have been updated within the past year to make this list.

So, without further ado…(insert drumroll of choice)…here are the blogs!

Authors/Books
Family and Kids
Food
Language
Personal Stories

Authors/Books

Behind the Story. American writer Nicki Chen married her late Chinese husband in 1967, the same year that the US Supreme Court finally made interracial marriages legal in the US. She’s led a fascinating life indeed, so it’s no wonder that her blog has become a repository for many of the real-life stories that inspire her novels, including this quirky post about how her husband might have been a real-life ghost whisperer. Her debut novel Tiger Tail Soup just hit the shelves last year and it’s perfect for anyone who loves Pearl Buck’s wartime China stories. Check out my interview with Nicki from September 2014 to learn more about Tiger Tail Soup.

My Half of the Sky. Jana McBurney-Lin, who has a Chinese husband and children, penned the novel My Half of the Sky, which also is the namesake of her writing- and family-focused blog. But as a Tai Chi enthusiast, I loved this older post about trying out this venerable martial art.

Kylie Chan. This Australian author who married a Hong Kong national channeled her passion for Chinese mythology, culture and martial arts into writing novels, which you can learn more about at her site. She also blogs on her site, including about her appearances for 2015.

Michelle Maisto. Pretty much anyone in a Chinese-Western cross-cultural relationship will invariably find themselves having an occasional disagreement about a simple question: “What should we eat for dinner?” That’s the subject of Michelle’s memoir titled The Gastronomy of Marriage, which explores how she and her Chinese-American husband managed to make room at the table for all of their different eating preferences. Her blog is loaded with lots of Chinese food porn (naturally!) but also stories about being a mom to their little girl (who she’s teaching Mandarin — yes!).

Rhiannon Jenkins Tsang. A British woman truly ahead of her time, Rhiannon made her first sojourn to China in 1986 — what I wouldn’t give to experience that China through her eyes. She later met her husband, who is from Hong Kong, at Oxford; the two of them live with their family in the UK. Her first novel, The Woman Who Lost China, just came out in 2013 and will surely appeal to anyone fascinated with the country and its tumultuous past.

Susan Blumberg-Kason. Once upon a time, Susan was a yangxifu, spending time in Wuhan with her Chinese husband and first child. She’s since moved back to her Chicago roots, remarried and added two more children to her family, but is forever connected to China. She offers tidbits of everything from Jewish Asia to raising multicultural kids, as well as regular reviews on Hong Kong/Shanghai/China-related books. If you’re living in or near Chicago, or passing through, check out her book, All the Tea in Chicago. Last year she released her long-awaited memoir Good Chinese Wife – if you’re new to the book, check out my interview with her.

Sveta’s Book Review Blog. Sveta still searches for her true Asian love, but currently pours her passion into reading and sharing her latest reads on this blog. She reviews a variety of books, including AMWF reads that might interest followers of this blog, and now posts readings of selected books on Youtube.

Family and Kids

A Broad Abroad. JQ, an American woman who lives in Qingdao with her Chinese husband, toddler and new baby girl, isn’t afraid to say what’s on her mind about living in China, her family there and more  — such as the follies of family visits during the new year.

*NEW*AMBW Families and Relationships. This is one of the best sites spotlighting AMBW (Asian men, Black women) couples and their families, filled with beautiful photos and stories of real families out there. It’s run by a black woman married to a Chinese guy (they met and married each other in just three weeks, wow!) who have two kids. Definitely worth bookmarking!

Chinese Potpourri. This blog offers a mish-mash of postings from Charlotte an American woman with a Chinese husband and two small children, living in a small town in Hebei, China – including a recent one about some unusual compliments regarding a very special pair of socksCheck out her cute family photos! She’s In my Double Happiness Archives, you’ll also find her love story — which has one of the most surprising titles: “I Want To Be Your Slave For The Rest of My Life”.

Corazón Asiático (en español). This Spanish woman named Selenia married her sweetheart from Shandong Province (their photo on this About page is one of the most romantic I’ve ever seen). Today she’s a mom and writes about life, love and studying Japanese en español.

*NEW*Diaries of a Yangxifu. UK native Sarah met her husband during a marathon in Birmingham (a how-we-met story she generously shared with us all in her guest post on my site). She’s been pregnant and living in China for most of the past year, writing about everything from her pregnancy experience to surviving the in-laws. And did I mention she’s also a vegan, just like me? Wishing Sarah a smooth delivery in the UK!

The Downtown Diner. American Melanie Gao has no pretensions about herself. Her blog is a homey, welcoming little slice of the yangxifu blogosphere, self-described as “Made famous in Beijing, now operating out of Nashville, Tennessee.” She has spoken out about her divorce from her Chinese ex-husband and will always remain my unofficial twin (we really do look alike). She often writes about her two lovely biracial and bicultural children (who recently went to Beijing to spend time with their dad). Thanks for keeping it real, Melanie.

Ember Swift. This Canadian woman is a singer-songwriter, musician, writer and blogger who writes some of the most fascinating and powerful posts on this list about her life (from her marriage to a Chinese guy to raising their kids). Don’t miss the interviews (one and two) with her that I posted up in 2013 just before Chinese New Year. Her blog has become required reading for pregnancy in China as well as navigating the visa issues of having kids with a Chinese national.

Mighty Maggie. American Maggie lives with her husband Phillip, the Devastatingly Handsome Chinese Man, in Seattle with three kids. She’s a stay-at-home mom who blogs about everything from religious issues to parenting. This is an older post, but she brings up an interesting dilemma when she writes about the problem of sending a child to Chinese language school, when she and her husband don’t speak the language well.

*NEW*Monkeys and Mooncakes. American Steph (who has a husband from Anhui, China) is a thirty-something mom to three lovely kids and she devotes her blog to helping children love Chinese language and culture at home. Parents will love her posts such as craft fun with the year of the goat and this Chinese character review game.

*NEW*Nama Mama. This was one of the most exciting blogs I discovered in 2014 – it’s not often you come across an American woman married to a Tibetan guy living in Xining, Qinghai (with their baby daughter). Kimberly has since moved the family to Jiangsu Province, where she’s now teaching English, and also moved her blog over to WordPress (update those links, folks!). Be sure to read her guest post here about how she met her husband (who seems like a super-sweet and extra-special guy).

*NEW*Rosie in Beijing. American Rosalie Zhao’s how-we-met story, which she shared in 2013 year on my blog, challenged stereotypes by introducing her future husband as “China’s answer to Arnold Schwarzenegger”! It still remains one of the most memorable posts I’ve run. She’s a stepmom to her husband’s daughter from another marriage and just had a baby last year; trying to bring her son over to the US on a Chinese passport led to a really interesting post for anyone considering having kids in China.

Wo Ai Ni. Rhiannon, an American woman who met and married her Chinese husband in the US, creates a whimsical collage of an intercultural family on her site. It’s a snapshot of daily family life — including two blonde-haired children from a previous marriage, and four young half-Chinese kids.

Food

Madame Huang’s Kitchen (Formerly Out to Lunch). Carolyn J. Phillips doesn’t just have a Chinese husband. She loves to eat too, and shares her passion with the world through some of the most authentic and mouth-watering recipes for Chinese food on the web. Don’t read on an empty stomach, and be on the lookout for her upcoming illustrated book on all of China’s great cuisines. Called All Under Heaven, it will be published by McSweeney’s in September 2015. She just came out with a fantastic downloadable Dim Sum Guide. To learn more about Carolyn and her work, check out my 2012 interview with her.

Taiwan Xifu. The Taiwan Xifu dishes out delicious recipes with a dash of Chinese culture thrown in for good measure (including her posts about foods for zuo yuezi). She has since moved back to Australia – here’s wishing her family a smooth transition into their new life over there!

Language

Living A Dream in China. Finnish woman Sara Jaaksola writes with a lot of heart and soul as she works on her Mandarin Chinese. But what I really love about Sara is her support to the community — she started the Foreign Women in China discussion forum (any woman anywhere is welcome to join). Sara had an exciting time last year with her marriage to Alan (including a huge Chinese wedding ceremony in Guangzhou), and also stopped by Hangzhou (where she and I shared a lovely day together).

Menglelan. American Menglelan (not her real name) is a teacher and, in my mind, a pioneer — the first blogger on this list who maintained a blog in traditional Chinese! She writes about eclectic topics (including the occasional post on guys!), but the Chinese-language nature of her blog makes it worthwhile reading for anyone studying the language.

Personal Stories

AMWF Couple. She’s white and British, he’s from Hong Kong, and they’re  happily dating in the UK. You’ll enjoy her posts on how they met and how they started dating (his story versus her story), as well as this recent and thoughtful post asking why so many AMWF couples end up living in Asia?

Becky Ances. She teaches English in the outskirts of Hangzhou lovely Xiamen and writes frequently about traveling, her students, and expat life. But many of you will appreciate her take on dating Chinese men, as well as more recent posts on creepy white guys in Asia and this story from an Asian man dating a white woman.

Celestereille. This blog is another proud example of beautiful Blasian love in China, right down to this gorgeous photo of the author kissing her Chinese beau, and this lovely Valentine to him. She welcomed her lovely baby Connor into the world in 2013 and in the past year (tired of things such as her “walk of shame” in China) she moved the whole family back with her to the US. Wishing her the best as she settles into life in America!

China Doll. She’s a Norwegian woman who went to China when she was 13 and later met her Chinese beau CC (with whom she had an LDR for some time). In this past year, they got engaged (hooray!) and they’ve since moved together to Beijing, where she now teaches English.

*NEW*My Chinese Boyfriend. Mexican American Yocelyn is making a splash on the web with her funky and colorful comics that cover (surprise, surprise!) her unique relationship. Some of my favorites include her recent post on racial identity in America and weird things Mexicans do.

Chocolate Chick in China. This African-American blogger is an English teacher based in Nanchang Hangzhou, and you’ve got to love a woman who writes this in her About page: “I have  always been fascinated by the 5000 year old culture and also all the handsome single Chinese men that may never find love due to the fact that they overpopulate the women. so off I go to China to find a different way of life and  maybe a husband too.” While she’s still looking for love, she’s definitely stumbled into a wonderful circle of expat friends!

*NEW*Dreaming of Taipei. This Italian girl has dreams of Taiwan’s great metropolis because that’s where her sweetheart lives (they’re in a long-distance relationship). I especially love her four posts – see part 1, part 2, part 3 and part 4 – about how China changed her (from her self-esteem to how she views her hometown of Verona, Italy).

Foreign Sanctuary. Constance is a Canadian married to a Taiwanese man who currently calls Taiwan home — and shares gorgeous photos as well as stories from her life (such as how her husband once sang a Taiwanese love song at her cousin’s wedding). She’s now working on a book! Enjoy her guest post on my site about how she believes everything happens for a reason (even how she ended up finding love and a new life in Taiwan).

*NEW*Greece Meets Taiwan. This is the love story of a Greek girl and a Taiwanese guy living in South Africa. You’ll love her recent post about Chinese New Year in South Africa and this one on the advantages of being in an interracial/intercultural relationship.

Hello China! elo China! (in French) Elodie is married to a man from Nanjing, and has the only blog on this list written in French. She covers everything from student life at Nanjing University (where she reached HSK level 7) to travels around China. Love her header photo on top, where she is wrapped in China’s national flag.

My Hong Kong Husband. Lina, who hails from Poland, lives in Northern California Ireland with the eponymous husband that inspired her blog — one that has fast become a popular read in the AMWF community. And it’s no wonder, with her funny posts about everything from men you wouldn’t want to date to cool Asian life hacks. Wishing her and Sing the best as they start their new life in Ireland!

*NEW*Hong Kong Kisses. This blog is written Canadian woman with a Hong Kong fiancée (they’re preparing to move to Hong Kong!). Now that she’s pregnant on top of it all, I’m expecting lots of exciting updates in 2015. Wishing this couple the best!

*NEW*I Married an Asian, Now What? An American woman who calls herself Hazel offers us a peek into her interracial marriage to a Chinese man through a mélange of journal-like posts (including their China trip during the summer of 2014). She offers a nice and short take on the problem with Chinese stereotypes.

The Inner Mongolian/内蒙古人. Susanna, who is from Scotland, discovered her husband and a new life in Inner Mongolia — but I’m certain she’s always had a flair for telling funny stories (especially her post on how to take a taxi in Inner Mongolia). This interview with her husband is just precious. Check out their cute wedding photos!

Judith in China (in Dutch). This Dutch woman used to live in Beijing with her local boyfriend but has since moved with him to Wuhan. She blogs about life in China, including the special things she encounters every day in the country, such as striking things in China. Her guest post titled “He Feels Horrible About Me Being The Breadwinner” got a lot of you talking.

Jules in 中国. American Jules met her beau in China, married him there in 2013 (with all of the pomp and circumstance you’d expect), became pregnant, moved to the US, and is now a mom to a cute little baby boy. Congrats to her!

*NEW*Karma’s World Tour. Written by AMWF couple Kara and Mark, this blog chronicles their travels around the world (in gorgeous photos that will have you wishing they had taken you along for the ride).

Linda Living in China. Originally from Germany, Linda followed her heart and passion all the way to China, never expecting that along the way she would end up falling in love with a man from Korea (they’re now engaged and figuring out how to get married in Korea). She blogs about travel, Asian beauty products, teaching and also Western women and Chinese men in love. Don’t miss her guest post here on my blog titled “Am I in the ‘Wrong’ AMWF Relationship?” How a Woman Who Loved China Fell for a Korean man.

Life Behind the Wall. The first blog on this list by an African-American woman with a Chinese husband (they’ve recently divorced). Jo Gan isn’t your usual expat teaching English in China. In the past year, she has become a partner in a bar, started her own band, dated some fascinating fellows (before meeting her sweetheart Jet Liu), and has decided to start her own fashion company. Impressive! All I have to say is, I can’t wait to see what Jo is up to in 2015!

*NEW*Lost Panda. Anna was born in Russia and raised in Germany, but she ultimately discovered her love and future in China. Last year she dazzled us with her personal stories at The Mandarin Duck, and now she’s doing it again with the Lost Panda, a blog especially dedicated to living in rural China. Some of her cool recent posts include discussing language barriers in international relationships, Chinese drinking etiquette, and five disappearing Chinese New Year’s traditions that are still alive and well in her husband’s hometown, Niuji Village.

*NEW*The Love Blender. Italian Marghini, who is dating Mr. B (she describes him as a “a Hong Kong-New Zealand-British boy with funny hair and kind eyes”), writes about one of my favorite subjects: cross-cultural dating (or, as she calls it in her tagline, “dating out of the box”). Readers will love her posts on intercultural relationships, including a recent one about 10 reasons why Asian men are sexy. By the way, she also shared her love story here for Double Happiness — check it out here!

*NEW*Malatang. American Amanda loves China and she loves to eat (including the tantalizingly spicy dish that is the namesake of her blog, subtitled “A Vermonter’s Adventure in China.” She’s blogged about her life (and delectable meals) in some of the most beautiful corners of China, including Lijiang and the wilderness of Sichuan. She has also loved a Lijiang local along the way (which she blogged about in this insightful post titled Dating in China: Cultural Differences).

Mandarin Reflections. Nathalie describes herself as deeply “in love with the most wonderful Chinese man” – and last year the two of them made it official by getting married! You’ll enjoy her classic posts on signs that you’re dating a Chinese man and On Dating Chinese Men: All Men Are Different. Wishing Nathalie and her hubby the happiest marriage!

Mandarin Stories. Orange rain’s blog originally had a dramatic backstory — even though she was already married to a Chinese man, her family didn’t know about it. Turns out, when she finally revealed her secret marriage to the family, there wasn’t any drama over it at all (nor much reaction, according to her). She does a lot of posts w/ photos from their trips – such as Scandinavia — so this is a great blog for all you armchair travelers! Last year she and the hubby had their official wedding ceremony in Shanghai (which her two brothers and Aunt even attended, their first-ever trip to China) and she posted her gorgeous pre-wedding photos (including pics in a stunning red dress). Congrats to them!

Marta lives in China. She’s a Spaniard who met her Chinese boyfriend in Suzhou, where she used to work for a manufacturer in the city. She’s since headed to Shanghai for better work (which means she and her boyfriend now see each other on the weekends, a “short-distance relationship”!). You’ll love her post on how she met her sweetheart C as well as the humorous “don’t leave your boyfriend home alone.” You can also follow her en espaňol on her Spanish-language blog Infinity Plus One.

Michelle Guo. Michelle Chu got married in 2012 to her Chinese beau from Henan and became Michelle Guo. While her blog topics remain eclectic, she has shared much about her marriage (such as being helpless in love with her Chinese husband) and the experience of staying in her husband’s hometown. Last year she and her husband moved back to America. Wishing them the best in the US!

Mingbai. A Dutch woman with a Chinese husband runs a China consulting and travel business, and maintains a blog written in Dutch mainly about travel destinations in this great country.

Olivia’s Choice. If the community had a magazine, chances are Olivia Lau could easily be the covergirl. This beautiful and stylish woman from Spain was living in Hong Kong, where she met and married a local man and also ran her own online fashion store. After their epic proposalpre-wedding photos, and the big event itself, they’ve moved back to Barcelona to work in Olivia’s family store. In 2014, they welcomed baby Liam into their lives. Congrats to this lovely couple!

People Mountain, People Sea. Ashley is not your average American teaching English in Taiwan, thanks to her marriage to a Taiwanese guy (which included a period of time when she lived in the family home). You’ll find her posts on relationships and dating interesting, including this post on what it takes to make a cross-cultural relationship work. Recently, she’s posted about how she and her husband complement each other in different and beautiful ways.

*NEW*The Ruby Ronin. American Mary (who has a white dad and an Asian mom) has long had a love affair with Asia, spending two years in Japan (and learning Japanese), and then four years in China. She’s now living in Los Angeles with her Chinese boyfriend, but her recent posts – from how to get an Asian boyfriend in China or Japan to how she could save $10,000 a year by living in Tokyo – have me thinking it won’t be long before she returns to Asia again!

*NEW*PINK✿PEACH✿BLOSSOMS. This twenty-something woman in Germany (who has a Chinese husband) is crazy about Korean beauty products, K-Pop, manga and more, and is currently studying Mandarin Chinese. Check out her reviews of Korean beauty products and other posts about what’s going on in her life (including her bunny).

Selly’s Little World. Sarah Heintze is a German gal residing in Wuhan, China and last year was a tough one on her (including recovering a severe burn on her leg and breaking up with her Chinese fiancée). But with her recent fitness fun in Wuhan, it’s clear she’s doing pretty great these days. Wishing her a better 2015!

Shandongxifu. Ericka, who used to live in Qingdao with her Shandong husband, was known by many of us through her posts at the Lost Laowai blog — where she confidently reminded us that Laowai Girls Love Asian Boys. I share her passion for Jay Chou and, yes, Meteor Garden (quiet sigh). She rocked the blogosphere last year by bravely coming forward with her chilling story of sexual assault in Shenzhen.

Sincerely, Shalom (Formerly Jew Knew). Eileen’s blog is so lovely and touching, like her pictures of smiling, long-haired women in dazzling rainbow colors. She is married to a man from Taiwan and now writes about her life with him in Asia, even opening up to write about dealing with anxiety abroad and the perks of an intercultural marriage. Eileen shared her story with me for Double Happiness.

*NEW*When West Dates East. Autumn — who lives in LA with her Chinese American boyfriend – writes: “Some swear it’s a myth:  ‘You’ll find a unicorn before you find a white chick who dates Asian dudes.’ Welcome to my blog on unicorns.” She offers a funny and self-deprecating look into her relationship with posts about how she stumbled with chopsticks the first time she met his parents and how impossible it was to find just the right gift for his mom.

Wrapped in a Chinese Leaf. Sarah is an Irish woman studying for her master’s in international business, but she also knows a thing or two about international relations, thanks to her Chinese boyfriend (who was caught last year trying out some of her beauty products!). She loves telling stories through words, and you’ve got to love this post about a Chinese feast, including her confession that she was clumsy with the chopsticks (been there!).

Xi’ananigans. Marissa, an American woman from New Jersey, met her hubby ZJ while teaching English in Xi’an (she married him in China in the most brilliant red gown I’ve ever seen) and in the past year moved with him back to the States. They’re both now navigating the challenges of building a new life for themselves in the US (which has its pluses too) and I wish them the best! Don’t miss her guest post on my site all about how she met and fell in love with ZJ, or the Q&A I did for her blog.

What do you think? What blogs did I miss?

“Starting from Scratch” – a new AMWF rom-com movie about love, taxes and breakups

Starting from Scratch

Starting from Scratch

It’s not everyday you hear about a romantic comedy that deals with love, divorce and getting audited by the IRS. Or, for that matter, a movie produced by an Asian man (James Huang) and a White woman (Elizabeth Sandy) who are married and who also star in the film as the romantic leads.

Starting from Scratch is one unique rom-com. This movie dares to be honest about relationships and, in the process, offers a funny and poignant example of what happens when two people are facing a divorce and financial hardships at the same time. And for once, it tells the story — which is one that almost anyone can relate to — through an interracial couple.

Since 2013, Starting from Scratch has screened at film festivals across North America, winning awards including Best Film (DisOrient Film Festival) and Best Comedy (Asians On Film Festival). And now you can enjoy the film in the comfort of your own home, wherever you live. Starting from Scratch is available to watch online starting now for audiences in North America (USA, Canada, Mexico) and everywhere else around the world.

You can check out a trailer for the movie online or visit the official Starting from Scratch website to learn more about the film.

I’m so thrilled to introduce you to Starting from Scratch through this interview with actor and filmmaker James Huang, who wrote, directed, produced and edited the film, and also played the lead role of Jake Lew.

James Huang and Elizabeth Sandy

Starting from Scratch was inspired by a time in your life when you were broke and getting audited by the IRS while struggling with a relationship that ultimately ended. Yet this movie is a romantic comedy, which is really a twist! Why did you decide to turn this story into a romantic comedy, instead of just a drama?

The movie is a work of fiction, but all story is rooted in truth. When the IRS audited me a decade ago, you have to sort through a years worth of paperwork to account for work. You have to remember what each of these receipts and bills are and most them were memories of trying to salvage a broken relationship. I was forced to reflect on a terrible year in my life and it felt like I was being punished financially for all my mistakes and failures. It’s sobering to face your past choices by tracing how you spent money. It was the toughest and best therapy I ever had.

Six years later, I met Elizabeth, the love of my life, and I kept thinking to myself: ‘Do not mess this up! Do not make the same mistakes twice!’ I guess I started channeling my fears and wrote a story about my new marriage as if I hadn’t learned a darn thing. So the movie begins on a therapist couch before we go through the opposite and ridiculous ways that men and women deal with a broken heart. But the audit forces them to deal with each other throughout the separation.

I had a lot of funny things happen when I was miserable and trying to rebound because you get so off kilter, your behavior is always heightened, and you feel like a crazy person pretending to be normal. You try way too hard and feel too much and you’re constantly overly affected. To get through it takes swallowing your pride and over time if you are humbled, you can eventually laugh at yourself. My friends were always laughing at my embarrassing stories about a terrible rebound attempt and I guess it helped me find the humor through the pain. It was always comedy whether I felt it or not.

What was it like reliving this challenging experience in your life during the filming process with your wife, Elizabeth Sandy, whom you’re happily married to?

While the plot point of me getting audited after a messy break up is true, the film is just a funny and heart-felt tale of two dreamers who are trying really hard but are just facing in the wrong direction. It’s when the rom-com of your life ends and real life begins. I think audiences feel connected to the story and assume the movie is some sort of reenactment. But really, I think we’re reenacting everyone’s story in a way.

I miss the old romantic comedies, so I made my own with something new to share. Acting with Elizabeth in scenes about divorce was eye opening because it gave us a chance to fully imagine what it’s like to face each other under these circumstances. Then someone says ‘that’s a wrap’ and you go back to being in love all over again. As newlyweds, it was an exercise in love, hate, and ultimately – compassion. We work together every day and are very happily married.

Sadie Alexandru and James Huang

Could you share with us one of your favorite scenes from the movie and why you love that scene so much?

Without giving anything away, there is a scene where I’m telling the therapist a story about my wife’s stinky feet. Rom-coms don’t usually have a pivotal scene like this play out with subtle nuance. For me, that scene landed on each phase of script, filming, editing, and audience. It’s a rare moment of alignment where I was happy as a filmmaker and as a viewer. Oh and by the way, in real life, I’m the one with the stinky feet. That’s what I mean about fiction rooted in truth.

While Starting from Scratch is funny, it’s also incredibly honest at the same time, particularly about how people deal with relationship struggles. What do you want people to come away with after viewing the film?

Maybe just that ‘showing love’ should replace ‘spending money’ and that ‘I’m sorry’ should replace ‘I hate you.’

Starting from Scratch has been playing at a number of film festivals and other venues since 2013, and you and Elizabeth have been present at some of these screenings. Could you share how you’ve seen audiences respond to the film?

Happily, it feels like everyone, everywhere, loves the film. Most people have experienced some form of a break-up (whether it be a divorce or a teenage heartbreak) and because they’re relating to it, they’re laughing through the pain together. It’s definitely inspired people to come up to Elizabeth and me and relay their experiences in love. It feels good to have touched people and perhaps helped them gain some perspective. I think that’s why we all love watching movies; a good story makes you feel connected to one another and not feel so alone.

Where can people buy, rent or view this movie online?

I’m glad you asked! We are very excited to finally share this film with audiences around the world. We made this film for you to enjoy.

Starting from Scratch just launched worldwide through on-line streaming (rent or buy) and on DVD.

North America (USA, Canada, Mexico)http://www.filmfestivalflix.com/film/starting-from-scratch

Everywhere outside North Americahttp://www.vimeo.com/ondemand/sfsmovie

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Thanks so much to James Huang for doing this interview! And if you enjoyed it, please support Starting from Scratch by watching it online (in North America or the rest of the world) and sharing it with all your friends!

Are interracial couples of Asian men & Western women really that rare? A field report from Hong Kong

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A few years back, Fred shared his inspiring story of how he found the love of his life in Brazil. But last year, he really stirred up the conversation about interracial dating in China when he reported his experience in trying to set up his Chinese nephew with American women (to date, the post has generated 196 comments!).

Well, Fred returned to Hong Kong earlier this month and decided to do an informal “study” so to speak. Specifically, he wanted to know whether interracial couples of Asian men and Western women were really as rare as I had written before. Keep in mind that this is not a scientific sampling by any means — it was simply one person’s observations during a vacation in the city.

So what’s the verdict on interracial dating between Asian men and Western women in Hong Kong? Read on to find out! And thanks so much to Fred for filing this report! 😉

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When I first sought to date Western women over 14 years ago, I found that it was often a lonely experience because I rarely encountered couples of Asian men and Western women (hereinafter “AM/WW”). I could not consult with anyone except my full brother who himself was married to a White woman and so I had tremendous difficulties bouncing ideas between couples of my equal.

On the other hand, I saw plenty of couples of Western men and Asian women (hereinafter “WM/AW”) like my younger sister and her husband. Often times, I did not find the advice useful or applicable when I consulted with WM/AW couples.

After I chose to marry a White Brazilian woman, two primary questions still remained in my mind:

1) Why are there so many more WM/AW pairings as compared to AM/WW?
2) What are the statistics? (i.e. how many WM/AW pairings versus how many AM/WW pairings can be seen in a typical geographical area given a typical day or week?)

I found Jocelyn’s website and read On the Rarity of Foreign Women and Chinese Boyfriends/Chinese Husbands in China. I felt she did an excellent job explaining why AM/WW pairings are so rare. Among the reasons that she gave were stereotypes held by Chinese men against Western women and by Western women against Chinese men, the media (i.e. portraying Asian male as asexual and lacking masculinity), Western perceptions of the relative physical size of a certain intimate part of Chinese men that makes it unattractive to Western women, etc.

However, there are no statistics on the number of WM/AW versus AM/WW pairings. There were some statistics I read once from the Shanghai Marriage Bureau showing the number of marriages between Chinese men and foreign wives compared to Chinese women and foreign men. However, they did not account for the couples that are not married and dating but nevertheless still a couple.

Jocelyn wrote in her article that it was not uncommon to see an expat walking hand-in-hand with a Chinese (or other ethnically Asian) girl. But neither Jocelyn nor any source told me the numbers. So, I decided to investigate the matter further. In order to answer question number 2 above, I decided to take the matter into my very own hands. I was also curious to see if Jocelyn was really right when she averred that AM/WW pairings are rare. I wanted to prove or disprove her article.

If AM/WW pairings are so rare as she wrote, then how rare are they? What is the proportion of WM/AW over AM/WW pairings?

So, I decided to take the matter into my own hands and do my very own personal investigation. My White Western wife and I, along with my two children, were heading to Hong Kong between April 2, 2014 and April 12, 2014 for a brief vacation to visit my half brother and half sister and their families and to do some sightseeing. So I made it a top priority during that trip to use my very own eyes to count how many WM/AW couples we saw compared to AM/WW couples. Every day I brought a sheet of paper and a pen with me, and I drew a vertical line in the middle. On the left side of the paper I wrote the heading “WM/AW Team” and on the right side I wrote the heading  “AM/WW Team”. Then every time I saw either a WM/AW couple and/or AM/WW couple, I would mark a vertical stroke on the corresponding side of the paper. On the fifth stroke, I would mark it as a horizontal stroke. I would continue counting this way until my return to the US. This would be like a game for me; it started when I first entered the plane in the Los Angeles International Airport and would end when I returned to LAX International.

(Please note that my personal study is by no means scientific as it is not done by random sampling or any type of representative sampling method. It was purely my personal daily observation not predicated on any scientific basis whatsoever.)

My team was “AM/WW” and when I entered the airplane on April 2, 2014 en route to Hong Kong I wrote a stroke on the right side of the paper (i.e., one point for AM/WW team) as my wife and I constituted a AM/WW couple. So, our team was immediately leading the game by one point versus zero for the WM/AW team. “Hurray for us!” I said to myself filled with confidence that our numbers may not be so rare after all, contrary to what Jocelyn wrote.

Well, guess what? My team’s lead was very short lived.

No sooner after landing at the Hong Kong International Airport, the other team WM/AW immediately scored 3 points and now the score was 3 to 1. As time passed between April 2, 2014 and April 12, 2014 the score was skewed more and more in favor of the WM/AW team. In fact, when I visited my half-brother and his side of the family, I had discovered that on his side of the family his youngest of the two daughters is engaged to a White European man (Arnold) from France, and they are both living and working in Hong Kong. Furthermore, Arnold’s father, another White man from France, divorced his French wife many years ago, moved to Hong Kong, and now is dating and living with an Asian woman in Hong Kong. It seemed that the WM/AW pairings are incredibly ubiquitous, just as Jocelyn wrote. Well, all of my hopes of winning the game were dashed.

So, here is the final score from Hong Kong between April 2, 2014 to April 12, 2014:

1) AM/WW Team: 6 couples (including me and my wife)

2) WM/AW Team: 114 couples

We lost the game quite badly.

I guess Jocelyn was ultimately right when she wrote On the Rarity of Foreign Women and Chinese Boyfriends/Chinese Husbands. Couples of Asian men and Western women really are rare.

P.S.: Please note that Hong Kong is considered quite Westernized. If the AM/WW couples are so rare in Hong Kong, I can only imagine how rare they must be if we conducted this study in mainland Chinese cities such as Guangzhou, Shanghai and Beijing.

Fred practices employment law in Torrance, California.

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6 Stunning Celebrity Couples of Asian Men & Non-Asian Women

Award-winning journalist and Univision anchor Ilia Calderon, with husband Eugene Jang.
Award-winning journalist and Univision anchor Ilia Calderon, with husband Eugene Jang. (photo by Johnny Louis)

Every week, the entertainment mags churn out list after list of swoon-worthy celebrity and Hollywood couples. But these couples are almost always white…and I can’t remember the last time, if ever, that I’ve seen a single couple of Asian men and non-Asian women on their lists.

If my Pinterest board with real-life couples of Chinese men and Western women has taught me anything, it’s that the community of Asian men and non-Asian women in love is bigger than I ever expected — with plenty of beautiful faces. So it’s no surprise that our community includes some stunning celebrities and their equally stunning partners. Don’t they deserve a little love for once?

Move over, Brangelina! Here are six dazzling couples that could turn heads on the red carpet, while showing the world how lovely it is when Asian men and non-Asian women get together.

Sandra Denton and Tom Lo

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Sandra first rocked our world as “Pepa” from the rap group Salt-N-Pepa, and now she has rocked the interracial dating world by choosing to date Tom Lo (as part of her 2010 reality show Let’s Talk About Pep). Was it romance or just reality TV? Are they still a thing? I have no idea. But they sure make one handsome Blasian couple, don’t they?

Diane Farr and Seung Yong Chung

(photo by John Solano Photography)
(photo by John Solano Photography)

Who says that Asian men can’t land babelicious former MTV hosts? Seung Yong Chung (who is tall and handsome himself) snagged the lovely actress Diane Farr, best known for her roles on Numb3rs and Rescue Me (as well as a stint hosting MTV’s Loveline). Their relationship and marriage became the heart of Diane’s outstanding memoir on interracial dating, Kissing Outside the Lines.

Grant Imahara and Jennifer Newman

Grant Imahara of Mythbusters and his girlfriend Jennifer Newman
(photo via Twitter, @Jennernugen)

You know Grant from Mythbusters. Even if he’s the geekiest guy on this list (he’s one of the official operators for Star Wars’ R2-D2 and helped engineer the Energizer Bunny), he looks awesome in a tux and would make my shortlist of hottest electrical engineers any day. Put him together with his lovely blonde girlfriend Jennifer Newman (a self-proclaimed “robot girl”) and you have a couple that could turn heads almost anywhere.

Will Yun Lee and Jennifer Birmingham

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Actor Will Yun Lee (best known for his TV roles in Witchblade and Bionic Woman and on-screen roles for Die Another Day, Elektra and The Wolverine)  was named one of People’s Sexiest Men Alive in 2007. His wife Jennifer Birmingham, a Hollywood actress as well, looks like a natural on the red carpet. Together, they make one stunning AMWF (Asian Male, White Female) couple. If the Academy handed out Oscars for most gorgeous couple in the business, I’m sure these two could nab a nomination!

Julia Stegner and Steven Pan

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Could this gorgeous German supermodel and her handsome boyfriend Steven (a fashion photographer) make interracial dating between Asian men/non-Asian women a little more “en vogue”? They’ve already landed in a Vogue spread and could easily rock the magazine’s cover. The camera clearly loves them both!

Ilia Calderon and Eugene Jang

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Award-winning Colombian journalist Ilia Calderon is the striking anchor for Univision’s Noticiero Univision: Edicion Nocturna (so hot, she’s listed on the site TV anchor babes) — and also the wife of Eugene Jang, a physical therapist who is quite the looker himself. They fell in love at first sight, and look lovely together on the red carpet!

Who do you think are the most stunning couples of Asian men and non-Asian women? Who would you put on your list?

P.S.: To see more celebrity couples, visit my Pinterest board featuring celebrity couples of Chinese men and Western women.